Finding the Center Within

Thomas Bien, Beverly Bien

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"Finding the Center Within is a practical manual on the practice of mindfulness, which can help many people to embody their Buddha nature and become radiant and peaceful beings. It provides easy steps for practicing mindfulness in day-to-day living."
-Thich Nhat Hanh, author of Peace Is Every Step, The Miracle of Mindfulness, and Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames

All of us want to live a calmer, more peaceful existence. Thomas and Beverly Bien teach that if we find the center within through ongoing mindfulness, we will have the capacity to live deeply and fully-with boundless peace and happiness-in any external circumstance. We can learn to be calm in the midst of the storm.

Finding the Center Within offers a step-by-step program for breaking down the barriers that prevent us from actualizing our wise inner self. The Biens combine Eastern spiritual wisdom with the pragmatic wisdom of Western psychology, teaching us how to remove the walls that conceal who and what we really are and face our lives with greater honesty. They provide the tools needed to:
* Find a path to the center through mindfulness
* Bring meditation into everyday life
* Work with and transform negative emotions
* Cultivate healthy, healing relationships
* Use dreams to achieve maximum wholeness and self-acceptance


You'll discover how to find greater peace, joy, and love in your life and deepen your capacity for psychological and spiritual well-being. Let Finding the Center Within inspire and guide you as you make the journey to awareness and open yourself to a world of happiness.
Preface: Calm in the Storm.

Part I: The Key.

1. (Week One): Know Where You Are.

2. (Week Two): Find a Path to the Center.

Part II: The Door.

3. (Weeks Three and Four): A Gentle Approach to Meditation.

4. (Week Five): Bring Meditation into Your Life.

5. (Week Six): Look Deeply at Your Life.

Part III: The Path.

6. (Week Seven): Work with Dreams.

7. (Week Eight): Transform Negative Emotions.

8. (Week Nine): Cultivate Healthy Relationships.

9. (Week Ten): Meditate on Paper.

Part IV: Arriving Home.

10. (Week Eleven and Beyond): What Kind of Buddha Are You?

The Ten-Week Program: A Recap.

Sources and Readings.

Index.

Sujets

• Self-help
• Buddhism

Informations

• Publié par: Turner Publishing Company
• Date de parution: 27 juillet 2007
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780470240298
• Langue: English

Extrait

Finding the Center Within is a practical manual on the practice of mindfulness which can help many people to embody their Buddha nature and become radiant and peaceful beings. It provides easy steps for practicing mindfulness in day-to-day living.
-Thich Nhat Hanh, author of Peace Is Every Step, The Miracle of Mindfulness , and Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames
I like this book very much. Wise and clear. A further step in the art and science of healing.
-Stephen Levine, author of A Year to Live: How to Live This Year as if It Were Your Last
Finding the Center Within

The Healing Way of Mindfulness Meditation
Thomas Bien, Ph.D. Beverly Bien, M.Ed.

John Wiley Sons, Inc.
Copyright 2003 by Thomas Bien, Ph.D. and Beverly Bien, M.Ed. All rights reserved
Published by John Wiley Sons, Inc., Hoboken, New Jersey
Published simultaneously in Canada
The authors gratefully acknowledge the following for permission to quote from: Being Peace (1987) by Thich Nhat Hanh with permission of Parallax Press, Berkeley, California. (Extract on page 67.) Chuang Tzu: Basic Writings translated by Burton Watson. 1964 Columbia University Press. Reprinted by permission of the publisher. (Extract on page 86.) The Poems of Emily Dickinson, Thomas H. Johnson, ed., Cambridge, Mass.: The Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, Copyright 1951, 1955, 1979 by the President and Fellows of Harvard College. Reprinted by permission of the publishers and the Trustees of Amherst College. (Poem on page 39.)
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:
Bien, Thomas.
Finding the center within : the healing way of mindfulness meditation / Thomas Bien, Beverly Bien.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-471-26394-X (pbk.)
1. Meditation. I. Bien, Beverly. II. Title.
BL627.B53 2003
291.4 35-dc21
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To Thich Nhat Hanh, who shows the joy of the path.
There s a center of quietness within, which has to be known and held. If you lose that center, you are in tension and begin to fall apart.
-Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth
Contents

Preface: Calm in the Storm
Part I: The Key
1 (Week One): Know Where You Are
2 (Week Two): Find a Path to the Center
Part II: The Door
3 (Weeks Three and Four): A Gentle Approach to Meditation
4 (Week Five): Bring Meditation into Your Life
5 (Week Six): Look Deeply at Your Life
Part III: The Path
6 (Week Seven): Work with Dreams
7 (Week Eight): Transform Negative Emotions
8 (Week Nine): Cultivate Healthy Relationships
9 (Week Ten): Meditate on Paper
Part IV: Arriving Home
10 (Week Eleven and Beyond): What Kind of Buddha Are You?

The Ten-Week Program: A Recap
Sources and Readings
Index
Preface

Calm in the Storm
The Buddhist meditation teacher Dipa Ma was one of those individuals who exuded a special presence. Just to be around her was an experience of wisdom and love that was almost palpable. It had not always been that way. Married at the age of fourteen, as was the custom in India, she suffered horribly when her husband and two of her three children died suddenly. Her suffering went on for years until, wasting away, she recognized she had to do something or perish. She entered a Buddhist monastery in Burma, where she progressed quickly to deep levels of concentration and spiritual attainment. Later in life, when she had become a teacher with this extraordinary quality of presence, she was asked what was in her mind. She said simply, Concentration, lovingkindness, and peace. That is all.
Imagine being a person whose whole consciousness consists only of concentration, lovingkindness, and peace. Most of us would love to be that way. Most of us would love to be happy, loving, and peaceful individuals-people whom it was a blessing just to be around. Most of us wish we knew how to be calm, how to hold our center even in the face of the most extreme storms that life blows onto our path. This desire is the deep reason people come to churches, synagogues, and meditation centers, and it may be the unspoken wish of many who come to a therapist s office as well-simply to find the center within.
The center within is a spatial metaphor for a spiritual reality. It is that which holds us together and keeps us from falling apart. In spatial terms, you can think of it as being at the center of the chest at the heart level. Sometimes this is helpful. But the true center is everywhere. Temporally considered, the center within is a process. It s your ongoing mindfulness as you continue moment by moment to bring calm, accepting awareness to what is going on, without fighting or struggling or judging. To find the center, and hold it, is the capacity to live deeply and fully, with boundless peace and happiness, in any external circumstance. It is knowing that, since everything passes, peace cannot be found in any thing or circumstance. Peace is the center of awareness itself.
If you are wondering whether that is even truly possible for you, good. You are taking it seriously, and seriously acknowledging your hunger for the center. It may seem unimaginable to dwell in the center continually. It may seem thoroughly beyond your grasp. Yet the Buddha and other great teachers insist that it is possible. You can do it. However hidden or obscured our capacity for peace may be at times, all of us have Buddha nature; all of us share in the divine spark. And therefore it is possible for all of us to learn to be the calm one in the midst of the storm. It is possible because that is our true nature-not something that we are just trying to add artificially to who we are. To realize this true nature, however, we must learn to see things differently, removing the walls that conceal who and what we really are. When we can do that, we discover the calmness and wisdom that are already there, though obscured under layers of misunderstanding and old conditioning. We learn to find and hold the center within.
Integrating the Spiritual and the Psychological
In the pages that follow, we offer ways of breaking down the barriers that prevent us from actualizing our wise inner self. We combine spiritual wisdom-especially the Buddhist practice of mindfulness-with the pragmatic wisdom of Western psychology. When you realize that Buddhism is at heart a form of wise, ancient psychology and a practice for waking up, this combination makes perfect sense. But we also need the psychology of our own day, suited as it is for our time and place and way of life.
For spirituality to be of value in our world, it must connect with the unique problems of our times. It must deal with the problems of rush-hour traffic and complex relationships, of mortgages and telephone bills. The Zen injunction to chop wood, carry water must become, as the Zen teacher Charlotte Joko Beck has so aptly said, make love, drive freeway. Mindfulness is the energy that allows us to do this, while at the same time providing a wonderful point of contact with psychology.
The two disciplines of spirituality and psychology each offer distinctive and helpful insights and ways of change to aid us in our quest. Yet these two areas have remained largely unacquainted with each other-sometimes even hostile.
To understand why, consider Gail, who was depressed. A Protestant minister, she was embarrassed to find herself in a psychologist s office. Even though she referred people in her congregation for therapy, she somehow did not feel that she should be there herself. After all, she was a spiritual leader. She was supposed to be strong, and her faith was supposed to provide all that she needed. She felt like a bit of a failure as a person of faith to find herself in need of the help of a psychologist. But lately there had been too many days that she could barely function. And finally, she had had to admit to herself that she stood in need of the human help that therapy could offer. And so, with deep ambiv