GET REAL

Kelly Lynn Irons MSEd CPBA CPDFA

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Leaders of all kinds will benefit from the principles outlines in this book. From parents and community leaders, to hi-potential employees and corporate executives, read this book, do the work, watch the results happen!
Full of stories and applicable to parents, spouses and corporate leaders, GET REAL outlines the four pillars of high-performing relationships. With a primary focus on self, but also addressing how these pillars impact others and the teams you lead, this book walks you through a discovery of what it takes to build the kind of relationships that not only stand the test of time, and allow others to be completely themselves with you, all leading to amazing personal and professional results.
"One thing consistently becomes self-evident to leaders; so crystal clear that most now acknowledge it as a universal truth - relationships matter. Evidence that supports this truth is everywhere. Massive bodies of research telling us that relationships matter coupled with personal experience leads everyone to agree that relationships can make or break performance, engagement, careers, and even your health."

Sujets

• Self-help
• Leadership

Informations

• Publié par: Balboa Press
• Date de parution: 23 août 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798765226230
• Langue: English

Extrait

GET REAL
Transforming your Re-lationships into REAL-ationships for increased connection and impact
 
 
 
 
 
Kelly Lynn Irons, MSEd, CPBA, CPDFA
CEO of develop Us Worldwide
 
 
 

 
Copyright © 2022 Kelly Lynn Irons, MSEd, CPBA, CPDFA.
 
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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.
 
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ISBN: 979-8-7652-2621-6 (sc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-2622-3 (hc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-2623-0 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2022905001
 
Balboa Press rev. date:  08/17/2022
 
 
 
For my amazing children, Jordyn and Chase.
May you find ways to be leaders in your own lives
but more importantly, leaders of your own lives.
Being your mom will forever be my favorite leadership job.
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part I: Awareness
Chapter 1:Awareness of Self
Chapter 2:Awareness of Others
Chapter 3:Awareness of Team
Part II: Acknowledgment
Chapter 4:Acknowledgment of Self
Chapter 5:Acknowledgment of Others
Chapter 6:Acknowledgment of Team
Part III: Accountability
Chapter 7:Accountability of Self
Chapter 8:Accountability of Others
Chapter 9:Accountability of Team
Part IV: Authenticity
Chapter 10:Authenticity of Self
Chapter 11:Authenticity of Others
Chapter 12:Authenticity of Team
Conclusion: End (and Begin) Here
Chapter 13:What Now?
About the Author
References
Endnotes
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
In the words of G. B. Stern, “Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.” In thinking about the vast number of people who encouraged and supported me through this process, my heart explodes with gratitude. The number of people who have impacted my ability to write this book, contributed to the content either directly or indirectly, and encouraged me along the way evokes feelings of intense indebtedness.
Kelly DeMario, my friend and colleague, I cannot tell you what your friendship and support has meant to me over the years. Early on, you jumped in, researched, inspired, and energized me. You’ll see the influence of your work and our many conversations throughout these pages, and the final product would not be as great without your contributions.
Thank you, Rodney Scaife, former boss and mentor. You challenged me to let my voice be heard. Thank you, David P. Snyder, author of How to Mind-Read Your Customers . You and Rodney validated the simplicity of the model years before I put it to paper. Both of you listened to my early descriptions of the model as it was crystallizing in my mind and said, “Kelly, I think you got something here. This is something people can get behind – this is it. You should do this.”
Thank you, Damian Johnson. You have been a friend, coach, and supporter of this and many other endeavors. You invited me to AnaLei’s baby dedication on the day the minister challenged the congregation to bring our gifts to the world. On that day, he asked, “How many of you have a book inside you just dying to get out?” Coincidence? They say that God works in mysterious ways, so I’m not sure who to thank – you, your minister, or God – so thank you to all three for the kick in the backside I needed to get moving.
Thank you, Ayman Hamid, former colleague and amazing leader, for the impact you have had on me professionally over the years and for one particular conversation that anchored much of this body of work in my mind. You will get credit forever for the Mack truck moment that rewired my DNA in an instant. Yes, I still tell that story in every keynote and class on this topic.
And finally, to my parents. You taught me that there were two things you give your children – one is roots, and the other is wings. I am grateful to have both and to be doing everything I can to pass them on to my children. Thank you for your unwavering, never-questioning support that pulled me through the toughest times, for instilling in me the belief and the knowledge that I could do anything, and for reframing risk as standing in front of an elevator instead of jumping off a cliff. You embody the very things that are the cornerstone of this book and live them each and every day in our relationships. The roots are deep, and the wings are strong, and I have you to thank.
With much love and endless gratitude,
K-
INTRODUCTION
We’re developing a relationship here, and if you’re not interested, tell me sooner rather than later … If you come here, for however long, you’re going to unpack your suitcase. We’re going to form a bond, and you’re going to be part of this family. 1
~ Coach K
WELCOME
After working almost twenty years in the field of leadership development, I finally decided to put it all on paper. People came through the classes we offer at developUs Worldwide, the training and development firm I started in 2012 and wanted more. They approached me after keynote speeches, and asked, “Kelly, do you have a book?” “When are you going to write a book?” “Why haven’t you written a book?” So, over the past several years with the support, help, and accountability of a team of people I could not possibly give enough credit, I outlined this book and built the framework for at least two more. And then I locked myself in multiple fabulous and not so fabulous locations and wrote it all down.
That may answer the question of how this book came to be, but it doesn’t answer the “Why haven’t you written a book?” question. It also doesn’t explain why I started this project and put it down for over two years without making a single word of progress. I have scores of excuses. I was going through a divorce. And then I was a single mom raising two babies. And then the business grew exponentially and needed my attention. And then, and then, and then. Rest assured, there was progress; it was silently being organized and written in my head, but to the outside world, the book wasn’t moving forward. I finally picked up the pen and started to write because I was asked to, because I wanted to get years of stories, anecdotes, and research all in one place, and mostly because I had made a commitment to myself and eventually out loud to others that I would.
As you will learn, stating your commitments out loud has a powerful effect on your behavior and your relationships. By committing to write this book, I was also committing to identifying why I was resisting it. In the name of expanding my self-awareness and thus my self-mastery, I had to come to terms with this resistance because for sure, this resistance was preventing me from accomplishing other things. And oh, how it was.
Writing this book allowed me to practice being brave and humble, to experience success and failure, and to explore truth and transparency alongside privacy and boundaries. It provided a structured playground for me to explore the topic of relationships with a level of curiosity and scrutiny that made me a better friend, parent, partner, and leader. I hope that reading this has a similar effect on you, and I look forward to hearing your stories. Please share them. As you will learn, there is power in telling them.
Through this book, I’ll share some of my lessons, challenges, struggles, and moments of enlightenment, some born from brilliant flashes of light, and some born from dark hours that I don’t wish to repeat, but they all shaped me professionally and personally. All have made me who I am just as yours have made you who you are. And who we are today is different from who we will be tomorrow – it’s called evolution. We are constantly evolving, and if you sense into it, if you open yourself to the feedback and experiences that can teach you things, you can bear witness to your personal evolution. You’ll be a better leader, a better friend, a better spouse, a better community member, and a better listener, and you’ll be more connected to every relationship that touches your life and every relationship that you touch. It doesn’t take centuries, but it does take attention. It’s happening whether you like it or not. It happens bit by bit, opportunity by opportunity, challenge by challenge, choice by choice. So, get ready. Choose to engage with this material in a way that allows you to investigate, evaluate, and grow. You owe it to yourself and to the relationships you have with o