Grieving with Your Whole Heart

Description

This soulful companion for grief offers wisdom and creative spiritual practices from across faith traditions for walking with sorrow and honoring loss. Whether you need to grieve in words or silence, in solitude or in company with others, this compassionate guide will help you find wholeness and a renewed vision of yourself and the world.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Santé mentale & traumatisme
• Santé mentale
• Santé mentale
• Thomas Moore
• Self-help
• Spiritual

Informations

• Publié par: Turner Publishing Company
• Date de parution: 21 septembre 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781594736056
• Langue: English

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Contents
Index of Practices
Introduction: Grief—A Power of the Soul
Thomas Moore
Surrendering to the Desert
Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, Obl. OSB
Express—The Storm of Emotion
I Cry Out—You Don’t Answer
Translated by Donald Kraus
The Sacred Speech of Lament
Rev. Dr. Donna Schaper
Welcoming and Lamenting with Our Inner Witness
Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, Obl. OSB
Sound Prayer
Cait Johnson
Confucius on True Expression in Mourning
Translated and Annotated by Rodney L. Taylor, PhD
Dancing with Our Shadows
Cynthia Winton-Henry
Raging at God
Marcia Ford
Life and Death Are in Thine Hand
Annotated by Paul Wesley Chilcote, PhD
Acknowledging Large and Little Losses in Caregiving
Marty Richards, MSW, LCSW
Intimate with Suffering
Andi Young
With Me in Pain—In Times of Anguish
William Cleary
Mourning the Loss of Physical Well-Being
Dr. Nancy Copeland-Payton
Tagore on Beauty and Tragedy
Annotated by Swami Adiswarananda
Becoming Whole
Rev. Timothy J. Mooney
Not All Tears Are Equal
Imam Jamal Rahman
Breathe—Finding a Still Point
Give Ear to My Prayer
M. Basil Pennington, OCSO
Still Life—Stepping Back
Linda Novick
The Healing Art of Living in the Present
Imam Jamal Rahman
The Heart of a Moment
Margaret D. McGee
From Deserts of Loneliness to Gardens of Solitude
Rev. Jane E. Vennard
The Chant of the Heart
Ana Hernández
Waiting for Light
Karyn D. Kedar
Heart-Centered Prayer
Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, Obl. OSB
Listening for a Still Point
Kay Lindahl
Running as Sanctuary
Dr. Warren A. Kay
The Grace of the Present Moment
Rami Shapiro
Living Awake to What Is
Kent Ira Groff
Remember—Keeping a Connection
The Circle of Life
Michael J. Caduto
Joy in the Memories
Margaret D. McGee
Seeing God in Memories and Lasting Love
Carolyn Jane Bohler
The Gifts of Blessing Another
Rabbi Elie Kaplan Spitz
Keeping a Soul Connection as Your Loved One’s Mind Fails
Marty Richards, MSW, LCSW
Childhood Losses
Caren Goldman
Honoring Memories
Linda Douty
Fragments of Life
Louise Silk
A Pilgrimage for Brokenness
Terry Taylor
Partingway Blessing for a Pet
Lynn L. Caruso
Walking a Labyrinth for Healing and Connection
Rev. Dr. Carole Ann Camp
Heal—Reaching Out for Comfort and Strength
Tending Your Grief-Seeds
Diane M. Millis, PhD
Grieving with Water
Cait Johnson
The Well of Sadness
Molly Srode
Valley Journeys
Dr. Nancy Copeland-Payton
Prayer for Trust and Healing
Peter Bankson and Deborah Sokolove
Recognizing and Honoring Grief after Divorce
Rev. Carolyne Call
The Gift of Tears
Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, Obl. OSB
Reclaiming Riches from the Past When You Retire
Marjory Zoet Bankson
Dreaming as a Means of Spiritual Healing
Lori Joan Swick, PhD
Your Unfolding Forces—In Times of Disappointment
William Cleary
No Holding Back
Jan Phillips
Finding Healing and New Perspectives Through Prayer
Monica Furlong
This Season of Life
Nancy L. Bieber
Rewriting Disturbing Messages
Jim Sharon, EdD, and Ruth Sharon, MS
What Would Happen If We Laughed?
Rev. Susan Sparks
The Wellspring of Life
Nancy Barrett Chickerneo, PhD
Change for the Sake of Transformation
Karyn D. Kedar
Reorient—Finding Yourself in an Upside-Down World
Hope in Spite of Uncertainty
Marica Ford
Cherish Each Day
Translated and Annotated by Rami Shapiro
Accepting the Life That Awaits You
Rev. Jane E. Vennard
Discovering God in the Midst of Evil
Tom Stella
Why? Perennial Wisdom on a Perennial Question
Rami Shapiro
Losing Security, Beliefs, Identity
Dr. Nancy Copeland-Payton
Losses in Life—When Saddened by Failure
William Cleary
Cultivating the Strength to See Good
Dannel I. Schwartz
Opening Our Hearts to Change
Nancy L. Bieber
Finding Your Focal Point Through Scrapbooking
Cory Richardson-Lauve
The Yoga of Courage
Edith R. Brotman, PhD, RYT-500
Walk Together—Grieving with Others
Praying Together to the God of Hope
Annotated by The Rev. Canon C. K. Robertson, PhD
Anniversaries and Holidays after a Disaster
Imam Yusuf Hasan, BCC, and Rev. George Handzo, BCC
Interfaith Prayers for Grieving and Healing
Rev. Steven Greenebaum
Receptivity, Presence, and Hospitality with Family
Rev. Nanette Sawyer
Speaking Love and Healing
Jay Marshall, PhD
Listening to Your Life
Diane M. Millis, PhD
A Touch on Her Head
Rev. Martha Spong
Being a Healing Presence
Ron Miller
Coping with Grief as a Caregiver
Marty Richards, MSW, LCSW
Leaving a Legacy of Love
Rabbi Jack Riemer and Dr. Nathaniel Stampfer
Into a Larger Existence
Rabindranath Tagore
The Dharma of Dying
Gordon Peerman
A Healing Good-bye
Rabbi Elie Kaplan Spitz
Don’t Waste Your Sorrows
Linda Douty
Credits
Notes
Copyright
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Index of Practices
Beginning to Let Go
Bereavement Bouquet
Bowing as a Spiritual Practice
Clearing the Air
Commemorating Separations
Courage on the Mat
Crazy Quilt Table Runner
A Daily Prayer of Reflection and Examen
Discerning the Power of Place
Explorations in Courage for Mat, Journal, and Life
Exploring Your Experiences of Loneliness
Falling Apart: A Walk for Times of Difficulty
Finding Balance
Finding Your Child Self in Nature
The Five Remembrances
A Focusing Experience on the Scrapbook Page
Grounding Yourself in the Present Moment
Healing Light Visualization
Heartbeat Meditation and Chant
Heart-Centered Prayer
Herbal Memorial: Lustral Water
Keeping Perspective
Lectio Divina : Praying with the Senses and with Sorrow
Limitations and Freedoms
Living Grace Through Sabbath Keeping
Loss of Well-Being
Making a Pilgrimage
Making Your Own Running Ritual
Mantras for Courage
Masked Dances
Meditative Thanks with Your Body
No-No! Dances
Now and Then Haiku
Observing the Breath Through Anapanasati
Offering Healing
Painting a Still Life Using Pastels
Placing Your Grief in Water’s Arms
Receiving and Giving a Blessing
Reflecting on Our Story
Releasing Fear
Reuniting with a Childhood Friend
Rewriting Disturbing Messages
Sacred Dreamself Mapping
Share a Visit to Freedom
Sound Prayer
Steppingstones on the Journey
Strength and Grace: Exercises for the Soul
Throw a Fit
Walking to Grieve the Death of a Loved One
What Do You Want Me to Do for You?
Writing an Ethical Will



Introduction
Grief—A Power of the Soul
Thomas Moore is the beloved and inspiring author of Care of the Soul and twenty other books on spirituality, depth psychology and the soul. He has a PhD in religious studies from Syracuse University and is a former monk and psychotherapist. He lectures in many countries and continues to write about religion and the life of the soul. He writes fiction and music when he is at home, making use of his background in classical music. He lives in New England with his wife, Hari Kirin, painter and yoga trainer, and his daughter, Ajeet, who writes and performs music.
Though painful and unwanted, grief has unexpected creative and transformative power. It is not just an emotional response to loss but a deep unsettling of the soul. In grief you realize that you can’t go on as before, and some of the pain comes from losing familiar sources of meaning. You have to reinvent life, imagine it differently. At the same time grief ties you to the past. Because of grief your life remains whole, even when events seem to tear it apart. Grief won’t let you forget what life has been like.
As an expression of the soul, grief also has its own purposes and timing. The pain may be so strong that you don’t notice that grief has a positive impact. You just want it to end, and you may have expectations about how long it should last. But grief does its own thing, hanging around until its work is done, and sometimes its work never ends. Real grief rarely goes away. It may seem to have been absorbed by time, and then unexpectedly one day it makes another appearance.
To do its work on you, grief has to be accepted, refined, and absorbed. Let me explain each of those phases, because each one is essential.
First, you allow yourself to feel the grief as purely as possible—no excuses, no qualifications, no evasions. You speak for it directly, letting people know the depth of your emotion. If you’re embarrassed by it or think that you’re above it, you have to ease up on your defenses and let the grief simply be.
Second, over time you can refine