Love What Hurts

Lisha Song Intuitive Trauma Therapist

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Similar to Tara Brach's (italicize) Radical Compassion, (italicize) Love What Hurts teaches you how to befriend painful emotions, so you may live from an authentic, intuitive presence.
If you are stuck in a cycle of negative beliefs and emotions, and you want to know how to live from a more authentic, intuitive presence, Love What Hurts will teach you how. In this book, intuitive trauma therapist and teacher Lisha Song, shows you how to gently befriend the wounded parts of self through the wisdom of the body and with the energy of curious compassion. From her own healing experiences, she changed the way she worked with clients to be more holistic and comprehensive, which includes the wisdom of the pain body and the inner intuitive voice we each possess. Lisha outlines the steps to the Clearing Exercise (ch. 7), which helps readers easily approach the origin of painful emotions that keep them from being wholly present in their lives and relationships. After the impact of these blocking beliefs and emotions are neutralized, Lisha shows you how to access, trust, and follow that Divine voice. Lisha takes you on a journey toward an easier, more empowered way to live and relate with others. A journey toward inner freedom and peace.

Sujets

• Love
• Love (disambiguation)
• Self-help

Informations

• Publié par: Balboa Press
• Date de parution: 09 avril 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798765239148
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Love What Hurts
A GUIDE FOR HEALING EMOTIONAL WOUNDS AND FOLLOWING YOUR INTUITION
LISHA SONG, INTUITIVE TRAUMA THERAPIST


Copyright © 2023 Lisha Song, Intuitive Trauma Therapist.
 
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This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.
 
 
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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, which is your constitutional right, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions.
 
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Interior Image Credit: Masaru Emoto
 
 
ISBN: 979-8-7652-3913-1 (sc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-3915-5 (hc)
ISBN: 979-8-7652-3914-8 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2023902877
 
Balboa Press rev. date: 04/06/2023
Contents
Introduction: Why Did I Write This Book?
PART ONE
Healing Your Emotional Wounds With The Clearing Exercise
1 Following Intuition and the Wisdom of the Body: A Personal Story
2 The Body Tells the Truth
3 Crazy Little Thing Called Love
4 The Power of Imagination and Visualization
5 Our Ever-Sophisticated Nervous System
6 Mom Is in My Right Foot
7 The Clearing Exercise
Steps for the Clearing Exercise
Containment and Calm Place Protocol
What to Do if the Adult Part of You Is Struggling to Feel Compassion for the Younger Part of You
Bringing the Younger, Wounded Part into Your Present Reality
PART TWO
Following Your Intuitive Guidance
8 That Still, Small Voice
9 Three Types of Intuition
10 Our Triune Mind
11 Free Will and the Power of Choice
12 The Problem with Positive Affirmations
13 Vulnerability Is Essential (But So Is Protecting Yourself)
The Roomba Exercise
Cutting Cords
Release Your Burden and Give Thanks Exercise
Gratitude Prayer To Our Ancestors
14 Following Intuition Is a Courageous Practice
15 Following Intuition Is a Mindful Practice (So It’s Good for You, Too)
16 Following Intuition Is a Spiritual Practice
 
Final Notes
How to Find a Qualified Trauma Therapist
Bibliography
Gratitudes

“Healing begins where the wound was made.”
Alice Walker
Introduction: Why Did I Write This Book?
Over the last thirty-plus years as a client and a therapist, I have realized that one hour a week with a therapist, although relatively effective, is still not enough for folks to feel empowered by the organic healing system of their own bodies, psyches, and souls, all interconnected and necessary players in the human evolutionary process. This interconnectedness helps us get to the root of our emotional and, at times, physical pain. More importantly, the root of our pain is also the salve for our pain. Yes, you read that correctly. The root of our pain and trauma is also the healing ointment for our pain.
Our pain shows us the path to healing. I know this goes against conventional conditioning. We are conditioned to ignore or numb the pain with an external source. The external source can be prayer, medication, vitamins, supplements, surgeries, alcohol, drugs, food, sex—you name it. Anything sounds better than acknowledging and facing our pain head on. Because it means we have to actually feel the pain, which is what we’re all avoiding. However, our wounds are waiting for us to wake up to their existence, so we can see with clarity, the life we are living—this path that has become so burdensome, inflamed, and stuck. When we are awake, addressing our pain and dysfunction, it becomes easier to step into our core values and direction for our lives. It becomes easier to evolve. Through my experience as a trauma survivor and trauma therapist, I have seen the need for people to have self-empowering tools between therapy sessions to aid them in the journey of moving forward with healing and meaningful resolution. These are the tools I will teach you, dear reader, so your healing journey can be more comprehensive, interconnected with all your parts, and most of all, loving.
Probably like you, I have read many spiritual books that talk about the importance of loving oneself, living a purposeful life, and the importance of forgiveness, but most of these books do not prescribe the “how to”—How do I love myself if I don’t know what loving myself even feels or looks like? How can I love myself when disgust and anger are all I can feel about myself? How do I forgive those who have betrayed or abused me and what does forgiveness even mean? There are so many career options for me. How do I know which is the best choice for me? And what if I make the wrong choice? Most of us already know what we need to do, but how to do it is where we get stuck. I grew up in a church that emphasized the mantra “let go and let God.” But I wasn’t clear on what that meant or how to do it. And when I asked, I was told “just pray to God and let him take control.” Again, what does letting God take control mean? This felt too passive, too abstract to me. So, I can just pray to God and then sit back and do nothing? Sweet! But how will my bills get paid?
I do remember a little story told in church about what it means to “let go-let God.” It goes something like this: A small town had been flooded and a man had climbed onto the roof of his house to stay above the waters. He was praying to God, “Please help me, please rescue me, Lord!” A couple in a boat came by and offered the man to come onto the little boat, but the man responded, “No thanks. I’m waiting for the Lord to rescue me.” Later a man in a helicopter flew overhead and offered to help the man from his roof. The man replied, “No, thank you. I’m waiting for the Lord to rescue me.” After the man drowned and went to heaven, he asked the Lord, “Why didn’t you rescue me from the flood?” The Lord replied, “Son, I did try to rescue you. I sent that couple in the boat and the man in the helicopter, but you rejected both offerings of help.” I interpret the message from this parable is to be aware and awake and ready to receive the Divine’s help or we will miss the boat—literally!
Today, I have a better understanding of what “let go and let God” means, and it’s actually not passive at all. It means you can pray or meditate about your struggles, but that’s not the end of the road. You pray because you’re acknowledging that the road of life needs extra support, guidance, and inspiration. You pray or meditate and then you wait with awareness and a listener’s ear. You pay attention to what the inner divine voice is trying to tell you. That’s where God resides. Within you, as you. You pay attention to the signs and symbols you come across, which may lead you down the path of what you need to do next. You pay attention to how your body is experiencing these struggles and listen to its wisdom. The divine voice within speaks with love, not fear. All of this requires quiet time, and quiet time is usually something we’re all trying to avoid because it’s in the quiet where our monsters reside. It’s there in the quiet where our pain and trauma have set up camp. Many spiritual leaders don’t acknowledge and address their own demons because, like everyone else, they fear judgment and rejection. So, they hide their monsters behind the veil of faux spirituality and charisma. They “pray their problems away,” and if you want to be free of your monsters, you can pray them away, too. If you have enough faith, your prayers will be answered, and you will be set free. If you behave well and do good in this world, God will reward you. These are the messages I grew up hearing and I never felt empowered by them. I never felt inspired by them. And they definitely didn’t generate any trust in God for me. If anything, these messages drove the dagger of self-doubt and hate deeper into my being. Another way to define this type of behavior is called spiritual bypassing . A belief that we can bypass our pain by becoming more spiritual, praying more, saying our positive affirmations, or meditating more. If you become a better person, God will grant you freedom and peace.
Some deny that their monsters a ctually exist by hiding behind positive affirmations, which is what a lot of “pop-psychology/faux-manifestation/new age” books encourage. There's nothing particularly wrong with this approach, except that it doesn