Summary of Jeffrey E. Young, Janet S. Klosko & Aaron T. Beck's Reinventing Your Life

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 A lifetrap is a pattern that starts in childhood and continues into adulthood. It is a result of something that was done to us by our families or by other children. We are mistreated, ignored, or controlled in some way, and we fail to reach our desired goals.
#2 Jed is a perfect example of the self-destructive nature of lifetraps. He is unable to connect with women, and instead tries to conquer them. The point at which he loses interest is the point at which he has „won.
#3 Heather’s anxiety was caused by her parents’ overprotectiveness. She was not able to experience life to its fullest because she was always afraid of something bad happening.
#4 The repetition compulsion is the term used to describe the fact that we keep repeating the pain of our childhood in self-defeating ways as adults. These lifetraps are called schemas.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Confiance en soi et estime de soi
• Confiance en soi
• Confiance
• Self-esteem
• Personal development

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 08 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9781669350866
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Jeffrey E. Young and Janet S. Klosko & Aaron T. Beck's Reinventing Your Life
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9 Insights from Chapter 10 Insights from Chapter 11 Insights from Chapter 12 Insights from Chapter 13 Insights from Chapter 14 Insights from Chapter 15 Insights from Chapter 16 Insights from Chapter 17 Insights from Chapter 18
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

A lifetrap is a pattern that starts in childhood and continues into adulthood. It is a result of something that was done to us by our families or by other children. We are mistreated, ignored, or controlled in some way, and we fail to reach our desired goals.

#2

Jed is a perfect example of the self-destructive nature of lifetraps. He is unable to connect with women, and instead tries to conquer them. The point at which he loses interest is the point at which he has „won.

#3

Heather’s anxiety was caused by her parents’ overprotectiveness. She was not able to experience life to its fullest because she was always afraid of something bad happening.

#4

The repetition compulsion is the term used to describe the fact that we keep repeating the pain of our childhood in self-defeating ways as adults. These lifetraps are called schemas.

#5

Patrick, like many men, had fallen in love with a woman who reinforced his lifetrap. After a year and a half of lifetrap therapy, he decided to end his marriage to Francine. He did not fall apart, but became calmer and more self-confident.

#6

The lifetrap approach helps you identify which relationships are healthy for you to pursue and which are not. It is not easy to make these decisions, but they are necessary if you want to escape a rut for good.

#7

Carlton is a people-pleaser who tries to please everyone. But despite his efforts, others often feel irritated with him. He is so self-sacrificing. His wife is angry that he has no backbone. His children take advantage of his permissiveness and are eventually annoyed by it.

#8

The lifetrap approach is a way to help you break free from old habits and behaviors. It involves structured behavioral homework assignments and continual confrontation to help you maintain progress.

#9

Cognitive therapy is an approach developed by Dr. Aaron Beck that helps people with emotional problems control their thoughts and emotions. It is a combination of cognitive and behavioral techniques that teaches patients practical skills they may never have learned.

#10

Until she went to college, Madeline avoided men. She would not date or have a boyfriend, and she slept with more than thirty men during her first two years of college. She felt cheap and dirty, and she felt used.

#11

The Mistrust and Abuse lifetrap is a difficult one to change. It takes time and the help of a therapist to change it. But it is important to remember that many lifetraps, such as the Mistrust and Abuse lifetrap, take a long time to change.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

To determine your personal truth, rate how true the statement is of you as a child. If your answer would be different for various times in your childhood, choose the rating that best fits the way you felt in general up until the age of twelve. Then, rate how true each item is of you now, as an adult.

#2

The Abandonment lifetrap is made up of questions 1 and 2. Question 1 is about your childhood score, and question 2 is about your current score. Transfer your highest childhood score to box 1, and your highest current score to box 2. Then, based on these two scores, fill in the last box on the row labeled Abandonment.

#3

The eleven lifetraps are: 1. The Adventurer, who is constantly searching for thrills and excitement. 2. The Achiever, who strives to make the world a better place. 3. The Challenger, who is not afraid to take risks. 4. The Creator, who creates things of beauty. 5. 6. The Connector, who finds ways to bring people together. 7.

#4

The Mistrust and Abuse lifetrap is the expectation that people will hurt or abuse you in some way. If you have this lifetrap, you hide behind a wall of mistrust to protect yourself. You never let people get too close.

#5

If you have Vulnerability, you live in fear that disaster is about to strike—whether natural, criminal, medical, or financial. You do not feel safe in the world. If you were made to feel that the world is a dangerous place as a child, you may have Emotional Deprivation or Social Exclusion.

#6

Emotional deprivation is the belief that your need for love will never be met adequately by other people. You feel that no one truly cares for you or understands how you feel. You find yourself attracted to cold and ungiving people, or you are cold and ungiving yourself, leading to unsatisfying relationships.

#7

Social Exclusion involves your connection to friends and groups. It has to do with feeling isolated from the rest of the world, with feeling different. If you have this lifetrap, as a child you felt excluded by peers. You did not belong to a group of friends.

#8

Failure is the belief that you are inadequate in areas of achievement, such as school, work, and sports. You believe you have failed relative to your peers. As a child, you were made to feel inferior in terms of achievement.

#9

With Subjugation, you sacrifice your own needs and desires for the sake of pleasing others or meeting their needs. You allow others to control you. You do this out of guilt or fear that you will be punished or abandoned if you disobey.

#10

If you are in the Unrelenting Standards lifetrap, you strive relentlessly to meet extremely high expectations of yourself. You place excessive emphasis on status, money, achievement, beauty, order, or recognition at the expense of happiness, pleasure, health, a sense of accomplishment, and satisfying relationships.

#11

The final lifetrap, Entitlement, is associated with the ability to accept realistic limits in life. People who have this lifetrap feel special. They insist that they be able to do, say, or have whatever they want immediately.
Insights from Chapter 3

#1

A lifetrap is a pattern or theme that starts in childhood and repeats throughout life. The theme might be Emotional Deprivation or Abandonment, and the end result is that, as adults, we manage to recreate the conditions of our childhood that were most harmful to us.

#2

Our temperament is the combination of our locations on all of these dimensions, and others we do not yet know of or understand. Heredity and environment shape and influence us. The most important early influence in our environment is our family.

#3

Our temperament is partly responsible for the lifetraps we end up in. It is the combination of our heredity and environment that determines how we react to those traumas.

#4

The most dangerous lifetraps to fall into are those that were experienced during childhood. These involve a child’s treatment by his or her own family, and the threat of abuse or abandonment comes from those who are most intimate.

#5

There are two types of connection to others. The first involves intimacy, and is usually found in family, lovers, and very good friends.