Summary of Peter Boghossian & James A. Lindsay's How to Have Impossible Conversations

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Even if you strongly disagree with someone, you should still be able to have a conversation with them. This is extremely difficult in our current climate, but it is not impossible.
#2 Impossibility of a conversation doesn’t mean that someone is unwilling to speak with you. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have a conversation at all. It simply means that the conversation might feel futile because it takes place across a gulf of disagreement in ideas, beliefs, morals, politics, or worldviews.
#3 The most effective way to change someone’s mind is through conversation. This is because conversation is a process done with someone, and it can be a gentle and effective intervention on their beliefs.
#4 Having productive conversations with people who hold radically different views is becoming increasingly important in a highly polarizing world. Learn how to have these conversations and more in this book.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Relations interpersonnelles
• Relation interpersonnelle

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 08 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669351313
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Peter Boghossian & James A. Lindsay's How to Have Impossible Conversations
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Even if you strongly disagree with someone, you should still be able to have a conversation with them. This is extremely difficult in our current climate, but it is not impossible.

#2

Impossibility of a conversation doesn’t mean that someone is unwilling to speak with you. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have a conversation at all. It simply means that the conversation might feel futile because it takes place across a gulf of disagreement in ideas, beliefs, morals, politics, or worldviews.

#3

The most effective way to change someone’s mind is through conversation. This is because conversation is a process done with someone, and it can be a gentle and effective intervention on their beliefs.

#4

Having productive conversations with people who hold radically different views is becoming increasingly important in a highly polarizing world. Learn how to have these conversations and more in this book.

#5

There is a resurgence of interest in effective, across-the-aisle dialogue. People are tired of not being able to discuss controversial subjects, and they want to be able to talk about them without having to worry about getting attacked.
Insights from Chapter 2

#1

The seven fundamentals of good conversations are: identifying your goals, forming partnerships with the other person, developing rapport, listening to the other person, shooting your messenger, keeping in mind the other person’s intentions, and knowing when to end the conversation gracefully.

#2

When you enter into a conversation, you must first identify your conversational goals. These include any of the following: reaching mutual understanding, learning from each other, finding truth, intervening, or yielding to coercion.

#3

During the 1970s, Peter’s mentor, Portland State University psychology professor Dr. Frank Wesley, investigated why some US prisoners of war defected to North Korea during the Korean War. His research showed that virtually all of the defectors came from a single US training camp.

#4

The way to change minds, influence people, build relationships, and maintain friendships is through kindness, compassion, empathy, and treating others with dignity and respect. It is easy to dislike someone who is mean-spirited, treats you poorly, doesn’t listen, or disrespects you.

#5

You can switch from viewing people as opponents, moral degenerates, or even enemies to valued partners and collaborators by shifting your goal from winning to understanding. You must be the one who initially attempts to understand your conversation partner’s reasoning.

#6

When you want to collaborate with someone, make your goals of collaboration and understanding explicit. When you want to understand someone, give them room to decline the conversational invitation, not answer your questions, or end the conversation at any time.

#7

Rapport is the most important element in having simple, friendly conversations that avoid divisive issues and bring people together. It is the magic of friendliness that facilitates this. If you view conversations as partnerships, building and maintaining rapport becomes much easier.

#8

There are many things you and your conversation partner might have in common. Do not rush through conversations and do not call out people on moral grounds if they make you uncomfortable. That is not how to build bridges across divides.

#9

It is important to be courteous. Say please and thank you. It is also important to say I appreciate that after someone offers a counterargument or disagrees with something you’ve said.

#10

Listening is more difficult than it seems, so it requires practice.