Summary of Rosalie Puiman's The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 The first part of The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution focuses on why difficult conversations are so difficult. People often focus on themselves or on the other person, but neither of those approaches is ultimately successful. You will learn how to connect with both yourself and the other party.
#2 The chapter focuses on how to bring a mindful approach to handling difficult conversations and conflicts. These difficult conversations scare you, challenge you, and you try to avoid them. But with mindfulness, you can approach them more productively and constructively.
#3 Mindfulness is a way of living in the present moment that is based on ancient Buddhist teachings. It helps you focus on finding a positive way forward instead of getting bogged down in all the other noise in your head that’s leading you in unhelpful directions.
#4 The term other person is used to describe what you otherwise might call your opponent. The word opponent sounds overly harsh and implies you are on opposing ends of a situation. This is not always the case, however, and mindfulness recognizes this.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Développement personnel
• développement personnel
• Success
• Self-help
• Personal Growth

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 12 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822507272
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Rosalie Puiman's The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The first part of The Mindful Guide to Conflict Resolution focuses on why difficult conversations are so difficult. People often focus on themselves or on the other person, but neither of those approaches is ultimately successful. You will learn how to connect with both yourself and the other party.

#2

The chapter focuses on how to bring a mindful approach to handling difficult conversations and conflicts. These difficult conversations scare you, challenge you, and you try to avoid them. But with mindfulness, you can approach them more productively and constructively.

#3

Mindfulness is a way of living in the present moment that is based on ancient Buddhist teachings. It helps you focus on finding a positive way forward instead of getting bogged down in all the other noise in your head that’s leading you in unhelpful directions.

#4

The term other person is used to describe what you otherwise might call your opponent. The word opponent sounds overly harsh and implies you are on opposing ends of a situation. This is not always the case, however, and mindfulness recognizes this.

#5

When you enter difficult conversations in a mindful way, you begin to see how much good can come out of them. When you think of conflict in a non-mindful way, however, you may focus only on negative possibilities and aspects of such conversations, such as fear, minimization, and stubbornness.

#6

Engaging in a difficult conversation is the most direct way to address a conflict, and the most important step in resolving it. It is important to express your thoughts and feelings, even if you are not used to doing so.

#7

A very important opportunity in difficult conversations is to deepen the relationship you have with the other person or people involved. Telling others what you want, believe, and feel is a very openhearted thing to do, and it can be done without damaging the relationship you have with them.

#8

When you use the mindful speaking approach, you will disclose honest opinions and perspectives. In your personal life, expressing how you truly feel about something insensitive a family member said can help you and the other party learn more about each other.

#9

Having difficult conversations can help you and others in many different ways. For example, the conversation might allow the other person to speak their truth, feel appreciated, and be seen or heard.

#10

When you approach a disagreement from a mindful perspective, keep the conversation positive, and focus on what’s happening in the present moment, solutions often arise that fit everyone’s needs.

#11

A general rule for setting a constructive intention is to base it on curiosity or the aim for collective success. Examples of positive and constructive intentions for mindful conflict resolution are: I want to gain a better understanding of the other person’s perspective. I want to share my vision on this topic.

#12

Your intention has a huge impact on what will happen in the conversation because the purpose behind the things you do and say affects which words you use and how and why you use them. If your cues are in alignment with the actual words you speak, this leads to congruence, which signals to the other person that you can be trusted.

#13

You cannot control what the other person does, so don’t waste your time waiting for them to do the right thing. Only you can be a sure way to the right mindset, intention, and attitude being present.

#14

When it comes to difficult conversations, being told you are right will not equal success. In fact, it may just signal passive aggressiveness, since most difficult conversations cannot be resolved so easily.

#15

The culture we live in today is one where winning versus losing is a common way of thinking about our interactions with others. This mindset may help you get the last seat on the train, but it may also keep you from finding a positive way forward.

#16

Mindfully approaching your difficult conversation is the kinder thing to do, but the truth is that it is also the quickest way to find a solution that respects both sides’ needs.

#17

If you are able to accept from the start that both of you have a good case for why you behaved the way you did, or believe what you believe, then you can get past winning or losing and start the search for what will really help you move forward.

#18

When you choose a mindful approach, success can have many faces. When you are able to deliver bad news gently and kindly, handle the emotions that the other person is projecting, and explain the reasons why, you have achieved success.

#19

When you shift your focus from success to the other person’s perspective, you are more likely to achieve a mutual agreement about the best way forward. If you allow yourself to take in the other person’s perspective in a nonjudgmental way, and speak your truth in a sincere and open manner, there may be unexpected outcomes.

#20

You can still take ownership of a conversation that deals with an issue you cannot change, by deciding how you will handle the news, how you will feel about yourself after the conversation, and how your relationship with the other person will be affected by it.

#21

To be able to engage in conflict resolution in a mindful manner, you must first change your attitude towards it. The key attitudes that create mindful awareness are nonjudgment, acceptance, beginner’s mind, trust, patience, and gratitude and generosity.

#22

In mindful conflict management, you will find and appreciate the connections all people share. You will learn how to make this important shift in perspective, which will help you connect with people in a different way than you are used to.

#23

When all the information is on the table, people will try to solve the conflict by first finding what is truest for most people. They will think that gathering more information will eventually lead to complete and clear information, which in turn will lead to clear solutions.

#24

In difficult conversations, the solution may not lie in the facts or each person's story. Focusing on content may get you to an objective solution, but in a difficult situation, that will not satisfy everyone involved.

#25

It is important to be able to handle difficult situations, and to do so, it is necessary to move beyond the contents of the discussion and connect as humans.

#26

Those who focus on their own world are primarily in tune with how they feel about things. They trust and value their own opinion, and they can articulate what they need and want in challenging situations. When others offer them their perspective, they focus specifically on where that perspective differs from or complements their own view, and they focus their response on how that makes them feel or what they want next.

#27

Some people are primarily focused on what others need to feel good. They are well attuned to other people’s energy, and when they are in a conversation with someone else, they try to listen deeply to what the other person wants and hear more than is actually being said.