The Guide to Dating for the Mature Woman Using the Dating Sites

Dr. Ferris E. Merhish, Mary Merhish

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A book to help look for the right man in the right moment and right place.

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• Publié par: AuthorHouse
• Date de parution: 04 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 3
• EAN13: 9781665553926
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

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THE GUIDE TO DATING FOR THE MATURE WOMAN USING THE DATING SITES
 
(HOW I GOT MY MAN)
 
 
 
 
DR. FERRIS E. MERHISH AND MARY MERHISH
 
 

 
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© 2022 Dr. Ferris E. Merhish and Mary Merhish. All rights reserved.
 
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Published by AuthorHouse  03/04/2022
 
ISBN: 978-1-6655-5393-3 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-6655-5391-9 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-6655-5392-6 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2022904230
 
 
 
 
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I am dedicating this book to my wives and the relationships I had with them. I lost my first wife after being in a relationship with her for over twenty-eight years, and finally we broke up after about thirty years. Now, for most of the time, I believed that we had a good relationship, but things started to go south around the twenty-seventh year. I lost my second wife three and a half years ago to two cancers; we seemed to beat breast cancer, but liver cancer took her. We were together for nearly twenty-three years, and she came to me because of a long and unforeseen breakup with my first wife. I have to say she was a very surprising blessing, and not only did she bring love to my heart and romance back into my like, but she was truly instrumental in helping me recover from a difficult situation, an economic person disaster because of the separation and divorce from my first wife, and untimely the collapse my career. With her help, I was able to recover and more.
I must say I am very grateful for finding my current fiancée. I met her during the research and writing of this book. Not only has she been an inspiration, but she helps me recover from my depression from my loss. She is hardworking, independent, fair, loving, and supporting. She has helped me with my fourth book about dating issues and ideas, which I did for men, as well as this one for women. She has offered some of her perspectives from the women’s point of view. I hope you will find this valuable as you pursue that special person.
CONTENTS
Introduction
 
The Sites and Getting Started
The Dating Site Photo
My Prince Charming
Questions You May Want to Ask While Determining Whether You Want to Meet a Dating Candidate
Using the Internet and the Computer to Develop a Relationship
Just What Are Guys Looking For?
Some Tips for Older Women
Key to His Heart
What Do Older Men Want from Women in Bed?
Tips for Younger Woman Who Would Like to Date Older Men
Weird Stories—True, but Not the Date You Are Looking For!
Staying Safe Online
As a Younger Woman, Why Would I Want to Date an Older Man?
So Just What Are You Looking for—a Younger Guy, a Gigolo, or a Caring Gentleman?
So You Would Like to Date Younger Men
Let’s Try This on for Size and See How It Fits!
Don’t Be Impressed by the Veneer
Here Are Some Tips on Dating for You by Guys!
What You Will Find Here Are Things to Help a Woman Find a Great Husband
Some Safety Tips When You Are on a First Date
Now How Do You Tell if You Have a Good Man?
The Threat Is Real
Here Are Some Things Women Do to Protect Themselves
Things You Can Do on a Date
LGBTQ Dating
Let’s Talk about Tax Issues
Reasons Why Relationships Break Up
In a Relationship, There Are Things That You Should Never Have to Feel
Let’s Review Some Points to Remember
Moving in Together
The Most Hectic Day of Your Life
 
The Author
INTRODUCTION
We find ourselves using dating sites for many reasons, and we need to agree that in many ways, we are in the same boat. I am going to share with you my experiences and views, looking at them from the perspective of a man, and not just my own perspective. I have also talked to other men. I believe this is going to be a benefit to you, because I am going to try to give you information that you can use, based on not being filtered by a woman. If you think we think differently, you may have a shoe up on other gals (and of course many men). I must admit here that the work I am doing in both these books will not always sit well with you gals sometimes, but for the gentleman who I hope buys this book, I hope we are close. But you can know my swing here as you use the book as a guide to find that new special person, be it a friend or a significant other.
We each have our reasons for turning to something that might give us some guidance and solve one of our life’s problems. For me, it was overwhelming. I am sure a great many of you can understand and identify with my needs, wants, and losses. We are all flesh and blood. When we hurt, we cry in pain; if we get cut, we bleed. When we lose someone, we deeply love. Don’t we hurt with deep pain to the bottom of our souls? Well, I lost my second wife, and I had deep love for her during and after battle with two cancers. I recently told her daughter that when we met, as far as I was concerned, we never looked back. I was deeply in love with her. We were married very quickly and were together for about twenty-three years.
I have been an educator, businessman, entrepreneur, technician in aerospace for a major missile and space firm, and in the later years an author and marketing guy. Yes, I was married before, for nearly 30 years. And yes, I loved her and chased her all over the San Jose, California, area. She was a virgin and the mother of my two grown children. She was a schoolteacher—and very good, I may add—and she helped me reach one of my dreams.
I would often spend time helping her after school in her classroom, and she helped me as a new beginning teacher, and with the many issues of going back to college to earn my degrees.

The truth is I never for a moment got hung up on the virgin part. The love bug hit me, and really this is all I thought about. I wanted to marry her and ride off into the sunset. Also, after serving in the navy for not quite four years, I wanted more out of life, and I believed that going to college was the avenue for doing this. I still believe this is true, and I can see where making this sacrifice paid off, but there was a cost too. So in talking to her about our future together, I asked her to help me go to college. She agreed and said, “I would like to have children.” This was not on my agenda at the time, but we both agreed. Today, yes, I would like to have more kids. Maybe in my next book, I will share with you why I had a change of heart.
Bobbie, my second wife, and I were different. I never thought about it at the time, but as I said to many of my friends, we never looked back, we were married in three months. I believe I was fifty-six, and she was fifty-two. Her two daughters were nearly grown-up, one a little older and more squared away then the other, but the younger daughter turned around very nicely. And yes, I would like to see her more, but she is out of state, and we were not as close as I was with the older daughter. I believe we are still closer than I am with my own kids. As much as she was willing to allow me, I was able to take her under my wing. I have gotten close with the oldest, Bri, and her husband is very close to me—in fact, closer to me than my own two children. I am not happy in many ways about this, but this is where it is, and I am working on it.
We did not talk about having children much, to tell the truth, and I couldn’t have kids anyway. I am not sure about her, but I gave up on this privilege. As I said, I lost Bobbie to two cancers. I saw her pass away, and she was taken from me. Oh, yes, I started to fall apart. A couple of my friends saw this and encouraged me to write again. At the time, I had been away from writing for some time. I had written three career and vocational books, but I had been away from being an author for years. Bobbie had asked me to stop writing before we moved to Texas, and I did. Now, here I was going into a depression, with up to four depression pains a day.
But these two friends of mine, Vern Thomason and Jack Worthington, got after me. Both were old friends, and I would really like to see them more, but we talked on the phone and via e-mail often. It is not the same thing.
I said to Vern and Jack, “I have no idea what to write about.” Then it hit me. I had one book on the market, and now there is this one. This one is for you, gals. I am trying to give something back that will help all of us.
As you are aware, we have many reasons why we might want to find help finding a new companion, serious friend, pal, traveling partner, or lover. You may have gotten out of the dating circle, become a widow, or divorced. I was out of the dating circle. You may not have the time now as you did before, or you don’t know where to go, or you are not interested in going to places by yourself. We all have various motivations. I didn’t know where to go and was lost in many ways. This was new territory for me. I came from California, I was married for twenty-three years, and I didn’t go to bars. Does this sound like you? You don’t