What They Don't Teach Teens

Jonathan Cristall

Description

The 21st-century guidebook of life safety skills for teens, their parents, and other caregivers, covering physical safety, sexual consent, social media, your rights with the police, situational awareness, dating violence, smartphones, and more.

"Easy to read and comprehensive on topics of safety, Cristall's volume is an informative read for teens and their parents, but may also prove to be a helpful text for a high-school level health class." (Library Journal)

Young people coming of age today face new risks, expectations, and laws that didn't exist when their parents were young. What They Don't Teach Teens provides teens, tweens, and young adults with up-to-date, realistic strategies to protect themselves against the pitfalls of modern adolescence.

Author Jonathan Cristall, once a troubled teen himself and now a veteran prosecutor for the City of Los Angeles and a sexual violence prevention instructor, works extensively with teenagers and their families to teach physical, digital, emotional, and legal safety skills. Drawing on Cristall's hands-on experience, What They Don't Teach Teens gives parents and other caregivers techniques for talking to their children about these urgent issues.

What They Don't Teach Teens gives sound advice on police interactions and personal safety (your constitutional rights, what to do/not do when stopped by the police while driving, situational awareness, street robberies, gun violence); sexual violence and misconduct (sexual consent, sexual harassment prevention, dating violence, sextortion); and staying safer online (digital footprint and citizenship, cyberbullying, underage sexting, online porn).

A must-read for all families, What They Don't Teach Teens is filled with practical guidance, thoughtful insight, and simple-to-use tips and tactics that will empower young people to make good choices now and into the future.

Sujets

• Social Topics
• Computers
• Young Adult Nonfiction
• Daily Living
• Computer
• Health
• Safety

Informations

• Publié par: Linden Publishing
• Date de parution: 06 octobre 2020
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781610353731
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Praise for What They Don t Teach Teens
What They Don t Teach Teens is deep, impactful, and clearly conveys information about sexual and interpersonal violence that no young person should be without. -Patti Giggans, Executive Director, Peace Over Violence (formerly Los Angeles Commission on Assaults Against Women)
What They Don t Teach Teens is a timely text that provides both parent and child alike with valuable information to identify and confront some of the most challenging teen issues of the day. -Justin Patchin, PhD, Professor of criminal justice, University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire and Co-Founder and Co-Director, Cyberbullying Research Center
This book is like a cookbook; you keep referring back to it when you need the details for a specific recipe (or here, a topic). -Tamberley M., parent of 16-year-old twins
What They Don t Teach Teens is just bursting with compelling information about social media and the use of digital technologies that all young people coming of age today must know. -Terry Evans, CEO, Cybersleuth Investigations, Inc. and fellow with the National Cybersecurity Institute at Excelsior College
Jonathan Cristall s background, experience, and writing style makes him relatable and gives his voice credibility that teens will listen to. -Kami Kosenko, Ph.D., Associate Professor, Department of Communication, North Carolina State University
What They Don t Teach Teens will help prevent sexual violence in relationships, friendships, peer groups, and communities. -Connie J. Kirkland, MA, NCC, CTTS, Director of Sexual Assault Services, Northern Virginia Community College
A much better book than I thought it was going to be. I learned things that I thought I knew, but didn t really. -Bryan J., 11th grader
What They Don t Teach Teens provides outstanding guidance on digital decision making and is written in a way to make it accessible to any person, of almost any age, who wisely chooses to pick it up. -Jedidiah Bracy, Editorial Director, International Association of Privacy Professionals (IAPP)
What They Don t Teach Teens is an essential tool for young people, parents, and guardians in navigating the rocky terrains of street and digital safety, and sexual violence. -Bianca Fileborn, PhD, Lecturer in Criminology, University of Melbourne
What They Don t Teach Teens is a wonderful way for school administrators and school counselors to start meaningful conversations with students. A book like no other that schools (and parents) have been longing for. -Ali Norman-Franks, Intervention Counselor, Beverly Hills High School
I received this book as assigned reading from my wife. I had some hesitation, but within minutes of starting to read I was hooked. As a dad, I appreciated how comprehensive the book is. -Andy W., father to teens
Jonathan Cristall provides not only great insight for how to best interface with the police, but is candid about racial injustice. -Dr. Cedric L. Alexander, Past National President of the National Organization of Black Law Enforcement Executives, CNN Law Enforcement Analyst
Jonathan Cristall s book is designed to appeal directly to youth-to help them make healthy and safe choices, even when interacting with the police. -Elizabeth Englander, PhD, Executive Director and founder of the Massachusetts Aggression Reduction Center at Bridgewater State University
What They Don t Teach Teens provides incredible guidance to young people on issues of contemporary importance like policing and sexual violence prevention. Jonathan Cristall does so in a way that s not only comprehensive and realistic, but sensitive to the diverse backgrounds of those who may read it. -Capri Maddox, Esq., Executive Director, Los Angeles Department of Civil and Human Rights
Mr. Cristall s book exposes some of the most common methods perpetrators use to obtain child sexual abuse material by the exploitation of young people. His prevention techniques and tips are savvy, well explained, and will certainly keep tweens, teens, and young adults safer online and off. -Glen Pounder, Chief Operating Officer, Child Rescue Coalition, Inc.
Easy to read, very informative, with priceless ideas of what to do and how to do it. It is a very helpful tool for parents like me and a great source of info that I can share with my teens. -Whitney G., parent of two teens
What They Don t Teach Teens
Life Safety Skills for Teens and the Adults Who Care for Them
Jonathan Cristall, Esq.

Fresno, California
What They Don t Teach Teens
Copyright 2020 by Jonathan Cristall. All rights reserved.
Interior design by Carla Green, Clarity Designworks.
Illustrations by Bintang Suhadiyono.
Cover design by @difrats.
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ISBN 978-1610353-58-8
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Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data on file.
Contents
Preface for Teens and All Young People
What to Know About Me
Introduction
Important Message to Teens and Young People: Find Your Person, Whoever That May Be
Book Terminology
Parent Readers: Talking to Your Children and Having Them Talk to You
Disclaimer
Part 1 / Dealing with the Police and Street Safety
CHAPTER 1
Your Rights with the Police: You Probably Don t Know Them, but Should
CHAPTER 2
Safer Police Interactions: Critical for Everyone Involved
CHAPTER 3
Street Safety: Wherever Life Takes You
Part 2 / Sexual Violence and Misconduct
CHAPTER 4
Sexual Assault and Consent: We Must Do Better
CHAPTER 5
Sexual Harassment: Daily Life for Many Students
CHAPTER 6
Sextortion-Yes, It s Really a Thing
CHAPTER 7
Teen Dating Violence: It Happens in Every Zip Code
Part 3 / Staying Safer Online
CHAPTER 8
Digital Footprint and Digital Citizenship: People Change, the Internet Is Forever
CHAPTER 9
Digital Data Privacy: More Important Than Privacy at Home?
CHAPTER 10
Cyberbullying: Bullying on Steroids
CHAPTER 11
Smartphone Cameras: Tales of Sexting, Porn, and Falling Off Bridges
Best Wishes for Your Future
APPENDIX 1
Where Can I Get Help or More Information?
APPENDIX 2
Reporting Sexual Harassment to School Administrators
APPENDIX 3
Tips for Making Police Reports
APPENDIX 4
Is There Anything I Can Do to Clean Up My Digital Footprint?
APPENDIX 5
Reporting Cyberbullying to a School Administrator
APPENDIX 6 ( FOR PARENTS )
Talking to Your Children and Having Them Talk to You
Chapter Quizzes Answer Key
Recommended Reading
Endnotes
Index
Acknowledgments
About the Author
To my wonderful wife Lisa, for building a life with me that I thought only existed in dreams.
To my sons, J, E, and B, who, in each of your own ways, have taught me more about life and love than I ever could have imagined.
Preface for Teens and All Young People
I wrote this book for my three sons-two of them teenagers-so they can better understand what is expected of them as they transition from our home to the outside world. For them, and everyone coming of age today, there are new risks, expectations, and laws that didn t exist for previous generations.
Let s face it-going through adolescence has never been easy. But it can be more challenging today if you don t completely understand the ways a damaged digital footprint can alter your life; the statements or actions that amount to sexual harassment; the potentially severe consequences of underage sexting; the point a sexual interaction goes too far ; the safest way to pull over when stopped by the police; and so much more.
While the subject matter in this book is serious and at times unsettling, my objective is not to scare you. To the contrary, I hope that understanding the fact-based information herein will bring you a sense of calm knowing that you re better prepared to handle the unexpected.
What to Know About Me
The most important things to know about me start with what I hold most dear: my wife, Lisa, and our three terrific sons.
I have the second-best job in the world as a veteran prosecutor for the City of Los Angeles. For many years, I ve had the good fortune to supervise a team of prosecutors and support staff who work with great dedication to improve public safety throughout Los Angeles. (In case you re wondering, the best job to me would be playing for the Los Angeles Lakers.)
I m also a trained and certified sexual violence prevention instructor at a large nonprofit in Los Angeles called Peace Over Violence-an organization you may know of from their annual, worldwide Denim Day event protesting sexual violence. For many years, this organization has performed impactful work in the greater Los Angeles area and far beyond, providing resources for victim-survivors of sexual violence. I am donating a portion of my book profits to Peace Over Violence because, unfortunately, they have way too much work to do.
Another activity that keeps me busy is teaching the topics in this book to parents and teens and at schools. I never anticipated that as I told people about the book I was writing, I d be asked to teach these life skills to them in person. Fortunately, my voice seems to be resonating with many, and juggling my workshops with everything else is a real challenge. This is a good problem, I suppose.
Yet none of these or other accomplishments or, frankly, anything else in my life should have ever happened. I should be dead.
As a high schooler, I ma