Raising Children in Love Justice and Truth

Barry Long

Description

Barry Long's approach to parenting includes not only love for the child, but practical ways of bringing truth and justice into the family. He explains that what children also need from parents is the example of an honest and responsible life. To introduce truth, teach the child to observe the fact of the world. To introduce justice, ask of the child only what you are prepared to do yourself. He also has radical things to say about the development of the personality and the encouragement of imagination. The book is compiled from conversations with parents, so it is possible to understand Barry Long's approach in the actual circumstances of the many families who shared their problems with him. Their experience gives readers a complete picture of the benefit that harmony in the home brings to the next generation.

Sujets

• Body
• Mind

Informations

• Publié par: Barry Long Books
• Date de parution: 11 octobre 2016
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781899324354
• Langue: English

Extrait

Parents looking for a ‘spiritual’ guide to raising their children need look no further than Barry Long’s extraordinary book.
– Natural Parent, UK
An exceptional compendium of wise advice and it will be a revelation of just what went wrong in their own childhood to many readers.
– New Age Guardian, Australia
Long’s seminal teaching is presented here, but with a focus on how these teachings assist in creating more loving, just and truthful parents … Also a valuable resource for teachers, as a not-so-traditional, yet vital textbook.
– Noumenon, South Africa
THIS BOOK reminds us of our great responsibility for the spiritual life of the next generation. Its practical guidance, in so many aspects of parenting, offers every reader a new vision of family life in which there is harmony at home and everyone shares in the innocence, honesty and vitality of childhood.
MOST PARENTS find it difficult to cope with all the demands made on them. Many can’t communicate with their children. More and more families suffer from the negative influences of the world or struggle to survive separation and divorce. In most households the irritations and tensions of family life are accepted as perfectly normal.
For parents who are spiritually aware, any lack of harmony in the home is disturbing. It is distressing to witness the God-given gift of a baby child growing up in a world of conflict and confusion.
Many mothers and fathers express a keen desire to put things right, for the child’s sake and for their own. When parents meet Barry Long, a spiritual master with a very practical approach to life, they are able to ask his advice and receive his guidance. This book is his response to their need and their questions.
BARRY LONG offers a wide-ranging view of the human condition and shows how parents today can give their children the best possible preparation for adult life.
This spiritual perspective on the family will be revealing to every reader. The book is based on dialogues with mothers and fathers from different countries and deals with many incidents in the life of the child, from toddler to teenager.
The central theme is the importance of getting a right basis for the parent-child relationship. Love alone is not enough. This book uniquely demonstrates what it means to bring the spiritual dimensions of truth and justice to family life.
Also by Barry Long
Knowing Yourself Only Fear Dies Meditation – A Foundation Course Stillness Is The Way Wisdom and Where To Find It To Woman In Love Making Love To Man in Truth The Origins of Man and the Universe A Prayer for Life Where the Spirit Speaks to Its Own The Way In – A book of self-discovery My Life of Love and Truth From Here to Reality
RAISING CHILDREN
in Love, Justice and Truth
Conversations with Parents
BARRY LONG

B ARRY L ONG B OOKS
First published in the year 1998
Reprinted 2008, 2013, 2015
Ebook edition: 2016
BARRY LONG BOOKS
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© Barry Long 1998
© The Barry Long Trust 2008
The right of Barry Long to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted in accordance with sections 77 and 78 of the Copyright Designs and Patents Act 1988
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means without the prior permission of the publisher
Cataloguing in Publication Data:
A catalogue record for this book is available from The British Library.
Library of Congress Catalog Card Number: 97-92756
ISBN Paperback 978-1-899324-13-2
ISBN Ebook 978-1-899324-35-4
Compiled and edited: Clive Tempest
Cover design: Zac Lovett
Cover Photo: Shutterstock
Photos of Barry Long and child: Tibor Hegedis
CONTENTS

This ebook contains an INDEX.
Links to Index Entries: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y   Z
CHAPTERS
FOREWORD
1 HARMONY IN THE HOME Raising children in love, justice and truth
THE TRUE PARENT
THE EMBRACE OF LOVE
TEARS AND TANTRUMS
PIGGY OUT
LIFE WITH SIMON
RULES OF THE HOUSE
STRAIGHT TALK
FEAR AND THE DARK
LOVE COMES FIRST
2 EDUCATION IN CONSCIOUSNESS Doing your best for the child
THE KARMIC DEBT
THE DEVELOPING PERSONALITY
THE PRICE OF EXCITEMENT
GIVING TO THE CHILD
THE DEVELOPING IMAGINATION
TELLING STORIES
GOING TO SCHOOL
PARENTS AS TEACHERS
3 BALANCE IN THE WORLD Bringing innocence to experience
THE BODY OF EXPERIENCE
THE INFLUENCE OF THE WORLD
THE SHADOW OF DEATH
EMERGING SEXUALITY
KNOWLEDGE OF GOD
AFTERWORD
PARENTS RESPOND
TEACHERS REPORT
BARRY LONG AND EDUCATION
BIBLIOGRAPHY
INDEX
FOREWORD
B arry Long has had two children of his own, a boy and a girl, and three stepsons, and has lived a family life in three marriages. His own childhood was spent in New South Wales in the Depression years of the 1930’s. None of his playmates in the Sydney schoolyard could have had an inkling of what Barry would become. The aunts and uncles he visited out on the farms in school holidays would surely not have believed that from the hard school of life he would one day graduate as a man whom many people from many different backgrounds now see as their spiritual father.
After leaving school at 15 he became a journalist and by his mid-twenties was married and thriving in the cut and thrust of a successful career. By all the outward signs his life was pretty good, but inwardly something had changed. People who knew him found that he was really only interested in talking about one thing — the truth. His spiritual awakening was already well advanced when at the age of 38 he separated from his wife and two children. He went first to India, then to England. He sought to live without compromise and by 1969 his self-realisation was profound. Continuing to live as an ordinary man in the world, he remarried. His wife, Julie, brought with her two stepsons, one a teenager. The marriage lasted for sixteen years until in 1982 Julie died of cancer.
He was teaching meditation classes in London and beginning to attract the attention of spiritual seekers when in 1985 he married his third wife, Kathy and acquired another stepson, Simon, who, as you will see, has made his own mark on this book. The following year they moved to Australia and made a home on Tamborine Mountain, Queensland. After four years he again separated and divorced.
Throughout the 1980’s he was giving talks and seminars in England and Australia, introducing people to the stillness at the centre of their being and at the same time helping them to face the responsibility of a life lived in the truth. During the early 1990’s he went around the world, giving seminars on ‘The Truth of Life and Love’ and teaching his ‘Course in Being’ in many countries.
Barry Long’s teaching has attracted many thousands of people and at each public meeting or seminar he is open to questions which range across the whole experience of man and woman. The fundamental concerns and anxieties of the individuals in the audience are more or less the same, no matter what their walk of life or where they live. There are always parents in the audience who are concerned for their children and want to get their family life right. They want to do their best for their children and ask Barry Long for guidance. This book is based mainly on those questions. It includes conversations with mothers and fathers at seminars in Europe, Australia and America; and teachings given to a number of families with whom Barry Long has stayed in touch for several years. Some individuals appear by name. The names given in the book are fictional, except in the case of Barry Long’s own family.
The conversations cover the life of the child from cradle to adolescence and hundreds of situations that commonly occur in every home. The questions will be familiar to every reader, for they touch on the common core of family life. Recordings of the conversations and questions have been collected, transcribed, substantially edited and arranged to make a coherent book. Barry Long has personally revised and approved the text and its purpose is to provide you with an authentic and complete record of his teaching on the parenting and education of children.
The material has been arranged in three parts, broadly dealing with life in the family, how to introduce children to the wider world and how to help them become responsible for themselves. These themes relate to every age group, as do the essential principles of Barry Long’s teaching, and so the book does not follow a strictly chronological progress from infancy to adolescence. Whether you are the parent of toddlers or teenagers, or have no children of your own, this is a book to be read right the way through.
What Barry Long proposes throughout is that justice, honesty, clarity and harmony can actually become the basis of the parent-child relationship, ridding the family of the friction, confusion and mutual resentment that has become the norm. To so radically change the drift of history must necessarily engage the whole life. This is not a book of quick-fix remedies. It can certainly be consulted for guidance on specific issues and for that purpose there is an index. The book is primarily for you, the parent, because teaching the child is your responsibility. Nevertheless, much of it can be read to the children or passed on directly to them.
Thanks are due to the many parents and children who have made their contribution to this book. Their candour, honesty, dedication and love has allowed Barry Long to demonstrate that spirituality means nothing unless grounded in the practical business of leading a responsible life, including life around the family table.
Clive Tempest
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HARMONY IN THE HOME
Raising children in love, justice and truth

The True Parent – The Embrace of Love Tears and Tantrums – Piggy Out – Life with Simon Rules of the House – Straight Talk Fear and the Dark – Love Comes First
 

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