Soulmate Myth

Judy Hall

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Many people are looking for their soulmate and expect to be blissfully happy when they find one. But, sadly, they seem doomed to disappointment. Soulmates are both a powerful fact and one of the biggest illusions of all time.

Informations

• Publié par: Flying Horse Books
• Date de parution: 01 février 2010
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781902405551
• Langue: English

Extrait

T HE S OULMATE M YTH

A Dream Come True or Your Worst Nightmare?
Judy Hall
Published in 2010 by Flying Horse Publications an imprint of The Wessex Astrologer Ltd 4A Woodside Road Bournemouth BH5 2AZ England
www.wessexastrologer.com
Copyright Judy Hall 2010
Judy Hall asserts the right to be recognised as the author of this work
ISBN 9781902405452
A catalogue record of this book is available at The British Library
Cover design by Dave at Creative Byte, Poole, Dorset
Original photograph Ben Cahill http://www.flickr.com/photos/greeng90/
All rights reserved. No part of this work may be used or reproduced in any manner without written permission. A reviewer may quote brief passages.
Contents

Introduction
1 The Soulmate Conundrum
2 How to Recognise a Soulmate
3 The Mythic Explanation
4 The Psychological Scenario
5 The Esoteric Explanation
6 The Karmic Scenario
7 Kindred Spirits
8 Illusion, Delusion or Something Other?
9 Scouring the Soul
10 Eternal Triangles
11 Serial Soulmates
12 Cleaving to What is Akin
13 Pacts, Promises and Soul Contracts
14 Soulmates - the Positive Experience
15 Healing the Wounds
16 Why Some People May Never Find Their True Mate
17 Twinflames
List of Exercises
Preparation for Visualisation
Close down
Chakra disconnection
Spiritual divorce
Dissolving soul contracts
Making the inner marriage
Renegotiating a vow
Reclaiming your heart
Giving and receiving forgiveness
Tie cutting
Attracting your twinflame
Walking towards your twinflame
Acknowledgements
I would like to thank all my friends and clients who offered their case histories for this book. You know who you are so I do not need to name anyone specifically although the twinflame stories appear under people s own names and I thank them for that (most of the names in the soulmate stories have been changed to protect people s privacy and for reasons which are obvious when you read the stories). Celia Gunn and Anthony Thorley deserve a special acknowledgement and a thank you from my heart for all the learning they have offered. I would also like to acknowledge Zaidee Grofton for being such an effective catalyst. Margaret Cahill of The Wessex Astrologer, a very special soul companion, deserves eternal gratitude but, for reasons she will well understand, I offer a huge thank you instead!
For details of Judy Hall s workshops and readings please see www.judyhall.co.uk
Introduction
You meet someone and you re sure you were lovers in a past life. After two weeks with them, you realize why you haven t kept in touch for the last two thousand years.
Al Cleathan 1
You meet. Bells ring, the world turns rosy pink, bluebirds weave their dancing flight, and for a few weeks - or months, perhaps even years - everything is sublime, you are with The One . The one person who can make you happy, complete. The person you love without question or restraint. The one you ve searched for all your life, were created for. But then it begins, little niggling doubts that you push aside until the next time, or a monstrous great betrayal you cannot ignore. Is this really the one, can your other half really be the source of so much pain, so much soul scouring?
Wonderful, marvellous, the best thing that ever happened, your other half - or the biggest delusion ever? A dream come true, or your worst nightmare? This is the question that lies at the heart of the soulmate dilemma. Many people are still reeling from meeting a soulmate years after the event, others yearn for what might have been, if only
Soulmates are both a powerful fact and one of the biggest illusions of all time. They are an eager wonder that can cross time, as Tagore suggests:

We two shall build, a bridge forever
Between two beings, each to the other unknown,
This eager wonder is at the heart of things. 2
and can transform a life, but in the process they can scour us until we are raw and bleeding. When people so eagerly seek their soulmate and yearn for their one and only love, they have no idea what they may be opening themselves up to, or the heartbreak that can follow a soulmate meeting.
These wondrous beings sweep into our life, lust and desire in their wake, they fire up our lower chakras pushing out all that is outworn and outgrown. They prod and poke, wake us up, drive us from a stultifying relationship or into living out our soul s purpose - or not as the case so often is if the initial attraction is misunderstood. Sometimes, they offer us love ever after, but equally often they flow out of our lives again when their task is done. But they inevitably leave a gift behind, if only we can identify it.
The stories in this book have been chosen because they are everyone s story. You may recognise yourself, or think you recognise another person. Who it is does not matter, it is the eternal and, sometimes it seems inevitable, soulmate story in all its glorious variety that is being told here. Some are case histories I have used before but make no apology for using them again because they are so universal and, for this book, I have endeavoured to identify the why of the experience and the gift behind it.
Soulmates are summed up in Thomas Hardy s poem, which though not explicitly about these partnerships across time highlights the questions they provoke:

Yes, I have re-entered your olden haunts at last;
(Is it really a surprise to hear me again?)
Through the years, through the dead scenes I have tracked you,
(Why should it be, when I have never forgotten you?)
What have you now found to say of our past -
(Will you not grant me one boon - to speak of that which divided us?)
Scanned across the dark space therein I have lacked you?
(For it is true - I have never recovered from the loss of you).
There are many words to describe these beings who make us feel so right, as though we have been waiting for them all our life - or lives. And, it sometimes appears that it is a question of semantics. What I now call a twinflame is someone else s soulmate or twin soul. A soul friend can be a soul companion or a soulmate. These are all terms in common use. So, what exactly is a soulmate according to popular definition? Thomas Moore sees a soulmate as someone to whom we are profoundly connected , something which is brought about by divine grace rather than an intentional act on our part. 3 Leslie Bach (wife of author Richard Bach) described a soulmate as someone who has a lock to which we have the key, and we in turn have a key to fit their lock. With this person we can be our true self. They bring out the best in us. We share with them a purpose, direction and our deepest longings . 4 Brian Weiss said that a soulmate is someone who crosses time to be with us, someone whom we instinctively recognise from our heart, to whom we are bonded throughout eternity . 5 Soulmates occur in fiction time after time:
He s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same Nelly, I am Heathcliff. He s always, always in my mind - not as a pleasure, anymore than I am always a pleasure to myself - but as my own being. 6
This book explains why we so desperately seek a soulmate, and why some people do not find it the blissful experience they expect. It will show why it might perhaps be better to avoid a soulmate altogether for the time being, and how to take back your heart if you have left it in the keeping of a false soulmate. It will also help you to have a realistic enough picture of what a soul mate could be to attract a true companion of the heart - what I have come to call a twinflame. And, on the other hand, it will help you to understand why your soulmate may also be an invaluable tool in your karmic learning and show why there is no such thing as a wrong relationship or a mistaken connection because there is always a gift in the experience.
Your soulmate is rarely a person new to you, you have almost always met before in some other existence either in a former life on earth or another dimension - and you don t necessarily need to accept reincarnation to believe that your soul has existed in another dimension before birth onto this earth. A soulmate may well stem back to an earlier stage of the present incarnation, someone met once in youth and never forgotten, for instance. It is often when sex enters a soulmate equation that the real problems start, and that could well be because the purpose of meeting that particular soulmate is not a sexual one in the present lifetime, as we shall see. As we will also see, we all have more than one soulmate.
My own definition of a soulmate is:
A soul companion who helps us to grow .
This is the person who applies a spiritual brillo pad to scour our soul to remove the encrustations of karmic and emotional patterning that have prevented us from moving into our full potential. The term spiritual brillo pad comes from author Sue Minns, who herself went through a devastating soulmate experience but one from which she emerged stronger and wiser, and wrote a book to share her insights. 7 She says that, in her view soulmates are unavoidable. The trick is to dance with the devil and know when to change partners/music or whatever .
The experience of soul scouring is beautifully epitomised in this poem by Jane Lyle, which arose out of a soulmate experience that Jane saw as spun by the Fates, the three sisters who weave the threads of human destiny:

To A Soulmate
And the three sisters spun
At the edge of the World
While our love came unbidden
Our future unfurled

Time circled about us
As shadows grew deep
While the web became darker
And tangled with sleep

Then you begged for my soul
For you d none of your own
And I gave it you gladly:
Blood, flesh and bone

And the three sisters spun
In the black of the night
Whispering shadows
Cursing the light

Though I dreamed of redemption
In sunlight and rain
I had bitten your apple
And slept in my pain

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