Summary of Daniel J. Siegel's Mindsight

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 The joy-filled way in which we come to share each other’s minds is the hallmark of love. It is the link between parent and child that is the signature of love.
#2 During Leanne’s next visit, I asked her parents what had changed. Barbara replied that she had lost her soul. I asked her what that felt like, and she said it felt fine. She didn’t know if she could explain any more than that.
#3 When I saw the children without their mother, they let me know how they felt. She just doesn’t care about us like she used to, Leanne said. And she doesn’t ever ask us anything about ourselves, Amy added with sadness and irritation.
#4 Grief allows you to let go of something you’ve lost only when you begin to accept what you now have in its place. As your mind clings to the familiar, to your established expectations, you can become trapped in feelings of disappointment, confusion, and anger.

Sujets

• Love
• Love (disambiguation)
• Mindulness
• Meditation

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 25 mars 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669397380
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

Insights on Daniel J. Siegel's Mindsight
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The joy-filled way in which we come to share each other’s minds is the hallmark of love. It is the link between parent and child that is the signature of love.

#2

During Leanne’s next visit, I asked her parents what had changed. Barbara replied that she had lost her soul. I asked her what that felt like, and she said it felt fine. She didn’t know if she could explain any more than that.

#3

When I saw the children without their mother, they let me know how they felt. She just doesn’t care about us like she used to, Leanne said. And she doesn’t ever ask us anything about ourselves, Amy added with sadness and irritation.

#4

Grief allows you to let go of something you’ve lost only when you begin to accept what you now have in its place. As your mind clings to the familiar, to your established expectations, you can become trapped in feelings of disappointment, confusion, and anger.

#5

The prefrontal cortex is the most damaged part of Barbara’s brain, and it makes complex representations that allow us to think about the present, think about experiences in the past, and plan for the future.

#6

The brain makes a me-map that gives us insight into ourselves, and a you-map for insight into others. We also create we-maps that represent our relationships. Without such maps, we are unable to perceive the mind within ourselves or others.

#7

The relationship between Barbara and her daughter was broken, as was the connection between Barbara and her family. The mother had no interest in her children, and they felt her lack of interest.

#8

I met with the children, Ben, Amy, and Leanne, to explain to them that their mother’s irritability and lack of warmth were not their fault, and that the injury to their prefrontal regions explained almost all of the changes in their behavior.

#9

The different functions of the brain help people understand how their actions affect others. As a result, they can gain enough distance from a damaged or hurtful relationship to develop more compassion and understanding for both themselves and the other person.

#10

The brain is a system of interconnected parts. To understand how mindsight works, it helps to be able to visualize the brain as a system of interconnected parts.

#11

The brain is made up of three regions: the brainstem, the limbic area, and the cortex. These three regions are what constitute the triune brain, which developed in layers over the course of evolution.

#12

The brainstem is a fundamental part of what are called motivational systems that help us satisfy our basic needs for food, shelter, reproduction, and safety. When you feel a deep drive to behave in a certain way, your brainstem is working closely with the next-higher region, the limbic area, to push you to act.

#13

The limbic area is located deep within the brain and evolved when small mammals first appeared around two hundred million years ago. It helps us create several different forms of memory, including memories of facts, specific experiences, and emotions.

#14

The amygdala can prompt an instantaneous survival response. It can create emotional states without our awareness, and we may act on them without awareness. The hippocampus links together widely separated areas of the brain to convert our moment-to-moment experiences into memories.

#15

The outer layer of the brain is the cortex, which creates more elaborate firing patterns that represent the three-dimensional world beyond the bodily functions and survival reactions mediated by the lower, subcortical regions. The cortex allows us to think about thinking.

#16

The prefrontal cortex, which has evolved only in human beings, is the area behind the forehead. It is where we create our mindsight maps, and it is also where we create our representations of concepts such as time, a sense of self, and moral judgments.

#17

The middle prefrontal region creates links among widely separated and differentiated neural regions, and it links signals from all those areas to the signals we send and receive in our social world.

#18

When our minds are well-integrated, our relationships thrive. But sometimes we lose our minds and act in ways we don’t choose. The story I’ll share with you in this chapter was a lesson in impaired mindsight.

#19

I had to teach my kids to share their food with each other. When I took my daughter out for a snack, my son asked why we had left. I became a father out of my mind.

#20

When we ignore the truth of what happened, we can continue to repeat the same mistakes, which can be quite toxic to ourselves as well as to others. If we acknowledge the truth of what happened, we can begin to repair the damage and reduce the intensity of future meltdowns.

#21

When we are in emotional balance, we feel alive and at ease. We feel aroused enough for life to have meaning and vitality, but not so aroused that we feel overwhelmed or out of control.

#22

The middle prefrontal region is important in creating mindsight images of other people’s minds, and in understanding the social good. It is also important in understanding and overcoming fear, and in creating moral awareness.

#23

Intuition can be seen as how the middle prefrontal cortex gives us access to the wisdom of the body. This region receives information from throughout the interior of the body, and uses this input to give us a heartfelt sense of what to do or a gut feeling about the right choice.

#24

I was able to reflect on my son’s behavior and see that it was caused by me not being able to share with him. I realized that I had been holding onto my anger from when I was a child, and that it was contributing to my son’s behavior.

#25

The three legs of a tripod that stabilizes our mindsight lens are openness, observation, and objectivity. Without any one of these three tripod legs, mindsight becomes unsteady and our ability to clearly see the mind becomes compromised.

#26

When we are in a meltdown, it’s hard to recruit our reflective skills. But once we leave that disconnected, explosive state, reflection helps us look back and look inward at what has happened. If we recognize that this mental event was not the totality of who we are, we gain the reflective distance and the freedom to take responsibility for our actions and feelings.

#27

When we are filled with out-of-control anger, we can’t expect others to empathically say, Tell me more about how furious you are. Instead, we need to take the initiative and make an effort to reconnect.

#28

We all have many layers of meaning stored in our brains, and they can quickly emerge and shape our behavior in unexpected ways. With mindsight, we can make use of the reflections that arise from these conflicts to deepen our self-understanding and our connections with others.

#29

With mindsight, we are not trying to be perfect, but rather honest and humble. We are all human, and seeing our minds clearly helps us embrace that humanity within one another and ourselves.

#30

The brain is both dense and intricate, and it is capable of generating billions of different patterns of neural firing. These patterns are what scan machines measure when they light up as a person performs a certain task.

#31