31 Days to a Happy Husband

Pellicane Arlene

Description

What does a man need most from his wife? Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to a Younger You, asked numerous husbands that question. Based on their answers, Pellicane identified five keys that will give wives a new appreciation and understanding of how to love and care for their mates. Domestic tranquility--A husband needs a peaceful haven. Respect--A husband needs to be honored in his home. Eros--A husband needs a fulfilling sex life. Attraction--A husband needs to be attracted to his wife. Mutual activities--A husband needs to have fun with his wife. Along with identifying a husband's needs, Pellicane provides practical instruction to motivate and equip wives to show their husbands the care and affection they long for. Every day a wife is either building her husband up or tearing him down. This book offers wives a 31-day, no holding back, life-changing building program for their marriages.

Informations

• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
• Date de parution: 01 août 2012
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736946339
• Langue: English

Extrait

Arlene Pellicane knows exactly what a husband needs. 31 Days to a Happy Husband is a delightful, entertaining, and intensely practical roadmap to your husband s heart. The day it is released, I m putting it in my wife s hands!
-David Clarke, marriage seminar speaker and author of Kiss Me Like You Mean It and I Don t Love You Anymore
A meaningful read for any wife who wants to get closer to her husband.
-David Jeremiah, bestselling author, pastor, and founder of Turning Point Ministries
As a woman who has been married for 40 years (obviously a very young bride), I plan to have just as much fun, if not more, in the next 40. 31 Days to a Happy Husband is going to help make that happen. I thank you, Arlene, and so does my hubby, John!
-Kendra Smiley, speaker and author of bestselling Journey of a Strong-Willed Child (coauthored with her happy husband)
When it comes to loving our husbands, most of us need more than a pep talk-we need a coach who understands where we re coming from and how to get us to that sweet God-spot in our relationship. Well, meet Coach Arlene. She s been there, done that in her marriage and will give you not just the steps but the motivation to take your marriage from roommates to making room for the most important man in your life.
-Kathi Lipp, national speaker and author of The Husband Project
Here s fresh help and hope from popular author and speaker Arlene Pellicane. You ll find wisdom that works and new ideas that challenge you to stretch and grow. Arlene points the way to a happier, healthier marriage relationship-starting from right where you are today. An excellent, well-organized resource for wives!
-David Frisbie, executive director, The Center for Marriage and Family Studies, Del Mar, California
We believe in the great advice in 31 Days to a Happy Husband because we know Arlene and her husband, James-and he is happy! Arlene is always practical and personal, so this book is likely to make your husband very happy you bought it.
-Bill and Pam Farrel, authors of Red-Hot Monogamy and Men Are Like Waffles-Women Are Like Spaghetti
Wives ask us all the time, How can I encourage my husband to grow and change? How can I help him become the man God calls him to be? As Arlene wisely reminds us here, the answer is not more nagging or more begging. Instead, we can use our God-given role as wives to support, nurture, and respect our husbands-watching as God works through our open and available hearts. I am glad to recommend Arlene s new books to wives of all ages!
-Lisa Frisbie, author of Becoming Your Husband s Best Friend
31 Days to a Happy Husband gives every wife the tools she needs to have a joyful home. You ll learn how to set biblical priorities that may save your marriage or change the dynamic of your relationship from good to great. Arlene shares her own experiences along with expert advice from many happy husbands to help you have a happy husband yourself!
-Beverly LaHaye, founder, Concerned Women for America and bestselling author of The Act of Marriage
Sound, practical wisdom for any wife who wants to bless her husband and be the wife God has called her to be.
-Bob Lepine, cohost, FamilyLife Today
What a delightful book! With her touching stories, biblical insights, and practical helps, Arlene Pellicane walks you through a fun yet meaningful adventure of investing in your husband s happiness and ultimately, yours. Enjoy the read, as well as the rewards!
-Cindi McMenamin, author of When a Woman Inspires Her Husband and When Couples Walk Together
If you re going to talk about a happy husband-and a happy wife-you have to talk about a mutually fulfilling sex life. Arlene s book helps you identify roadblocks to intimacy while discovering true passion. No doubt you will benefit from this 31-day journey to greater joy inside and outside the bedroom.
-Clifford and Joyce Penner, authors of The Gift of Sex
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31 DAYS TO A HAPPY HUSBAND Copyright 2012 by Arlene Pellicane Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com
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Pellicane, Arlene, 1971- 31 days to a happy husband / Arlene Pellicane.
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ISBN 978-0-7369-4632-2 (pbk.) ISBN 978-0-7369-4633-9 (eBook) 1. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity. 2. Husbands-Psychology. 3. Wives-Conduct of life. I. Title. II. Title: Thirty-one days to a happy husband.
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For James The keeper of the flame
Contents
Introduction: Are You Still Dreaming?
Marriage Quiz: Do You Have a Happy Husband?
Guide 1: Domestic Tranquillity
Day 1: From Chaos to Calm
Day 2: Super Daddy
Day 3: Take a Number
Day 4: Money Talks
Day 5: Working Blues
Guide 2: Respect
Day 6: Alpha Dog
Day 7: Big Hunk
Day 8: Don t Go Changing
Day 9: 20,000 Words
Day 10: Brew It
Day 11: Cue the Knight
Guide 3: Eros
Day 12: Numero Uno
Day 13: Free to Be Me
Day 14: Garlic Killed My Love Life
Day 15: Clear and Present Danger
Day 16: Stranger in the Night
Day 17: From Sunday School to the Locker Room
Day 18: Process Not Perfection
Day 19: Snuggle Power
Guide 4: Attraction
Day 20: Chocolate Anyone?
Day 21: Extreme Home Makeover
Day 22: I Still Do
Day 23: Happy Wife, Happy Life
Day 24: No Drama Divas Here
Day 25: Timeless Beauty
Day 26: Lovers Lane to the Empty Nest
Guide 5: Mutual Activities
Day 27: Date Night
Day 28: He Time, She Time
Day 29: It s Supposed to Be Fun
Day 30: Unstuck
Day 31: To the Eiffel Tower
Conclusion: Now Let s Talk About Me
Daily Affirmations of the Happy Wife
Notes
The Wives of Happy Husbands Club Discussion Guide
Acknowledgments
Visit Arlene s website for bonus material: www.ArlenePellicane.com
About Arlene Pellicane
About the Publisher
Introduction
Are You Still Dreaming?
T he year was 1999 and my big moment had finally arrived. I stood holding my father s arm, ready to make my grand entrance into the church. James and I had decided to have one of his favorite seminary professors marry us. Ours was only his second wedding to officiate, but we didn t care about his inexperience.
Just as I approached the door leading into the sanctuary, I was shocked to hear the sound of our professor s voice, Dearly beloved, we are gathered here to bring James and Arlene together in holy matrimony. The only problem was, I was still standing in the hall with all the bridesmaids. Our professor mistook a break in the music as his cue to begin the ceremony.
I couldn t believe my eyes or ears. Our dear professor got all the way through his introduction before realizing his error. When he got to that famous line, Who gives this woman to be married to this man? there was complete silence. Our friends and family didn t know whether to laugh or be mortified.
At this, my aunt started playing the piano, and I was thrust through the door of the church to join my ceremony in progress . I never thought in my wildest dreams that I d miss the beginning of my own wedding, but it sure has given us many laughs over the years.
Do you remember the day you said I do ? I hope the ceremony didn t start without you. Remember walking down the aisle, feeling like the happiest woman in the world? Your heart was full of dreams for the future. Are you still dreaming today?
Keep Honeymooning
So many couples told us after we tied the knot, Just wait until you ve been married a few years. You won t be so lovey-dovey anymore. But there was one lone voice who gave us the opposite advice. Never let the honeymoon end, he said. It s much easier to keep love alive than to try to revive something that has died. We vowed to follow his advice.
Fast-forward the tape twelve years to our aha moment. James and I were teaching a young-marrieds class at our church. On the first day of class, we noticed there was not a centimeter of space in between these newlywed couples. Wives were superglued to their husbands sides. Eyes were locked, hands were held, hair was twirled. I looked over at my James who was sitting about a foot away from me. We, the sage teachers, needed a refresher course on touch, affection, and romance.
Most likely you know what I m talking about. The heat of passion turns into the warmth of companionship. But that warmth, if we don t take time to stoke the embers, can slowly turn into a cool disengagement between husband and wife. And before you know it, you re two roommates sharing a home, a bank ac