Brave Enough to Succeed

Valorie Burton

Description

You Can Get UnstuckMost people aren't brave enough to live the life of their dreams. But that doesn't have to be your story. Truth is, living an inauthentic life isn't easy. It's hard. It weighs you down. It burdens your spirit. But starting now, you can transform your fears into action.Certified Personal and Executive Coach Valorie Burton, author of Successful Women Think Differently (over 200,000 copies sold), will guide you toward a breakthrough with 40 powerful tools, teaching you toget honest about what you want and remove the blocks that prevent progressend self-sabotaging habits that produce anxiety release perfectionism and make real progress toward your goalsreplace your self-criticism with self-compassion develop empowering habits that bring joy, productivity and freedomYour success requires courage to face your fears so you can get unstuck and be unstoppable.You can do it. It starts right here.Brave Enough to Succeed is a revised and expanded edition of Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable.

Informations

• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers
• Date de parution: 07 novembre 2017
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736970976
• Langue: English

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HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS
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BRAVE ENOUGH TO SUCCEED
Previously published as Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable
Copyright 2014 Valorie Burton
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
ISBN 978-0-7369-7096-9 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-7097-6 (eBook)
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Burton, Valorie, 1973- author.
Title: Brave enough to succeed: 40 strategies for getting unstuck / Valorie Burton.
Description: Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House Publishers, 2017.
Identifiers: LCCN 2017014017 (print) | LCCN 2017033745 (ebook) | ISBN 9780736970976 (ebook) | ISBN 9780736970969 (pbk.)
Subjects: LCSH: Success-Religious aspects-Christianity.
Classification: LCC BV4598.3 (ebook) | LCC BV4598.3 .B868 2017 (print) | DDC 248.4-dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2017014017
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Contents
Introduction
8 Irrefutable Rules of Getting Unstuck
Part 1: Confront the Truth
Tell Yourself the Truth
Dive Below the Surface
Get Mad, Cry It Out
Stop Staring at the Closed Door
Part 2: Manage Your Thoughts
See Through the FOG
Pinpoint Your Fear Pattern
Stop Rehashing the Past
Stop Catastrophizing
Don t Let the Stuff You Can t Control Control You
Boost Your Brainpower
Let It Get Messy
Part 3: Build Your Faith
Build Your Bank of Evidence
Surrender
Go Through the Green Lights
Be God s Ambassador
Part 4: Adjust Your Attitude
Adjust Your Normal
Talk About What You Want , Not What You Don t Want
Lighten Up
Be Gentle with Yourself
Want Less, Get More
Own Your Happiness
Part 5: Take Action
Rewrite the Script
Get Specific-Really Specific
Do It. Delay It. Delete It.
Start Moving and Inspiration Will Come
Give Yourself Permission to Do It Badly
Begin
Ask
Find an App
Part 6: Be Intentional About Relationships
Choose Your Cast and Crew
Drop the Toxic Friendship
Get on the Same Side
Part 7: Maintain Your Motivation
Take Charge of This Moment
Commit or Quit
Today Is a Day You Can Win
Build Some Momentum
Know Your Motivation Killers
Keep Going
Do Your Own Year in Review
Conclusion
About the Author
Introduction
I n all my years of helping people through the process of getting unstuck, I have noticed one trait that makes their success possible. Without it, a breakthrough can never happen. You can analyze why you are stuck. You can attempt to plan your way out of a mess. You can pinpoint your fears with precision. But you can t do anything about the fear or the mess or your frustration until you do one thing: Decide to be brave.
People like to say that the most successful people are fearless. I don t believe that. There is no such thing as fearlessness. We all have fear, but we don t all respond to it in the same way. Many of us learned somewhere along the way that fear is a stop sign. And so when feelings of fear emerge-anxiety, discomfort, nervousness-we take that as a signal to stop moving forward. Fear is a learned response.
But you can unlearn that response. The most successful people aren t fearless. What many call fearlessness is an alternative response to fear-bravery.
But how can you become more brave? What does it look like in everyday life? That s what this book is about. Bravery isn t simply about the big moments when it seems everything is at stake and everyone is watching. Being brave is mostly about the small moments
When you speak up even though you re nervous.
When you catch yourself rehashing the past when you need to be focused on the future.
When you are tempted to downsize a goal to make it fit everyone else s expectations, but instead you choose to be true to yourself.
When you are willing to go deeper into debt trying to keep up an image, but choose instead to put your credit card away.
When you follow through with a difficult decision even though you could turn back.
As I write these words, I am picturing you : eyes focused on these pages, your mind hoping to read words that will finally get you unstuck and moving directly toward the sincere desires of your heart. You are smart. Hopeful. Motivated. And one more thing I know about you: The word stuck resonates in your spirit- and you wish it didn t . Some part of you, if not every part of you, is tired of being overwhelmed by the multitude of choices in your life, paralyzed by fears that lead you to play it safe, and dreaming big dreams that never seem to be fully realized. You are ready to move forward. Perhaps you just need a few tools to show you how. I am writing this book to help you do just that.
So just what does it mean to be stuck?
Stuck is a pattern of counterproductive thinking or behavior that results in your not moving toward that which you desire. It is typically a result of internalized fear, confusion, chaos, overwhelm, being lost, lack of clarity, or pessimism. By this definition, being stuck is not something that happens one time. If you stumble once, get back up, and move on, you are not stuck. That s a mistake. That s life. But if you find yourself repeatedly in similar situations, struggling with similar challenges, then stuck is an appropriate description. Perhaps some of these ring a bell:
Your fear of failure, rejection, or disapproval keeps you from your dreams. Instead, you pursue other goals that feel more attainable or acceptable to others.
Your procrastination habit creates a lot of anxiety. No matter how many times you try to stop procrastinating, you seem to always find something else to do when it comes time to get down to business with that all-important project.
You can t seem to get control over your schedule, but you cannot figure out why. You find yourself regularly frustrated that you can t get places on time, you can t get all your projects completed, and you can t say no to new requests!
You repeatedly find yourself in relationships that are dysfunctional and unhealthy in some way. Even when you meet new people, the relationship may start off fine, but eventually you are disappointed because the same dynamic eventually emerges.
You rarely, if ever, ask for what you want. You take what others offer and then resent that they are not giving you what you want.
You have attempted to break that bad habit-overeating, smoking, running up debt-but your efforts only last so long and eventually you fall back into your old ways. You wonder if there is any point in trying to change anymore.
Maybe it is the setback you are still trying to overcome or the decision you now regret that sideswiped you into a ditch. Or maybe there isn t any one event that seems to define your stuckness. Instead, stuck has become a way of life. You ve gotten used to it. You may not even think of yourself as stuck anymore. You ve rationalized that this is just how life is. But deep down, you know you are settling-and you re really not okay with that, even when you try to convince yourself otherwise. You feel a constant uneasiness-a lack of peace-about where things stand in your life. You are somewhat in God s will, but you want to be perfectly in His will-and that s going to mean making some shifts and changes. Since you have taken the step of getting this book and reading these words, I believe you are ready to get unstuck and become absolutely unstoppable. What that looks like, I hope to help you define on the pages that follow.
Like you, I ve been stuck many times.
I write this book to you not as someone who has always been unstoppable, but as someone who has been stuck-many times-and somehow managed to get unstuck. I also write as a coach who has personally helped hundreds of people get unstuck in their careers, relationships, finances, and even weight loss. (You ll read some of their stories in the following pages.) Each and every time, there are principles that must be internalized and embraced. Throughout this book I will reference these principles and show you the way to navigate through them.
People who know me find it peculiar when I share my struggles with procrastination. That is because they see the end result and have no idea of the sticky, counterproductive, self-sabotaging habits I had to overcome to get there. So allow me to let you in on some of my journey-the self-sabotaging, undisciplined, frustrating but common situations I repeatedly found myself in.
I am a recovering procrastinator. I say recovering because I fall off the wagon-often-like when it was time to write this book. You d think that by the time an author dives into her tenth book, she has her habits all perfectly in order. I don t. I still have to wrangle that procrastination demon who whispers repeatedly, You can write tomorrow. That deadline is not for a while. Besides, you have more outlining, organizing, and laundry to do. If you ve ever found yourself avoiding what needs to get done in fav