Catholic Woman's Guide to Romance

Rose Sweet

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Calling all Catholic women! Has your longing for real romance never really been satisfied? Have you been let down by love or marriage? Are you tired of asking God for happily ever after? Hope is here. In this her latest in the series all about romance! -noted author Rose Sweet reveals the truth behind flowers, love letters, and the deepest desires of the heart. The Catholic Woman's Guide series integrates classic Catholic theology (Theology of the Body and teachings on contemplative prayer) with Sweet's unique brand of story and humor and will help you to find and hold on to authentic happiness, love, and joy in every area of your life. In this second volume, The Catholic Women's Guide to Romance, Sweet takes you through the doorway of romance that leads deep into the "Interior Life." Topics include: Expressing love in rites and rituals Seeing romance in religion Lusting for love in ways that hurt us Hearing the Bridegroom and saying "yes" Understanding the meaning of Scripture Unveiling the secrets hidden in the Mass Sweet reveals the "Seven Stages of Romance" and points to the places we often get stuck or lost. Her most surprising secret of all will fill you with joy at the extravagant love God has for you! The Adventure awaits! Accompany Rose through the portal of romance to the Love that never fails!

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• Publié par: TAN Books
• Date de parution: 22 août 2019
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781505112405
• Langue: English

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A Catholic Woman’s Guide to Romance
A CATHOLIC WOMAN’S GUIDE TO ROMANCE
Rose Sweet
TAN Books Charlotte, North Carolina
Copyright © 2019 Rose Sweet
All rights reserved. With the exception of short excerpts used in critical review, no part of this work may be reproduced, transmitted, or stored in any form whatsoever without the prior written permission of the publisher.
Unless otherwise noted, Scripture quotations are from the Revised Standard Version of the Bible—Second Catholic Edition (Ignatius Edition), copyright © 2006 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Excerpts from the English translation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church for use in the United States of America © 1994, United States Catholic Conference, Inc.—Libreria Editrice Vaticana. Used with permission.
Cover design by Caroline K. Green
Cover image: Old wooden door with bougainvillea in Cyprus. Photo by dinosmichail/Shutterstock.
Library of Congress Control Number: 2019930530
ISBN: 978-1-5051-1224-5
Published in the United States by
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PO Box 410487
Charlotte, NC 28241
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Contents
Part 1: About Romance
Introduction
1 Opening the Door
2 Expanding the Definition
3 Exploring the Erotic
4 Going to the Cross
5 Ruling the Heart
6 Speaking in Rituals
7 Seeing Romance in Religion
8 Kissing Romance Goodbye
Part 2: About Marriage
9 Lusting for Love
10 Hearing the Bridegroom
11 Receiving the Gift
12 Following the Recipe
13 Searching the Scriptures
14 Wooing the Soul
15 Appraising the Analogy
16 Accepting the Proposal
17 Feasting at the Banquet
Part 3: About the Mass
18 Unveiling the Marriage in the Mass
19 Consummating the Marriage
20 Living Happily Ever After
Conclusion
P ART 1
About Romance
To fall in love with God is the greatest romance; to seek him, the greatest adventure; to find him, the greatest human achievement .
—St. Augustine of Hippo
Introduction
R omance!
Some people dream of and hope for it.
Some pursue it with a vengeance.
Some want nothing to do with it ever again (and maybe understandably)!
Some simply no longer believe in it.
I admit I’ve been in all those places. Surprisingly, it was the Catholic Church that led me to the truth of it and of my deepest, heart-felt longings. No matter where you are in your understanding of romance, I propose that it is much bigger and more mysterious than many of us ever realized.
Let’s start with a greater, cosmic meaning: romance is the expression and/or experience of love through beauty . It can be love for family, children, and life in general. Any passionate expression through words and gestures of what is loving, good, and beautiful can be “romantic” as in:
The old man who opens the door for his granddaughter .
The mother who shows her girls how to set a beautiful table .
The father who teaches his children to lose themselves in classical music .
The guide who shows his followers a glorious mountaintop sunset .
Romance is an unlikely “secret” doorway that leads to something surprising and pretty spectacular. Young, old, single, married, divorced, widowed, or religious … you’re going to love it! Are you ready to walk through?
1
Opening the Door
And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it .
—Roald Dahl, The Minpins 1
“T oto, I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.”
You know the scene—Dorothy Gale has suddenly been transported to another world and is taking in the magical, breathtaking wonders of a very strange place. Released in 1939, MGM’s grand Technicolor fantasy film, The Wizard of Oz , won the hearts of millions when it debuted on TV for the first time in 1956. It is one of the most watched movies of all time and became an annual household tradition when I was growing up.
It was both fascinating and scary. I’ll never forget the anxiety I felt watching Dorothy being tossed wildly about in the tornado, seeing Miss Gulch morph into the Wicked Witch just outside Dorothy’s window, and being unnerved by the witch’s evil, cackling laugh. When Dorothy hit her head and was knocked unconscious, I was so distressed.
But, thankfully, in a few minutes, it was over. A slightly dazed Dorothy rose from the bed, picked up her dog, Toto, walked to the front door of the house, and slowly opened it—to a world full of brilliant color!
I was mesmerized.
Through that wooden portal, she stepped away from her sepia-toned life into a magical, color-splashed world of sunshine, sweetly singing birds, and even strains of heavenly music. Beautiful giant blooms of every kind grew abundantly along the yellow-brick road—and did she see something moving in those flower bushes?
Our world has “magic” doorways
Like Dorothy’s farmhouse door, mysterious openings to the interior world are all around us. They are not magic as in sorcery or New Age, but natural entryways that lead to the mysterious and supernatural world that coexists with ours. God has secrets, but because he loves us, he wants us to discover them. Some doorways are natural—like nature, music, art, or science—and others are supernatural, like prayer and the sacraments. They all lead to the same transcendent realm from which we came and to which we are destined to return: the very heart of God.
Living in Kansas, Dorothy was restless—something inside her was calling. Life on the farm with Uncle Henry and Auntie Em just wasn’t cutting it. She wanted deeper meaning, a greater happiness, and was willing to leave the safety and familiarity of home for a grand adventure. Have you been restless and longed to go farther, deeper, and higher than ever? From childhood, I believed romance was my great destiny; despite its thrills and pleasures, I discovered it was only a doorway to something greater. Romance, and all the wild, passionate longings that come with it, is one of those natural gateways that will take us to God—if we let it.
Are you ready for an adventure into the interior life? Here are some things to remember before we leave the farm.
The turbulence of life can take us to magical places
In a sense, Dorothy Gale’s story is prophetic; it is often the ominous storms of life and the terrible tornadoes of suffering that yank us violently out of our self-focused, black-and-white lives to discover something more profound. I never really noticed the hidden passages in this life that lead to ultimate happiness. I was too busy in my own little world to see God’s mysteries and hear his voice. So if you ever get stuck in that restless place, I say let the clouds appear and the wind begin to blow!
Doorways are all around us
Once we have the eyes to see, we will discover that doorways to the interior life are all around us. God is calling you into the interior world. He invites you to enjoy the gifts he has bestowed upon you in this world but always to let them serve as signs to lead you deeper. In fact, his call is less of a summons than it is a proposal for the ultimate happily-ever-after romance. After all, adventure and romance go hand-in-hand!
“God, infinitely perfect and blessed in himself, in a plan of sheer goodness freely created man to make him share in his own blessed life. For this reason, at every time and in every place , God draws close to man. He calls man to seek him, to know him, to love him with all his strength” (CCC 1, emphasis added).
Romance is a secret way of seeing into heaven
At its heart, everything that is romantic is a clue to seeing God as the Bridegroom who deeply longs for you, his beloved Bride . The saints and mystics know that romance is the beginning of what is called “bridal spirituality,” one of many ways to understand God’s love for us and our relationship with him.
Authentic spirituality is not about communing with nature, experiencing deep emotions, stretching, breathing, or lowering your stress level—although those can be results of it. Rather, it’s about really seeing and being drawn closer to God, a Person who desires loving, life-giving union with you. Through the colorful world of this “spousal imagery,” I trust you will be surprised and delighted to see or remember that:

• his words of love are ever-present,
• traces of his divine presence are everywhere,
• and his love notes are written on everything he created.
Here are some other things to think about.
The pure of heart will see this imagery first
It’s embarrassing to admit that we can’t see something someone else can. We’ve all been given the eyes to see beyond this visible world, but sadly, we’ve become too distracted, jaded, or are afraid to let go of the safe, secure world we’ve created for ourselves. Jesus said we must be like little children, wide open to the wonders he has for us.
You have to really want to see the unseen
Do you believe in fantasy? By itself, it can seem to be merely man-made myth, but with God’s grace, you can see past the poetry to the fullness of truth. Fantasy reveals man’s desire to see and enter the supernatural world—which we as Catholics know is real.
Contrary to a popular cultural belief that you can visualize something and make it happen, simply wanting to see something will not get it for you. Trust me; I’ve visualized the same ten pounds (okay, fifteen) gone a million times! But with God’s grace and a guide to help you on your journey, you will be able to truly see the mystical.
God wants to wow you!
As a child (and even still today), I was so excited to see Munchkin Land, the enchanted forest, and then the breathtaking brilliant-green grandeur of the Emerald City. Oz is a doorway to the deeper understanding that there truly is a place “no eye has seen, … no ear has heard, and … no human mind has conceived” all the thing