Focus on the Family(R) Guide to Talking with Your Kids about Sex

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Sexual images saturate today's culture--and children will learn about sex somewhere. But research shows that they want to learn from the parents they trust. Talking about sex doesn't have to be a fear-filled challenge. The Focus on the Family® Guide to Talking with Your Kids about Sex shows parents how to talk with confidence to their kids about sex and sexuality. This candid resource is full of the latest information, practical insights, and age-appropriate answers to the questions parents and children ask about sex. Focus on the Family's Physicians Resource Council, along with research from The Medical Institute for Sexual Health provides parents with the tools and empowering encouragement they need in order to communicate more effectively and biblically about sex, self-control, and self-respect at every stage of a child's development.

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• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 15 octobre 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781441244444
• Langue: English

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© 2005, 2013 by the Medical Institute for Sexual Health
Portions of this book originally appeared in Questions Kids Ask About Sex , published by Fleming H. Revell.
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Ebook edition created 2013
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ISBN 978-1-4412-4444-4
All Scripture quotations are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 Biblica. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved.
The information in this book is intended solely as an educational resource, not a tool to be used for medical diagnosis or treatment. The information presented is in no way a substitute for consultation with a personal health care professional. Readers should consult their personal health care professional before adopting any of the suggestions in this book or drawing inferences from the text. The author(s) and publisher specifically disclaim all responsibility for any liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, which is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use of and/or application of any of the contents of this book.
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Acknowledgments 7
About the Medical Institute for Sexual Health 9
Introduction 13
Part 1: Knowing What You’re Doing
1. Where’s the Party? The Need for Parental Guidance 17
2. The Big Deal Is You! Parents Do Make a Difference 23
3. What a Girl Wants: Attention, Affection, and Affirmation 31
4. Let the Adventure Begin: The Makings of a Man 37
5. Rules of Engagement: Ways to Listen so They Will Talk 43
6. Questions, Anyone? What Parents Need to Know 49
Part 2: The Answers You Need and They Want
7. Baby Steps: Infants to Four-Year-Olds 69
8. First Comes Love: Five- to Seven-Year-Olds 87
9. Breaking Free: Eight- to Ten-Year-Olds 109
10. Tell Me More: Eleven- to Twelve-Year-Olds 131
11. Diving In: Thirteen- to Fifteen-Year-Olds 153
12. Unfinished Business: Sixteen - to Eighteen-Year-Olds 193
13. Moving Out: College and Beyond 235
Appendix A:Sexually Transmitted Infections 261
Appendix B:What You Need to Know about Contraceptives 281
Notes 289
Index 297
Back Cover 305
Acknowledgments
T his book would not have been possible without the tireless efforts of all the individuals involved. Thanks to the Medical Institute for Sexual Health, along with the following individuals for their contribution and passion to help motivate parents to talk with their children about sex.
Medical Institute Writing Team
Melissa R. Cox, Highlands Ranch, Colorado
J. Thomas Fitch, MD, Pediatrics, San Antonio, Texas
Patricia Francis, MD, Pediatrics, Moraga, California
Wilson Wayne Grant, MD, Pediatrics, San Antonio, Texas
Marilyn A. Maxwell, MD, Internal Medicine/Pediatrics, St. Louis, Missouri
Joe S. McIlhaney Jr., MD, Obstetrics/Gynecology, Austin, Texas
Margaret J. Meeker, MD, Pediatrics, Traverse City, Michigan
Paul A. Warren, MD, Behavioral Pediatrics, Plano, Texas
Focus on the Family Writing and Editorial Team
David Davis, Colorado Springs, Colorado
John Duckworth, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Jim Ware, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Contributors
W. David Hager, MD, Obstetrics/Gynecology, Lexington, Kentucky
Joneen Krauth Mackenzie, RN, BSN, WAIT Training, Denver, Colorado
Lynn Lutz, PhD, Dallas, Texas
Mary Anne Nelson, MD, Cedar Rapids, Iowa
Curtis C. Stine, MD, Tallahassee, Florida
Research Editor
Anjum Khurshid, MBBS, MPAFF, MA, the Medical Institute, Austin, Texas
Reviewers
Lisa Beck, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Reed Bell, MD, Pensacola, Florida
Steven Brown, MD, Midland, Texas
Christina Browning, LCSW, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Byron Calhoun, MD, Charleston, West Virginia
Joann Condie, RN, LPC, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Cynthia Barlow Dervaes, LPC, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Freda McKissic Bush, MD, Jackson, Mississippi
Kate Hendricks, MD, MPH, Austin, Texas
Beverly Henry, LCSW, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Leanna Hollis, MD, Blue Springs, Mississippi
Daniel Huerta, MSW, LCSW, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Jeff Johnston, Colorado Springs, Colorado
Gaylen M. Kelton, MD, Indianapolis, Indiana
Grace Ogbeche, MBBS, MPH, Austin, Texas
David Roper, San Antonio, Texas
Brooke Spencer, San Antonio, Texas
Lynne Tingle, PhD, Charlotte, North Carolina
About the Medical Institute for Sexual Health
T his book is a resource from Focus on the Family, which is responsible for its content. We have relied heavily, however, on input from the Medical Institute for Sexual Health (MI), especially regarding medical, scientific, and statistical information.
MI is a nonprofit organization that promotes healthy sexuality (physically, emotionally, socially, and psychologically) for all ages rooted in credible science, in an attempt to combat the damaging effects of the casual-sex culture that has infected our society.
MI identifies, evaluates, and communicates scientific data in understandable, practical, dynamic formats to promote healthy sexual decisions and behavior. It distributes almost one hundred thousand pieces of material each year to individuals and organizations across the United States and throughout the world, and maintains a national advisory board of medical doctors, counselors, psychologists, educators, and parents.
Leaders at the Centers for Disease Control, the US Health and Human Services Department, the White House, and state-level government offices, as well as educators and parents across the nation, have sought advice from the Medical Institute about sexual issues affecting our nation’s teens. You can reach MI at 1101 S. Capital of Texas Highway, Building B, Suite 100, Austin, TX 78746. To order resources, contact www.medinstitute.org or call 512–328–6268 weekdays, 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. (central time). You can also reach the Medical Institute by email at [e-mail] or on the web at www.medinstitute.org/contact/contact-us .
Editor
Melissa Cox is vice-president of Cox Creative, Inc., a full-service marketing and advertising firm in Denver. Previously she served the Medical Institute for Sexual Health as director of marketing and public relations. She also was editor of Focus on the Family’s Physician magazine and managing editor of the bestselling Complete Book of Baby and Child Care (Focus on the Family/Tyndale, 1997) .
Medical Institute Writing Team
J. Thomas Fitch, MD, is a retired pediatrician in San Antonio, Texas, who practiced for over forty years. He’s especially interested in helping parents of adolescents understand how they can help their children avoid risk-taking behaviors like alcohol and drug use as well as nonmarital sexual activity. He’s become a national authority on condom effectiveness and was an expert member of the National Institutes of Health Condom Effectiveness Panel. As past president of the Texas Pediatric Society, he’s given numerous professional presentations to colleagues and has been published in a variety of periodicals. Dr. Fitch previously served as a clinical professor in the department of pediatrics at the University of Texas Health Sciences Center in San Antonio, Texas. A content editor for Complete Book of Baby and Child Care and member of Focus on the Family’s Physician Resource Council, he has served as the chairman of the Medical Institute’s board of directors.
Patricia Francis, MD, a pediatrician in Lafayette, California, has been in private practice since 1985. As the mother of two daughters, she’s focused on issues affecting young women, including eating disorders and making healthy decisions about sex. Dr. Francis volunteers for a number of organizations in the Bay Area and in developing countries. She’s a member of a variety of professional medical organizations and was a content editor for Focus on the Family’s Complete Book of Baby and Child Care . She previously served as a member of the Medical Institute’s national advisory board and the Physicians Resource Council of Focus on the Family.
Wilson Wayne Grant, MD, a pediatrician with one of the busiest private practices in San Antonio, Texas, works with children from at-risk populations. He’s a child development specialist with more than thirty years of experience and a unique ability to communicate with his patients at their level plus a special interest in helping teens make wise choices. He’s written many books, including From Parent to Child about Sex , Growing Parents Growing Children , The Caring Father , and Strategies for Success How to Help Your Child with Attention Deficit Disorder . He’s a member of a variety of professional medical organizations, and has served as medical director of the South Texas Children’s Habilitation Center and on the clinical faculty of the University of Texas at San Antonio Medical School. He is also a member of the Medical Institute’s national advisory board.
Marilyn A. Maxwell, MD, is professor of internal medicine and pediatrics and director of the internal medicine-pediatrics residency program at St. Louis University. Previously she was medical director of People’s Health Centers, Inc., a large, federally funded community health center where she established an adolescent clinic. Many of her patients were unwed mothers or teens with sexually transmitted infections. A member of numerous professional organizations, she was a content editor for Focus on the Family’s Complete Book of Baby and Child Care . She also serves on the Physicians Resource Council of Focus on the Family.
Joe S. McIlhaney Jr., MD, an obstet