Growing With

Kara Powell

Description

Many parents of a teenager or young adult feel as though they're guessing about what to do next--with mixed results. We want to stay connected with our maturing child, but we're not sure how. And deep down, we fear our child doesn't want or need us.Based on brand-new research and interviews with remarkable families, Growing With equips parents to take steps toward their teenagers and young adults in a mutual journey of intentional growth that trusts God to transform them all. By highlighting three groundbreaking family strategies, authors Kara Powell and Steven Argue show parents that it's never too early or too late to- accept the child you have, not the child you wish you had - work toward solutions rather than only identifying problems- develop empathy that nudges rather than judges- fight for your child, not against them- connect your children with a faith and church big enough to handle their doubts and struggles- dive into tough discussions about dating, career, and finances- and unleash your child's passions and talents to change our worldFor any parent who longs for their kids to keep their roots even as they spread their wings, Growing With offers practical help and hope for the days--and years--ahead.

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 05 mars 2019
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781493415298
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

Extrait

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Endorsements
“In Growing With , Kara and Steve approach the topic of parenting with sound biblical wisdom and valuable practical tools. As a mother of two, I will be applying these insights to my own parenting in these rapidly changing times.”
Christine Caine , bestselling author; founder of A21 and Propel Women
“There is no joy or challenge or burden like that of parenthood. We’re drowning in information; we crave wisdom. Growing With has both. It is an outstanding book.”
John Ortberg , senior pastor of Menlo Church; author of I’ d Like You More If You Were More Like Me
“As a dad of two teenagers, I couldn’t wait for this book! The mix of real research and real families makes it a valuable addition to any parent’s toolbox.”
Jon Acuff , New York Times bestselling author of Finish
“ Growing With is bursting with good news for all parents of teenagers and young adults: you don’t have to feel alone, and you don’t have to guess what to do next. Through groundbreaking research on families like yours, this book gives you the best answers to your toughest questions about your maturing child’s relationship with you, God, and our world.”
Neil Clark Warren , chairman and cofounder of eHarmony.com
“At a time when the generation gap feels wider and the parenting journey more confusing, Growing With offers a way forward through practical resources, thought-provoking questions, and real-life stories. This is a must-read guide for those wanting to grow and to see their children thrive.”
Tom Lin , president and CEO of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship
“Kara and Steve’s research is helping a generation of parents know how to raise kids who are healthy, loved, and ready to face the challenges of this world. This book is a must-read for parents everywhere.”
Margaret Feinberg , author of Taste and See
“We all sense that everything’s changing, especially when it comes to parenting and raising the next generation. That’s why I’m so thankful for Growing With . Kara Powell and Steve Argue combine top-notch clinical research, their personal parenting journeys, and a wealth of experience gleaned from helping thousands of parents into an incredible book that will guide parents as they navigate the journey ahead. If you’re looking for expert guidance at a critical time because the stakes are high, you’ll find it here.”
Carey Nieuwhof , founding pastor of Connexus Church; author of Didn’ t See It Coming
“What an incredible book! With one teenager and one twentysomething, we feel like Kara and Steve wrote it just for us—and we couldn’t be more grateful. Growing With is chock full of compelling, inspiring, and practical help. We’ll be recommending this book to every parent we know.”
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott , #1 New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
“As pastors, my colleagues and I have countless counseling sessions with parents and their adulting children in which both generations have to learn fresh ways to engage each other. I couldn’t be happier that Kara Powell and Steve Argue have given leaders and parents a map to navigate this critical space!”
Bryan Loritts , pastor of Abundant Life; author of Insider/ Outsider
“If you are looking for a fresh perspective on parenting, this is the book. Kara and Steve offer a paradigm-shifting approach that feels both empowering and practical. If you want to connect with your kids in more meaningful ways, are curious about the changing landscape of adolescence, or want revolutionary ideas for how to help raise empowered adults who are connected to their family and faith, Growing With is the resource you have been searching for.”
Mandy Arioto , president and CEO of MOPS International
“Every parent I know (including me) feels overwhelmed and underprepared! I’m so grateful that this well-researched and easy-to-read book offers parents a lifeline. Growing With is deep enough to help you adjust to your maturing child, authentic enough to fill you with the courage you crave, and practical enough to guide your next conversation with your teenager or young adult. Not just you but your whole family will be glad you’ve read this book.”
Doug Fields , author of Intentional Parenting ; cofounder of Downloadyouthministry.com
“ Growing With thoroughly arms parents by providing heartfelt and necessary insights regarding strategies for the holistic development of youth. As a parent of two young adults and a trainer of youth workers, I found Growing With to be a welcome addition to my training tool kit. This guide will rescue many parents as they navigate through difficult spaces and will bring new supports to the needs of the ever-changing family.”
Virginia Ward , assistant dean of the Boston campus and assistant professor of youth ministry and leadership, Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary
“In Growing With , Kara and Steve help parents, teachers, pastors, leaders, and mentors understand the power of walking alongside their adolescent and young adult children and friends. Their focused research and practical advice provide knowledgeable and actionable steps that each of us can take as we enter into the lives of young people in hopes of being a blessing to them and seeking God’s best for them as they move toward adulthood.”
Newt Crenshaw , president of Young Life
“No two families are alike, no two parents are alike, and no two phases are alike. Kara and Steve give you all you need to know and do to have a winning relationship with your ever-changing teenager or twentysomething. If you’re like me, you’re going to recommend this book to every parent you know.”
Reggie Joiner , founder and CEO of Orange
“As a parent, I’m always looking and listening to people I trust. I trust Kara Powell and Steve Argue because I’ve known them both as people and as leaders. Their hearts to raise up godly young people are on display in Growing With . Parents, we need this research and insight because the culture our children are growing up in changes daily. I’m so thankful for this great project!”
Tyler Reagin , president of Catalyst; author of The Life- Giving Leader
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2019 by Kara Powell and Steven Argue
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2019
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-1529-8
Authors are represented by WordServe Literary Group (www.wordserveliterary.com).
Dedication

To Nathan, Krista, and Jessica Powell; and Kara, Elise, and Lauren Argue. Growing with you is one of our greatest joys and privileges. Your love, laughter, and perspectives animate these pages and our lives.
Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Half Title Page 5
Title Page 7
Copyright Page 8
Dedication 9
Acknowledgments 13
PART 1 GROWING WITH PARENTING 17
1. Growing Up Today: How Our Kids’ Paths Are Different from Ours 19
2. Pursuing the Growing With Posture: Parenting in Real Time 48
PART 2 THRIVING IN FAMILY: “WITHING” 73
3. Getting Warmer: Everyday Steps That Build Withing 75
4. Walls of Support: Withing That Repairs and Reorients Your Relationship 105
PART 3 THRIVING IN FAITH: “FAITHING” 135
5. Personal Faithing: A Quest for a Faith That Grows With 137
6. Faithing Together: Searching for Communities That Support Our Faith Journeys 165
PART 4 THRIVING IN FUTURE: “ADULTING” 199
7. Relational Adulting: Friends, Love, and the Search for Connection 201
8. Vocational Adulting: Shaping Our World through Service and Career 236
Conclusion: Growing With from Here On 273
Appendix: Growing Young Families Project 279
Notes 283
About the Authors 297
Back Ads 299
Back Cover 303
Acknowledgments
A mutual journey.
Those are the first three words of our definition of Growing With parenting.
That’s not just how we try to parent. It’s also how we try to live as scholars, leaders, colleagues, and followers of Jesus.
And it’s definitely what made this book possible.
That journey is far better thanks to three teammates at the Fuller Youth Institute—Brad Griffin, Jake Mulder, and Tyler Greenway—who lent their best insights, editing, and research savvy to this book.
We also love sharing this Fuller Youth Institute adventure with the rest of our team, who we brag about at every chance: Jennifer Guerra Aldana, Irene Cho, Macy Davis, Rachel Dodd, Matthew Deprez, Nica Halula, Jen Hananouchi, Cass McCarthy, Giovanny Panginda, Caleb Roose, and Daisy Rosales.
Our research on young people and families is always sharpened by our amazing colleagues at Fuller Seminary, especially Tod Bolsinger, Chap Clark, Scott Cormode, Cynthia Eriksson, Miyoung Yoon Hammer, Ben Houltberg, and Pam King, all of whom offered insights during the development of this project. We also are grateful to the Fuller faculty and deans who provide ongoing guidance to our work, including Justin Barrett, Mari Clements, Joel Green, Dave Scott, Scott Sunquist, Marianne Meye Thompson, and Jude Tiersma Watson.
Every step of our ministry and parenting trek is better (and often faster) thanks to our Advisory Council: Mary Andringa, Jim Bergman, Judy Bergman, April Diaz, Cindy Go, Wally Hawley, Megan Hutchinson, Ken Knipp, Janet Labberton, Jeff Mattesich, June Michealsen, Russ Michealsen, Christa Peitzman, Linda Prinn, Judi Shupper, Albert Tate, Jeremy Taylor, and Jeff Wright. A special thank-you to Advisory Council member Tim Galleher for his herculean work in interviewing and leading focus groups of parents during his sabbatical.
Our Growing With path has been smoothe