Love, Sex and Everything in Between

Tara Lee Dr Martha

Description

What are the sexual problems faced by most Asian women? How do you choose and wear a condom? Why do I feel the urge to masturbate even though I have regular sex with my wife? The answers to these and many other questions on love and sex are found within the pages of this new book. Presented as a series of articles interspersed with Questions and Answers on related topics, Dr Martha Tara Lee draws on her experience in this field to educate and inform readers. Written in a straight-forward manner, and no topic is taboo and readers can seek explanations to many "personal" problems and clear any doubts they may have.

Informations

• Publié par: Marshall Cavendish International
• Date de parution: 15 octobre 2013
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9789814516785
• Langue: English

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Praise for Love Sex and Everything In-between

This book for the lay person written by Dr Martha Lee fulfills its intended objective of being truly an idiot s guide book for the person coming to terms with his or her own sexuality and learning to handle all aspects of normal human sexual responses and disorders throughout one s life.
Her comfortable easy style and simple jargon-free prose steers the reader through the mysteries of human sexuality and advises them on how to identify the myriad sexual and sexuality problems they face. Although both male and female aspects are covered, being a female herself, she clearly reaches out to the women with sexual problems far more easily than a male can hope to accomplish.
This author is to be congratulated on this excellent work which will clearly find ready readership as there is no equivalent work for the lay person that so clearly gives all the answers to so many questions that we all want to ask but heitheto were afraid of doing so. The crying need for such a book is over. We owe a deep gratitude indeed to her for this valuable made-in-Singapore educational effort from which the ordinary person will be the ultimate beneficiary.
Professor Peter Lim Huat Chye, MD Senior Consultant Urological Surgeon Founder, Society for Men s Health Singapore Founder, Asian Society for Female Urology
In her book, Dr Martha Lee has exhibited her deep and profound understanding of the multi-faceted topic that is sexual health by providing clear and easily understandable explanations to what must appear to others as enigmas. The questions in her FAQ format will certainly resonate with many who are seeking clarity on their own sexuality and sexual health and to understand the sexual needs of their partners. This book is thoroughly engaging and readable with anecdotes from Dr Lee s personal experiences and also that of her multitude of patients. I definitely would recommend this book to anyone seeking a deeper insight into human sexuality.
Dr Tan Kok Kuan Chief Medical Officer Dr Tan Partners
Dr Martha Lee s dedication and sense of purpose that drives her to fulfill her life s work is truly inspiring. Martha s integrity and passion shines through in everything she does and her book is no exception. Her intelligent, candid and compassionate pragmatism makes even this sensitive subject accessible to everyone. I have met very few people with Martha s gift for bringing both scientific rationale and a depth of understanding of the very roots of humanity together. Dr Martha s insights are heartfelt and practical-this book is a must-read for anyone seeking better understanding of intimacy and sexuality.
Gina Romero Managing Director The Athena Network Singapore APAC
I have been following the work of Dr Martha Tara Lee since she became the first qualified sexologist in Singapore. I am so proud and impressed with her numerous achievements to date-and now her much anticipated first book! Martha is honest, humorous and humble through it all and truly a rising star in the field of sexology. Her personality shines through in this book as does her comprehensive knowledge about sexual health and pleasure. You will find this an enjoyable and educational read-from her insights relating to sex and sexuality, frequently asked questions, to her personal stories.
Dr Patti Britton Pioneering Sex Coach Clinical Sexologist Co-Founder of SexCoachU.com Author of The Art of Sex Coaching

Cover design by Benson Tan
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National Library Board, Singapore Cataloguing-in-Publication Data
Lee, Martha Tara.
Love, sex and everything in-between / Dr Martha Tara Lee.-Singapore :
Marshall Cavendish Editions, 2013.
pages cm
eISBN : 978 981 4516 78 5
1. Sex customs. 2. Sexology. 3. Sex instruction. 4. Love.
HQ31
613.9071-dc23 OCN 857866314

Printed in Singapore by Markono Print Media
Contents
Why I Became a Sexologist
What a Sexologist is Not
Sex 101: It s All in Your Attitude
Defining Sex, Sexuality and Intimacy
Dispelling Certain Sexual Myths
The Importance of Listening to Your Emotions
Opening Your Heart
The Importance of Touch
The Elephant in the Bedroom: Talking about Sex
Sex is Learned
Sex is Not the Same as Studying from the 10-year-series
Sex and the King of Fruits
Sex: a Job or a Joy?
Self-love
My Body in the Mirror
You are Truly Beautiful
Masturbation is Self-love
Female Readers Ask About Masturbation
Sex Smarts
Sex Ed
Heterosexuals: Come On Out
Street Smart or Sex Smart?
C is for Condom
Oral Sex is Not Always Safe Sex
Sexual Consent
Getting Real about Sex
Sexual Milestone
Revised Sexual Terms
Male Sexual Dysfunctions
Female Sexual Dysfunctions
Six Myths about The Magic Wand
Vulvas and Vaginas are Pink
Slow Down, Cowboy!
Clearing the Air on G-spot and Female Ejaculation
Men: Orgasm Without Ejaculation is Possible
Desire Discrepancy
Sexual Addictions
Sex Without Orgasm-What s the Point?
Straying
Vaginismus
201: Better Sex
Conscious Connecting
Getting Feedback after Sex
Kegels: Squeeze, Hold, Release
The Full Body Workout in the Bedroom
Sex Toys
Fantasy
Erotica
Porn
Porn Sex
Mindful Sex
Seeking Mind-blowing Sex
Older, Wiser and Still Sexual
Appendix: 36 Things I Wish I Learned in Sex Ed
Resources
Acknowledgements
About the Author
Why I Became a Sexologist
I do this work because there is nothing else I rather be doing. Four years ago, I remember a fellow sexologist asking on an online forum if we should encourage people to pursue sexology as a career.
I responded: The work that we do is incredibly difficult and often thankless. To me, it is a calling and I do it because I cannot see myself doing anything else. I cannot speak for other people.
Prior to being a sexologist, I worked in corporate communications for eight years-doing public relations, marketing and advertising. I left a comfortable career to do non-profit work, helping young people in the area of career guidance. I was no longer satisfied with the status quo. I could no longer deny that I cared more about people than money, and helping people was more important to me than climbing the corporate ladder. I broke out of my comfort zone and there was no turning back. And yes, it was scary.
After two years of doing volunteer recruitment and management, fundraising and everything in between, I realised my heart was with working with people directly. To help from a distance was safe for me and I knew it. I had to put myself on the line.
I had been a volunteer counsellor for three years by then, and realised that there was a jarring gap in the dialogues revolving around sexuality in Singapore.
Before becoming a sexologist, I questioned why nobody was acknowledging the importance of sex and sexuality to one s sense of well-being, not to mention the role it plays in a relationship. Surely, there was more to understanding sex and sexuality than learning to protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs), making babies and getting your period?
I recognised that there was a lack of any real and meaningful conversations about sex and sexuality. If sex was this wonderful, beautiful and intimate act between two people in love, why is it always talked about so negatively?
The attitude Singaporeans have towards sex have a lot to do with the societal and media messages we are inundated with, not to mention influenced by our culture, religion and parents. Singaporeans seem to be anxious about what is normal , correct and acceptable -from length and size of anatomical parts, to sexual frequency, duration and positioning. If there were more accurate and positive sexual information and education available, many sexual concerns would not take on a life of its own or seem bigger than they actually are.
Being a sexologist allows me to be communicator, advocate, coach, teacher and healer all in one. It is a sum of everything I have studied in school, learned in life, and experienced as a human, woman, daughter and wife. My work is pure heart work, and is also hard work(!). It is the product of my desire to leave a legacy of people who are fearlessly living and embracing life fully behind.
I would like to see Singaporeans acknowledging and accepting that our sexuality forms an important part of our sense of being, and begin to dialogue openly, honestly and without guilt or shame. Singaporeans can and ought to take ownershi