Thank You for Rejecting Me

Kait Warman

Description

Our stories are riddled with the sting of rejection. It's feeling like a failure or being heartbroken. It's being left out or misunderstood. It's the parent who neglected us or the person who betrayed our trust. It's even in the way we think or talk about ourselves and question our relationship with God.Whether it happened in grade school or last week, rejection can leave deep scars that affect our relationships, our self-worth, and our identities for years to come. And while we can't control when rejection appears, we can control how we react when it does. In Thank You for Rejecting Me, popular relationship coach and podcaster Kait Warman shows you how to turn pain into purpose and fight for yourself when rejection comes your way. With chapters that focus on some of life's biggest rejections--being betrayed, abused, misunderstood, heartbroken, sexually shamed, and many more--this book offers practical tools to heal from the past, take back your power, and walk in strength, victory, and love in the future.

Informations

• Publié par: Baker Publishing Group
• Date de parution: 16 février 2021
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781493428847
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

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Endorsements
“Rejection so easily entangles us. It creates fear, it stunts our emotional growth and trust in people, it triggers feelings of unworthiness, and it becomes a mechanism of self-protection. This book offers wisdom in how to react to rejection and clearly shows how we can turn heartbreaking wounds into something purposeful and redemptive. Because rejection is inevitable, this book is a must-read!”
Lauren Scruggs , New York Times bestselling author, wellness enthusiast, lifestyle blogger, and entrepreneur
“One thing is for certain: we need more voices like Kait’s in the world, helping us navigate the hard-to-talk-about subjects like rejection, heartbreak, and insecurity. Unafraid to bring out the real talk (with a perfect amount of candor), Kait invites us into a bigger story of what life can look like when we stop avoiding the hard stuff and start fighting back. Don’t be afraid to lean all the way into this book—you’re in the best hands!”
Hannah Brencher , TED speaker and author of Fighting Forward
“Kait’s honesty and vulnerability will keep you nodding your head and turning the page. So many relationship books are written by married people who don’t understand today’s unique challenges. So many of them focus on just helping you find love. Kait has written a book that helps you look inward, deal with shame, and move forward with hope. If you’ve ever felt pain from love, Kait’s story will help you find healing.”
Jonathan Pokluda , host of the Becoming Something podcast and bestselling author of Welcome to Adulting and Outdated
“Kait has written a phenomenal guide for taking radical ownership of our stories by showing us how to maximize the power that resides within our pain. Through no-holds-barred vulnerability and the willingness to tell the unfiltered truth about life’s messiness, Thank You for Rejecting Me will show you how to live your boldest, bravest, and strongest life possible. My friends, this is a must-read!”
Mike Foster , author, counselor, and host of the Fun Therapy podcast
“Kait flips the all-too-familiar relationship so many of us have with rejection. Instead of hating it, she teaches us, through her own story, that the rejection we (meaning every human being on the planet) experience on macro and micro levels every single day can be an access point to untapped growth, freedom, and God’s presence. Thank you, Kait, for teaching us with grace and nuance that if we have the courage to press in, rejection can actually be one of our greatest allies.”
Kat Harris , author of Sexless in the City and host of The Refined Collective podcast
“ Thank You for Rejecting Me smashes fear in the face with a fierce uppercut and will help you refocus on your promising future with God. You’ll crack up at Kait’s playful humor, but you’ll also weep through some of her challenging stories and walk away thinking differently about your painful past. Grab this book!”
Rashawn Copeland , founder of I’m So Blessed Daily and author of Start Where You Are
“Nothing holds us back like rejection. The memory of past rejection and the fear of future rejection cause us to live small and afraid— showing up as only a sliver of our full selves, revealing only a curated shell of who we really are. And in the process, we miss out on so much. We miss out on the beauty of being truly seen, known, and loved. We miss out on finding out who God created us to be. But in Thank You for Rejecting Me , Kait shows us how to break free from that crippling fear and step into true freedom. This book will change your life. I’m buying copies for every woman I know.”
Stephanie May Wilson , author, podcaster, and speaker
“Rejection can either break you or remake you. Kait’s story is a vulnerable, beautiful, humorous look into how heartbreak can be turned to hope. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, and then you’ll be challenged to see yourself as the woman God made you to be: beautiful, loved, and accepted just as you are.”
Debra Fileta , professional counselor, creator of TrueLoveDates.com, and host of the Love + Relationships podcast
Half Title Page
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2021 by Kait Warman
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2021
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-2884-7
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com. The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™
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Scripture quotations labeled ESV are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2016
Scripture quotations labeled The Passion Translation are from The Passion Translation®. Copyright © 2017 by BroadStreet Publishing® Group, LLC. Used by permission. All rights reserved..
This publication is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed. Readers should consult their personal health professionals before adopting any of the suggestions in this book or drawing inferences from it. The author and publisher expressly disclaim responsibility for any adverse effects arising from the use or application of the information contained in this book.
Some names and details have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals involved.
Published in association with The Bindery Agency, www.TheBinderyAgency.com.
Dedication
For my amazing Heart of Dating community. I never would have had the courage to speak publicly on these pages without you guys rallying behind me. Thank you for listening, contributing, sharing your own stories, and believing in me. I truly consider you family. We are in this boat together.
Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Half Title Page 3
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Dedication 7
Foreword 11
Introduction 13
Not Today, Rejection
1. Neon Bikinis and Cellulite 21
Fighting Insecurity
2. Here I Am 41
Fighting Self-Hatred
3. Never Have I Ever 59
Fighting Sexual Shame
4. Sorry, Not Sorry 81
Fighting Not Fitting In
5. The Ugly Cry 99
Fighting Heartbreak
6. Now You See Me, Now You Don’t 119
Fighting Abandonment
7. The Dreaded F-Word 137
Fighting Failure
8. I’m Not Crazy 155
Fighting Abuse
9. Big Little Lies 175
Fighting Betrayal
10. All by Myself 193
Fighting FOMO
11. Is This Thing On? 209
Fighting the Silence of God
Conclusion 229
This Is Me
Acknowledgments 239
Notes 243
About the Author 247
Back Ads 249
Back Cover 252
Foreword
We all have felt the sting and pain of rejection. Whether or not we want to admit it, we stuff emotions down and hide from the reality of what rejection sears into our psyche. Who wants to walk around with the label REJECTED written on their chest?
As a writer, teacher, and church leader, I have spoken to countless women in my years of ministry. I’ve listened to their stories and sat with them in their tears of grief, shame, and hurt, and I’ve found that the pain in these women’s lives often started from a similar root: rejection.
When rejection happens, the last thing we need is a “ Sweetheart, you’ll be just fine” or #blessyourheart . We need true empathy. We need to feel seen, like someone else actually gets what it’s like to go through the trenches. We need someone who is willing to walk alongside us.
Nothing is worse than revealing the depths of our pain only to have someone minimalize, trivialize, or offer a “simple” 107-step plan to perfect healing.
So where is the hope when it comes to facing this daunting thing called rejection? And who in the world is up for the task of helping us find it?
My girl Kait!
Over the years, I’ve had the honor of getting to know Kait personally, and I’ve witnessed how she walks through life as a single woman amid a myriad of heartbreaks and rejections.
Let me tell you, Kait isn’t one of those women who runs away from the hard stuff. She also doesn’t talk about things she has no idea about (like the well-intentioned pastor who tries to give dating advice even though they haven’t dated in thirty years).
No, Kait is able to speak so passionately, so vulnerably, and so honestly about the painful topic of rejection because it’s not lost on her. She’s lived through rejection in some deeply painful ways. She’s willing to go there. She guides you bravely and tenderly through her own story, allowing you to unlock your own pain to find healing and restoration.
Before this book, I didn’t even think through all the ways rejection can come our way. We focus so much on external rejections, but have you ever thought about the ways we reject ourselves? Like how we disqualify ourselves before we even step into the ring? Or how we tell ourselves lies of insufficiency or let our insecurities eat away at us, affecting how we show up?
Kait reveals that even our most painful rejections are not wasted. But not only that, she displays how we can be free from their grip because of the powerful, healing love of God as he empowers us to find wholeness and restoration.
I believe we all long to be free. I believe even though rejection may continue to happen in some form, we