What Makes a Man Feel Loved

Bob Barnes

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For a Relationship that Stands the Test of Time They say that behind every great man is a great woman. And the popular What Makes a Man Feel Loved will help you encourage your husband to become the great man God created him to be. With practical insight and wisdom, bestselling author Bob Barnes sheds light on a mans strengths, needs, worries, and hopes to help you discoverwhy differences between men and women enrich a marriagehow you can fulfill the desires of your matehow to affirm your husbands spiritual leadershipBiblical Love in Action suggestions and real-life examples will inspire you to nurture the man you love and create a foundation for a lasting, loving relationship.

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• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers
• Date de parution: 01 mars 2015
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736953924
• Langue: English

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HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS
EUGENE, OREGON
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WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL LOVED
Copyright 1998 Bob Barnes
Published 2015 by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
ISBN 978-0-7369-5391-7 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-5392-4 (eBook)
The Library of Congress has cataloged the edition as follows:
Barnes, Bob, 1933-
What makes a man feel loved / Bob Barnes.
p. cm.
Rev. ed. of: Your husband, your friend. 1993.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-7369-1205-1 (trade paper)
1. Marriage-Religious aspects-Christianity. 2. Women-Conduct of life. I. Barnes, Bob, 1933- Your husband, your friend. II. Title.
BV835.B37 1998
248.8 44-dc21
97-29014
CIP
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my wife, Emilie, and to all women who have hung in there when the going got rough. You are truly the ones who have found favor with God.
It isn t easy to persevere when you can t see the light at the end of the tunnel. But as survivors, you are a witness to the world of God s love and His abounding grace. You are proof that those who believe the principles and promises of Scripture-no matter what the situation-will later reap the blessings that accompany them.
Through every circumstance you trusted God, prayed with great fervor, and clung to that man you took in marriage. May we men become as committed to our marriage and family as you, our wives, are!
I thank God each day for the precious wife He has given me. I am the man I am today because of my God and my wife. Emilie has made this book possible. Without her, I never would have written these thoughts on paper.
Thank you, Emilie, for standing by me when you have felt like quitting!
Contents
Dedication
Foreword
A Personal Note from the Author
1. Overcoming the Lies Around Us
2. Knowing the Hope God Offers
3. Standing By God
4. Walking Your Talk
5. A Gentle, Quiet Spirit
6. Becoming a Suitable Helpmate
7. Uniquely Created by God
8. A Difference in Temperament
9. Your Husband, Your Friend
10. God Keeps No Records
11. Made for Work
12. Your Hero
13. Understanding the Message
14. A Love Song
15. Some Concluding Thoughts
Notes
Contact the Author
About the Publisher
Foreword
When God made Bob Barnes, the mold was broken. He is a unique, talented, insightful, and discerning man. I have to laugh a bit when I say that because my Bob has an identical twin brother. Even though they do look alike, they are each so different in a lot of ways and similar in others.
My Bob and I met on a blind date over 59 years ago, never realizing the significant task that marriage would be. We were starry-eyed and ready to begin a loving relationship for life. When the rough times came, and they did, we attempted to follow God s principles with the help of family, Christian friends, and our church family. We walked through those rough times and were refined by them.
What my Bob will share with you through the pages of this book has worked for us, and will help you to see your marriage from your husband s perspective. You will gain insights into your man and discover why he may see life through a different set of lenses than you do. You might also come to better understand why your mate seems so different or even weird at times!
My Bob and I have worked together in our ministry, More Hours in My Day, since 1982. Each year we meet thousands of women just like you, who have teachable spirits and want the best relationships possible with their men. Through these encounters my Bob has felt your heartbeat, and he is sensitive to your desires and needs for an intimate relationship with your husband.
The words you re about to read come from a man who loves God and wants to encourage us as wives to support, love, and help our husbands become better men.
Let my Bob touch your heart as he has mine.
-Emilie Barnes
A Personal Note from the Author
D id you look twice when you saw that a man wrote this book? Are you wondering, Why does he think he can write a book of encouragement for women? Shouldn t a woman be writing this book? After all, she would know how hard it is to be a wife! Those are valid questions, but let s consider a different perspective.
As a man, I know what makes a man feel loved and supported. I know what men need to feel confident and appreciated. I know the inner fears and questions a man lives with. I know the frustrations a man experiences in his various roles as breadwinner, disciplinarian, handyman, car-repair expert, and spider killer. Simply put, I know how men tick-and that information can help you come alongside and support your husband. But there are other reasons why I believe I have an important message for you.
I Have Been Schooled by a Wonderful Wife
For 59 years I have been married to a woman who has truly stood by me. Emilie has shown me the patience of Job, the wisdom of Solomon, the forgiveness of Jesus, and the straightforwardness of Paul in her relationship to me. A very capable person in her own right and busy with her own areas of ministry, Emilie has always worked toward the long-term goal of helping me become the man God wants me to be.
Emilie has loved, encouraged, challenged, motivated, inspired, and supported me in every endeavor. She has stood by me, backing my ideas and my leadership even when she has had some doubts. When I have been wrong, Emilie has offered encouragement rather than chastisement, scolding, I told you so, or the silent treatment. All through our years of marriage, I have been strengthened by her unwavering respect for me.
Emilie has always prayed for me daily. I know her prayers have changed the course of my life. Many times when I kissed her goodbye as I left for work, I would mention my 10:30 a.m. meeting with the president of Company X or my 3:30 p.m. meeting with the staff. Then, at 10:30 and 3:30, I knew the confidence that came from knowing that I had a faithful prayer warrior lifting me up before the Lord.
Through the years, Emilie s prayers have also placed a protective hedge around my heart. Knowing that she would be in prayer for me has helped protect me from feelings of anger, resentment, defeat, or egotism. Whenever I was away from the family at a convention, I knew that Emilie was praying for my safety, purity, obedience to God s Word, and protection from Satan s attacks. Also, being so in tune with God and with me, Emilie-like many intuitive wives-has often been aware of my needs before I ve been aware of them myself. Finally, as a woman of prayer, Emilie is someone I can turn to with every decision that needs to be made, confident that her perspective will be godly and wise.
Emilie has also made me a hero to our children, Jennifer and Bradley, and to our grandchildren: Christine, Chad, Bevan, Bradley Joe, and Westin. She has always made it a priority to teach them to support my leadership, appreciate me in word and deed, and respectfully acknowledge my role in the family. Just as Emilie has taught me what a gift a godly wife can be, she can undoubtedly teach you as I share from my experience as her husband.
I Have Been Taught by God s Word
Through the years, I have studied the Bible-both the Old and New Testaments-to see what God teaches men and women about marriage, children, and family. Even as a very young man I wanted to mirror, to the best of my ability, God s principles for being a man, a husband, and a father. My desire has always been for my life, marriage, and family to reflect what God teaches. While I m still in the process of becoming all that God wants me to be as a person, husband, and father, I have had ample opportunities to test the Bible s principles in the laboratory of life, and I have found them to be sound. In this book, I ll be sharing with you what I have learned.
I Have Listened to You
Since 1982, I have worked with Emilie in our More Hours in My Day ministry. At our seminars, I have listened to and spoken with thousands of women across the country. Wherever Emilie and I go-California or New York, Texas or Michigan-women have the same concerns, questions, and desires for their men, their marriages, and their families.
How can I get my husband to communicate with me?
Why won t my husband share how he feels?
What can I do to encourage my husband to be the leader in our family?
How can I respect my husband?
Why is he so involved in his job?