Women on the Edge

Cindi McMenamin

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Popular author Cindi McMenamin offers wonderful new encouragement to women who stand at the crossroads of life longing for change, for direction, for ways to make a difference.Every woman, at one time or another, has felt as if she's "on the edge." She has felt unappreciated, unsupported, and weary. She has thought, Why am I putting up with this? Don't I deserve better? How can I escape?Such frustration can drive her away from God or toward Him. Cindi shares how women can thrive even in the hard times andshift their focus from self to Godtrust their heavenly Father more with the things they cannot controlturn their temporary frustrations into lasting fulfillmentThis book will help women turn their negative longings into positive ones. They'll learn how to live on the edge not in frustration, but joy, as they pursue God in exciting new ways.

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• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
• Date de parution: 01 juillet 2010
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736939942
• Langue: English

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Women on the Edge
Cindy McMenamin

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WOMEN ON THE EDGE Copyright 2010 by Cindi McMenamin Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
McMenamin, Cindi, 1965- Women on the edge / Cindi McMenamin.
p. cm. Includes bibliographical references. ISBN 978-0-7369-2652-2 (pbk.) 1. Christian women-Religious life. 2. Desire for God. I. Title. BV4527.M3355 2010 248.8 43-dc22
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For every woman who has ever felt like she was on the edge.
I ve been there.
And so has the Lover of your soul.
You, L ORD , are all I want!
You are my choice, and you keep me safe.
You make my life pleasant, and my future is bright.
PSALM 16:5-6 CEV
Acknowledgments
My heartfelt thanks to:
My husband, Hugh, and daughter, Dana, for their patience and unconditional love for a wife and mother who many times seems on the edge.
My friend Chris, for bringing light and hope to this book through her beautiful testimony.
My friend Ashley, for laughing with me and encouraging me to keep writing whenever I was feeling on the edge.
My friend and sister in ministry, Kelly Bell, for encouraging me to write for women who feel desperate.
My friend Patti, whose new relationship with Jesus reminds me once again of the joys of discovering Him and what it means to be desperate for God.
My speaking audiences and readers-across the nation and overseas-who have poured out their hearts in sharing their stories, frustrations, insights, and joys about what it truly means to be women on the edge.
And above all, I m grateful to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for showing great kindness when I was like a city under attack (Psalm 31:21 CEV ).
Contents
Standing at the Crossroads
Part One: Surviving on the Edge: Desperations That Can Devastate
1. Desperate for More-Desiring God Alone
2. Desperate for Control-Desiring a Surrendered Heart
3. Desperate for Fulfillment-Desiring a Grateful Heart
4. Desperate for Change-Desiring a Deeper Trust
5. Desperate for Love-Desiring a Faithful Heart
6. Desperate to Avoid the Patterns of the Past- Desiring a New Legacy
7. Desperate to Accomplish-Desiring Him as the Prize
8. Desperate to Find Yourself- Desiring His Identity over Yours
Part Two: Thriving on the Edge: Desperations That Can Liberate
9. Desperate to Obey Him-Desiring His Will over Yours
10. Desperate to Serve Him-Desiring His Pleasure
11. Desperate for His Touch-Desiring to Be Complete
12. Desperate for His Glory-Desiring Nothing Else
Remaining on the Path Toward Life
Notes
Standing at the Crossroads
I will praise you, L ORD , for showing great kindness
when I was like a city under attack.
PSALM 31:21 CEV
S hari felt like a city under attack.
Her two teenagers showed little respect for her in their words and actions. And her husband, after 22 years of marriage, still seemed to side with the kids. She felt unappreciated, unsupported, disrespected, extremely frustrated. Shari was on the edge.
I can t live this way anymore, she told herself aloud as she drove home from work. She had had enough. She was tired of the tension that awaited her at home, weary of the battles, discouraged by her failed attempts to talk about her frustrations and convinced they would continue to fall on deaf ears. She desperately wanted to run. She desperately wanted to change her situation, but didn t know how. She needed to talk, but felt no one would understand. Deep in her heart she loved her family, yet she felt-in that moment-that she never wanted to see them again.
As she neared her home, she relived the pain and frustration of a conflict the night before. Mentally planning her escape, she arrived at home, intending to pack her bags and go wherever the road took her.
Upon arriving at the house, Shari went into her bedroom and began to pack. Her mind was swirling. She could barely think straight. She was so weary of unresolved conflict. A lump formed in her throat at the thought of really leaving. This is wrong, a voice in her head whispered. But to stay miserable is okay? she questioned herself, aloud.
Just make them miss you for awhile so they ll rethink how they ve been treating you , she thought. But this was not who she wanted to be. Shari crumpled to the floor and began to cry.
I want to leave, God! she shouted. But I have nowhere to go. I love them, but I can t live with them any longer!
Shari had finally arrived at the crossroads-the place where life s expectations and life s reality crash together painfully. A place where the pain seems overwhelming and the road of escape seems to promise relief. A place where she is truly on the edge of making either a wise or foolish decision. She had a choice: She could follow her desires toward destruction or toward a destiny of delight.
Such crossroads are nothing new. God gave this instruction to His people centuries ago:
Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths,
ask where the good way is, and walk in it,
and you will find rest for your souls (Jeremiah 6:16).
Shari needed to know where the good way is and she needed the strength to walk in it. She took a deep breath and asked one of the most important questions a woman can ask when she is teetering on the edge: God, what do You want me to do?
After a good cry on the floor, Shari picked herself up and pleaded with God to change her heart.
God, give me a discerning heart to know how to talk to my teenagers to know how to unconditionally love them, not so they will take advantage of me, but so they will be convicted by their behavior and learn to love unconditionally as well.
God, give me discernment to view my husband s actions so I will see the best in him, not the worst. Show me what he s doing right so that I will not always focus on his failures as a dad and husband.
God, change me so I will behave in such a way that I draw out loving responses from the rest of my family.
With Shari s prayer came not immediate results, but immediate peace. She began to trust that the One who is bigger, stronger, and much more powerful than her could work out this situation and walk her calmly away from the edge to a spacious place of love and grace.
Upon arriving at the crossroads (and while she was packing her bags), Shari believed she was choosing survival and sanity over continued pain and frustration. But Shari may not have realized that two paths were looming before her-the path of following her own desires (for change, fulfillment, peace, happiness), which would eventually lead to her demise (feelings of abandonment and betrayal from her husband and children, isolation, possibly divorce), or the path of obedience to God by asking what He wanted of her life, which would lead to freedom and fulfillment.
Like Shari, we all feel-at one time or another-like a city under attack. We find ourselves on the edge, in need of a spacious place of understanding and unconditional love. We all stand at the crossroads at certain points in our life and ask ourselves:
Is this all there is in life?
Don t I deserve something better than what I have now?
Why am I putting up with all of this?
Do I really want life to turn out the way it s continuing to go?
Might I be happier if I just left this situation?
Sometimes we feel better when we blow our top, have an emotional meltdown, or just walk away. But we all, at one time or another, find ourselves at a crossroads where we must decide whether our desperation will rule us or we will rule it.
Like Shari, I know what it s like to feel like I m teetering on the edge. I have those days when I m not just disappointed, not merely disillusioned, but feeling downright desperate. Desperate for change. Desperate for control. Desperate to feel respected, appreciated, cherished. I can relate to the I ve got to get out of this situation now before I have a complete meltdown kind of desperate. The if things don t change I m going to go crazy kind of desperate.
I ve been told it s a midlife thing. I ve been told it s hormonal. I ve been told it s just life. But I ve never been told I m alone in feeling this way. Just about ever