Summary of Marisa G. Franco's Platonic

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Harriet, who was always searching for a husband, never realized the importance of friends. When she got married at the age of fifty, she began hosting friends in her home for regular gatherings. She learned how to be vulnerable and began to see the value of friends in new light.
#2 The healing power of friendship is not just limited to our mental health, but also our physical health. In a study that assessed the factors that contribute to our longevity, connection was the most powerful factor.
#3 Friendship is a relationship that allows us to release the pressure valve of our relationships. It allows us to experience joy vicariously through others’ joy, which is what makes friendship so powerful.
#4 We choose our friends, which allows us to surround ourselves with people who root for us, get us, and delight in our joy. When we evaluate the merits of friendship on a macro level, we see how these relationships better society.

Sujets

• Interpersonal Relations
• Psychology

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 22 septembre 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798350026139
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Marisa G. Franco's Platonic
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Harriet, who was always searching for a husband, never realized the importance of friends. When she got married at the age of fifty, she began hosting friends in her home for regular gatherings. She learned how to be vulnerable and began to see the value of friends in new light.

#2

The healing power of friendship is not just limited to our mental health, but also our physical health. In a study that assessed the factors that contribute to our longevity, connection was the most powerful factor.

#3

Friendship is a relationship that allows us to release the pressure valve of our relationships. It allows us to experience joy vicariously through others’ joy, which is what makes friendship so powerful.

#4

We choose our friends, which allows us to surround ourselves with people who root for us, get us, and delight in our joy. When we evaluate the merits of friendship on a macro level, we see how these relationships better society.

#5

The impact of the shrinking friendship network on society is grave. We trust people we don’t know well, but as the social fabric of a community becomes more threadbare, its power to undergird norms of honesty, generalized reciprocity, and thin trust is enfeebled.

#6

While it is true that friendship is as significant as the other relationships in terms of meaning, it is also true that society treats it as a second-tier relationship. We don’t just assume that friendship is a less significant relationship than family or romantic partners; we act to make it so.

#7

Abe and Josh were opposites in many ways. Abe was tall enough to make average-size Josh look pint-size. He was slightly hunched, with ungainly limbs and deep-set green eyes. Josh looked like a handsome poet, his eyes a whirlpool of blue, his head adorned with curls.

#8

When we diminish friendship, we stifle the potential of a relationship that can become as deep as Abe and Josh’s. As we get older, we pretend that growing up means shedding friendship to focus on relationships that matter, but research proves that friends matter more for our health and well-being.

#9

When we lie, we estrange ourselves from humanity. When we lie about having celiac disease, we distance ourselves from our humanity because we’re ashamed of our bodies.

#10

When we feel ashamed, we try to hide it, but in our obsession with hiding that flaw, it becomes consuming. When we share it and our friends accept us, we are released from the labor of guarding our shame.

#11

Empathy is a major achievement of friendship. It is through empathy that we become better people. Empathy is not just a part of friendship, but also a part of life.

#12

Callee, an American, was living in Hanoi, Vietnam. She began to feel lonely, and she didn’t know how to fix it. She was tired of her life in the city, and she started to feel frustrated with Lee, her friend and co-worker, who was always joyful.

#13

Callee’s envy of Lee led her to start changing her life for the better. She began to embrace her envy and use it as a guide for how she wanted to change her life. Her friends exposed her to new ways of being in the world, showing her another life was possible.

#14

The theory of inclusion of others in the self explains why we’re so susceptible to peer pressure from our friends. We include others in our sense of ourselves, and when we get close to someone, we include them in our sense of ourselves.

#15

The self is a reflection of what we’ve gleaned from our relationships over our lives. We yearn for the moment when our identity solidifies, like a cast protecting against life’s dings. But we know that moment never happens.

#16

Friendship affects who we are, and it affects our behaviors, traits, and identity. It also increases our oxytocin, which is the key to health.

#17

friendship is a medium through which we find the truest, kindest, and richest selves. It is the in vivo class on relationships that teaches us what it means to connect with others.

#18

As you wait in line to get your lunch, you see your friend Amanda sitting at your table. As you turn around, you see milk spilling down your shoulder and into your lap. It’s up to you to figure out what happened.

#19

The way we view others, interpret events, and behave has a significant impact on whether we make and keep friends. These choices are not always intentional, but they still have a significant impact on our friendships.

#20

The super friends are not just flourishing in their relationships, but in all aspects of life. They are better able to roll with the punches of life, and they are less likely to have physical ailments like heart attacks, headaches, and stomach troubles.

#21

Attachment is the fear that others will abandonment us, and we will act anxiously or avoidantly to keep ourselves from being abandoned. But attachment is not objective; it’s influenced by our past and how others have responded to us.

#22

When we assume others will disappoint us, judge us when we’re vulnerable, or turn us down when we need support, attachment is at play. When we allow people to see only our strong side, our jolly side, or our sarcastic side, attachment is at play.

#23

The term pronoia was coined by psychologist Fred H. Goldner to describe the positive counterpart of paranoia. People with pronoia possess the delusion that, despite any evidence to the contrary, the universe is scheming for their success.