Summary of Ty Tashiro's Awkward

Everest Media

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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Awkward people see the world differently from non-awkward people. They are more likely to choose Silicon Valley or physics theory over sales or customer relations, but they can be found across a wide range of professions.
#2 Awkward people are a passionate bunch who are obsessed with the things that interest them. They are good at seeing details, picking up on patterns in those details, and taking a systematic approach to problems.
#3 Awkward people are often given well-intentioned advice such as Just put yourself out there, but for awkward individuals, this advice does not make sense. They think that being themselves means being awkward, and they doubt that kids are jealous of their social life.
#4 There is a wealth of scientific research about social awkwardness, but it can be difficult to understand it all. I have tried to be fair about summarizing the theories and research findings in the book, but I constantly had to keep in mind that awkward people are prone to becoming so enthused by an area of interest that they begin lecturing others about uninteresting minutiae.

Sujets

• Interpersonal Relations
• Psychology

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 17 mai 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9798822514249
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Ty Tashiro's Awkward
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Awkward people see the world differently from non-awkward people. They are more likely to choose Silicon Valley or physics theory over sales or customer relations, but they can be found across a wide range of professions.

#2

Awkward people are a passionate bunch who are obsessed with the things that interest them. They are good at seeing details, picking up on patterns in those details, and taking a systematic approach to problems.

#3

Awkward people are often given well-intentioned advice such as Just put yourself out there, but for awkward individuals, this advice does not make sense. They think that being themselves means being awkward, and they doubt that kids are jealous of their social life.

#4

There is a wealth of scientific research about social awkwardness, but it can be difficult to understand it all. I have tried to be fair about summarizing the theories and research findings in the book, but I constantly had to keep in mind that awkward people are prone to becoming so enthused by an area of interest that they begin lecturing others about uninteresting minutiae.

#5

My first discovery in graduate school was that I was almost normal. I was given a psychological assessment that revealed I possessed abnormal characteristics that had never troubled me before. My personality and pathology scores never crossed into a clearly diagnosable range, but they were uneven.

#6

I had a propensity for doing long division and multiplication problems in my head, and I found it easy to memorize random facts such as the earned-run averages of National League starting pitchers. However, around ten years old, children start to judge other kids’ social value based on their ability to meet social expectations.

#7

The book is divided into three sections: how to be less socially awkward, how rapidly changing social norms have made modern life feel more awkward for everyone, and how the traits that make someone awkward can also help them achieve remarkable achievements.

#8

The need to belong is as fundamental as physical needs such as hunger or thirst. For thousands of years, people lived in hunter-gatherer groups that were tightly bound by collective goals related to survival.

#9

The survival advantages of a cooperative attitude have been reinforced by the psychological mechanisms that motivate us to form mutually beneficial relationships. We not only want to belong to a social group, but we need to belong to a social group.

#10

In modern societies, people still use small social expectations as an important mechanism for evaluating people’s social worth. In fact, minor social expectations may be more important than ever because people have to consistently interact with people they do not know well.

#11

The first five minutes of an interaction are crucial for making judgments about people’s likability. Awkward people must understand that their awkwardness is not the entire reason they are not liked, but rather it is a few minutes of interaction that give away their un-likability.

#12

My parents had to teach me how to navigate social situations as a child. They simplified the process by having me learn the first-three: look the person in the eye, deliver a firm handshake, and confidently say, Hello, nice to meet you.

#13

Awkward moments are simply deviations from minor social expectations, and the most socially skilled among us know the feeling of an awkward moment. When someone is chronically awkward, the accumulation of their awkward moments can threaten their social inclusion.

#14

The word nerd originally originated as an insult, but has since been reclaimed by the nerd and geek community as a positive term. While there are many benefits to being awkward, there are also many challenges that come along with it.

#15

The awkward are facing the wrong way, and they see the world differently from most people. They need guidance about how to navigate the social world with their unique perspective.

#16

The Lion King is a great example of how the way we experience something can be different from how others experience it. When you see the play with the stage lights broadly illuminated, you have a holistic view of the plot. When you see it with a spotlighted version, you have a deeper understanding of everything that takes place stage left, but you will miss key information that takes place outside of the spotlight.

#17

Awkward people have a narrow and intense focus, which allows them to see the parts of the world around them with brilliant clarity. However, because they are not drawn to social information, they miss important social details that other people take for granted.

#18

The distinction between intuitive versus deliberate, labored understanding is important for socially skilled people and awkward people. Awkward people have to be deliberate in order to understand other people’s intentions and figure out the appropriate social response.

#19

I had a blanket philosophy that an adultlike approach would be my best bet for social success in junior high. This led to a number of misguided tactical decisions.