10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make

Bill Farrel

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Men today have important decisions to make about family, career, and ministry. Sometimes the choices can seem overwhelming, and men end up making decisions by default--by doing what comes naturally rather than by carefully thought-out principles. In The 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make, popular author and speaker Bill Farrel gives men the hands-on decision-making tools they need to make the kinds of choices they won't regret. Farrel encourages men to discover the joy of finding their place in God's plan as theyexplore the positive benefits of making healthy decisions discover their personal pace in life and make decisions in keeping with that pacedevelop a plan for godliness that relieves the burden of self-effortlearn to make decisions based on personal character rather than what feels right at the moment

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• Philosophie et théologie

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• Publié par: Harvest House Publishers, Inc.
• Date de parution: 01 septembre 2010
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780736938273
• Langue: English

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The 10 Best Decisions a Man Can Make
Bill Farrel
Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version , NIV . Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide.
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THE 10 BEST DECISIONS A MAN CAN MAKE Copyright 2010 by Bill Farrel Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Farrel, Bill, 1959- The 10 best decisions a man can make / Bill Farrel.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-7369-2766-6 (pbk.)
1. Christian men-Religious life. 2. Decision making-Religious aspects-Christianity. I. Title. II. Title: Ten best decisions a man can make.
BV4528.2.F43 2010 248.8 42-dc22 2010002230
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This book is dedicated to my three sons: Brock, Zach, and Caleb. It has been awesome to be your dad. Watching you make decisions better than I did at your age is one of the sweetest experiences of my life. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.
-3 J OHN 14
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1 Decide to Be Decisive
2 Decide to Seek an Adventure
3 Decide to Be Competitive
4 Decide to Set Goals
5 Decide to Be Busy
6 Decide to Be Better
7 Decide to Love
8 Decide to Be a Friend of God
9 Decide to Be a Man of Principle
10 Decide to Be a Role Model
Notes
Acknowledgments
The writing of this book has been a 30-year journey that started with a conversation with my father. Dad, you had no idea you would create the hunger in me that you did to pursue the process of decision-making, but I am thankful for your example. You always did what you loved in your career, which gave me confidence I could do the same.
My brother helped fuel the fire. Jim, the way you focused on prayerful decisions when you entered college inspired me to believe that we could live excellent lives. Your example has proved invaluable to me.
I am confident I would have made smaller decisions had I not married the woman of my dreams. Pam, you are the most courageous woman I have ever met, and I am forever grateful that you challenged me to live a bigger life while you cheered me on with relentless encouragement. You have proven to be a super incredible helpmate.
I would also like to say thank you to Bob Hawkins and the entire staff at Harvest House Publishers. Thanks for taking a chance on a young, idealistic couple and giving us an opportunity to tell our story. You did us a big favor when you assigned Rod Morris to be our editor. Rod, thanks for using your talents to make the message clearer and easier to read. Your command of the language, breadth of knowledge, and excellence in editing has been a huge gift. For your sake, I hope Kansas State makes the Final Four soon.
Finally, I want to say thank you to my Savior, Jesus Christ. You found me when I was 16 in the padded seat of a movie theatre and have taken me on a thrill ride ever since. It is humbly exhilarating to be in this remarkably unequal partnership.
Introduction
W e make our choices and our choices make us.
I remember when my journey into trying to figure out how to make good decisions began. It was the summer between my senior year in high school and my freshman year in college. I was looking ahead to my university education, and I wanted to pursue a degree that would set me up for success. So I went to my dad for advice because he loved his career.
My dad worked in the aerospace industry designing rocket engines. His job was to design the process for igniting, accelerating, and shutting down engines that would propel astronauts, scientists, and satellites into space. I admired his optimism and dedication to his career, even though the program had many critics.
One of the early pioneers of rocket technology was Robert Goddard. On March 16, 1926, he drove to his aunt Effie s farm to test fire his spindly, 10-foot tall liquid fuel rocket named Nell. The rocket leaped into the air, climbed to a height of 41 feet, then slammed into a frozen cabbage patch. The flight lasted just 2.5 seconds, but it was 2.5 seconds longer than any liquid-fueled rocket had flown before. He was thrilled and recognized the breakthrough for what it was.
Goddard kept his research and testing under wraps for the next three years, but rockets are hard to hide. In 1929 one of his launches led to the arrival of the police, which led to the presence of the press. The headline in the local press the next day read, MOON ROCKET MISSES TARGET BY 238,799 MILES. 1 Despite the criticism, Goddard pressed on, and history bears the mark of his vision.
My dad had this same optimism. He could often be heard to say, I can t believe they pay me to do this job. I concluded that if anyone knew how to choose a career, it would be my dad.
Dad, can I ask you a question?
Sure, Bill, what is it?
How do you figure out what you should do for a career? How does a young man my age decide on a college degree?
I was anticipating that I would have the most profound conversation of my life with my dad. Instead, he said, Well, Bill, I am not good at talking about things like this, but I will support whatever you choose.
I was still confident that my dad knew how I could choose a career I would love. He just didn t know how to communicate the process that would lead me there. I didn t realize it at the time, but my desire to learn how good decisions are made began that day. I wanted to be able to communicate with others what I saw my dad model for me.
Since that day, I have been intently watching men make decisions. Some of these decisions have led to growing businesses, strong families, and solid lives. Other decisions have been self-destructive. The majority of the decisions, however, have been attempts to stay ahead of the challenges of life. Sometimes these decisions work out well and sometimes they fall short. It is often a mystery why some decisions work out while others fail to deliver the anticipated results.
I set out to discover how I could make deliberate, forward thinking, productive decisions in my life. What I have learned, I will share with you in the chapters that follow. As you read, I trust you will grow in your understanding of how to benefit from healthy decision-making.
It s Your Turn
In the space below or on a separate sheet of paper, describe when your journey into decision-making began. What conversations, situations, or challenges did you face that helped create a need to know how to make better decisions?
Chapter 1 Decide to Be Decisive
Learn as if you were to live forever; live as if you were to die tomorrow.
-JOHN WOODEN 1
I have never met a man who said he wants to make poor decisions.
The men I have met love their families and are genuinely looking to be successful in life. We all know, however, that men with good intentions sometimes make bad decisions because our intentions don t determine the quality of our decisions. There is a significant difference between the men who make good decisions and those who complicate their lives with either indecisiveness or decisions that defy the way life was meant to be.
The Benefits of Good Decisions
Numerous benefits develop in a man s life when he decides to be decisive. First and foremost, he has more energy for the pursuits he cares about . This happens because our emotions follow our decisions. This is how we steer our emotions so they do not run their own path.
Men are often thought of as nonemotional or less emotional than women, but this is not true. We are just different emotionally. Just watch a man at a sporting event. When things go well, he yells and pumps his fist in the air. When things are not going well, he gets angry and often voices his displeasure. Watch another man working on a project. He gets excited when things work well, and he often gets angry when things won t cooperate.
I recently visited a friend who owns a large area of grass he likes to mow himself. To tackle the job, he purchased a Bad Boy lawnmower. It came complete with a Caterpillar diesel motor and has a zero degree turn radius. He had that this is really manly look on his face as he said to me, This mower s motto is, We cut with attitude, and I can mow grass at 15 miles per hour with this Bad Boy. Just to prove his point, he fired up the mower, proceeded to burn out the tires, and turned circles in his shed. It was an impressive machine that elicited an emotional and manly response.
I am convinced that Karl is free to be enthused and full of energy because he is an excellent decision-maker. He has, for years, channeled his energy into a productive, balanced, and inspiring life.
Decisions also make us more efficient . Some people follow the mistaken notion that says, We never have time to do a thing right, but we always have time to do it over. It is just more efficient to choose well from the outset.
Decisions simplify our lives . Our lives are an interconnected web of relationships. Decisions that are compatible with the way God designed life make relationships work better,