17 Things to Know Before You Get Married

Dr. Alix Pierre

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The book is about giving you necessary knowledge so you can make better choice resulting in a successful marriage.
Professor, and married pastor for 42 years, Dr. Alix Pierre in this book exposes the weaknesses and ignorance of majority of people about marriage. He also exposes the failures of local churches to address the realities and the truths about marriage. Through these 17 Principles, you will be able to know and understand many things pertaining to marriage either you are Christians or not. The issues and problems of marriage are so relevant today as they were many centuries ago. So, this book is for everybody, everywhere, every generation because it reveals what you must know to have a better marriage, leading to a better life. It will put you all on the road to successful marriage as God intended.

Sujets

• Religion
• Christianisme
• Christian Living
• Relationships
• Philosophie et théologie
• Relationship
• Marriage
• Education
• Wedding
• Love
• Church
• Divorce

Informations

• Publié par: WestBow Press
• Date de parution: 19 janvier 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781664287587
• Langue: English

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17 Things to Know Before You Get Married
 
Don’t say in the future, “If I knew what I know now.”
 
 
 
Dr. Alix Pierre
 
 
 

 
 
Copyright © 2023 Dr. Alix Pierre.
 
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This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.
 
 
 
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Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible.
 
ISBN: 978-1-6642-8759-4 (sc)
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ISBN: 978-1-6642-8758-7 (e)
 
Library of Congress Control Number: 2022923661
 
 
 
WestBow Press rev. date: 1/19/2023
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. What Is Marriage?
2. Marriage Is Social, Not Spiritual
3. Why Do People Marry?
4. Twenty-Three Types of Marriage
5. How to Choose a Wife
6. How to Accept a Husband
7. What to Check before Marriage
8. Does God Choose for Us?
9. Is God Involved in All Marriages?
10. Prayers Do Not Save All Marriages
11. Ten Greatest Truths about Marriage
12. The Twelve Greatest Truths about Sex
13. Balance Your Temperaments
14. Don’t move in First
15. The Greatest Realities of Marriage.
16. The Ten Wrong Reasons to Marry.
17. The Eight Critical Stages of Marriage
Conclusion
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I am giving thanks to God Almighty for allowing me to write and publish this book.
I want to dedicate this book to all my family and friends and also to the members of Universal Church of Salvation.
I want to dedicate this book to all who contemplate marriage: first-time marriages, remarriages, and single people who hope to marry sooner or later. This book is the perfect tool for creating a successful marriage.
May you all discover the truths and realities of marriage that will help you live better and be more successful.
INTRODUCTION
Human beings today face many life challenges, such as wars, hunger, famines, and immigration difficulties. Most recently, we endured the Covid-19 pandemic. Despite these challenges, we also have many issues that need to be addressed if we want to live better within our societies.
The world is in pain, suffering with the dilemmas of differing religious beliefs, along with financial, political, and emotional distress. Despite those difficulties, certain issues pertaining to humans in all societies need to be addressed. One of these issues is marriage.
In all societies since the beginning of time, people have married and are still marrying, divorcing, and remarrying. Since we are not angels or spiritual beings, there is not and will never be such a thing as a perfect marriage. Certain marriages come with peace, joy, love, and happiness, while others come with pain and suffering for the spouses, the kids, the religions, the traditions, and the societies, causing separations, divorces, and sometimes remarriages.
This issue of marriage is so alarming, fragile, sensitive, and potentially disastrous that many people exclaim, “ If I knew what I now know now , my marriage could be better, resulting in a better life!” However, that saying is very old and always comes too late.
I have been married for forty-two years to one wife, and as a social observer and pastor of a small church for about thirty years, I deal with many people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. By experiencing their victimizations and sufferings, I want to socially help, to the best of my ability, to bring some light, truth, and knowledge to all people: those who are already married and suffering, those who plan to marry in the future, and those who are about to marry now.
Here are seventeen things you must know before you say “I do.” By knowing them, you will be able to avoid saying in the future, “If I knew what I know now …”
1

What Is Marriage?
S urely this is not the first time you’ve heard this question. Depending on the society in which you live, many people have different interpretations and meanings for the word marr iage .
A painter blends two different colors to create a new one. For example, I used to marry blue and yellow paints, and the result was always green. This is marriage, and that is what I used to do. Thus, the term marriage is very controversial, and many philosophers have varying views on this extraordinary topic. As a social observer, I want to address this issue in many ways as we move along to bring certain biblical truths to light and denounce abuses and lies that have victimized many people.
When God created Eve for Adam, he did not specify that the two humans would be married for life, because everything was fine in the garden. There was no sin yet, and there was a perfect relationship among God and Adam and Eve.
Genesis 1:27–28 says:
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”
This verse shows that God intended for Adam and Eve to have a lot of kids. So we can justify that, at least according to the Bible, marriage should be between a man and a woman, as God the Creator intended and wants up to today. But one important point is that Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
The following text lists at least ten considerations the Bible proposes regarding marriage.
1) Marriage is God’s idea: man and w oman.
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). So no matter what the world says, God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. They—Adam and Eve—were two different genders, two different persons with different genitals that allow them to procreate and build a human society.
2) Commitment is essential to a successful marr iage.
And they called Rebekah and said unto her, “Will thou go with this man?” She said, “I will go.” And they sent away Rebekah their sister, and her nurse, and Abraham’s servant and his men. And they blessed Rebekah and said unto her, “Thou art our sister, be thou the mother of thousands of million, and let thy seed possess the gate of those which hate them.” (Genesis 24:58–60)
You must know that marriage should be with commitment to make it a success. Marriage should no be taken lightly at all times.
3) Romance is very impor tant.
Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; Thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck. How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! How much better is thy love than wine, and the smell of thine ointments than all spice! (Song of Songs 4:9–10)
This was well said by Solomon, except he forgot to say that no finances equals no romance. Getting married to build a family requires money or financial security. Many marriages end in divorce due to lack of money. When spouses cannot meet their needs, it causes fights, pain, and suffering.
Remember that Solomon was king. He had everything. Finances were never an issue for him. If you intend to get married, you must seriously consider the finance issue.
4) Marriage brings great joy.
It takes a lot to bring joy to a marriage. When all conditions are met, yes, there will be joy, but if not, there will be pain and suffering. Spirituality does not bring all kinds of joy to a marriage, especially not when the social and financial aspects aren’t balanced. That is why many religious people who claim to be spiritual divorce their spouses, even after sixty or more years of marriage.
5) Marriages between men and women create the best environment for raising kids.
It is because the kids need the balance for their welfare. They need the sensitive touches of their mothers and the severity of their fathers. Proverbs 22:6 states,“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”.
6) Unfaithfulness in marriage breaks the bond of trust, the foundation of all relations hips.
But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. (Matthew 19:9).
At that time in Israel, only the man can repudiate the wife. Now a lot of things have changed since our societies are very dynamic and flexible. Many women divorce men if and when