Men, Wake Up!

Anthony D. McKinley

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Are you struggling with having a good or working relationship with family and others that don’t see things your way? If so, keep on reading because “Men, Wake Up!” was written with people like you and me. Men, Wake Up! Is a self-help book whose design and purpose to raise the awareness of how we get in the way of ourselves and lose sight of the greater power within! Be empowered!

The author wants men to search within themselves to identify the underlying issues and deal with them and focus on the real-life value of life, which is family and being available if permissible. The author encourages all of us have the power to change and the freedom of choice. The change of our perception of ourselves is the first step to self-care and it is the beginning of the healing process. Once you are healed then your relationship should improve with other and there is nothing like having a rich and fulfilling life that we long for and deserve. Change start with self.

The author choice to use his personal experience and education to better the lives of others which is admirable. His insight provides wisdom worthy of sharing and is needed for men and all who read the book, to make a positive change for self and the family.

Anyone who reads this book can us the advice as a reflection for themselves and hopefully will make positive changes in order to grow and secure the family by showing love, understanding and never giving up.

Sujets

• Religion
• Christianisme
• Men's Interests
• Christian Living
• Relationships
• Philosophie et théologie
• Relationship

Informations

• Publié par: WestBow Press
• Date de parution: 23 février 2023
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781664281608
• Langue: English

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MEN, WAKE UP!


WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW COULD BE KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS







ANTHONY D. MCKINLEY








Copyright © 2023 Anthony D. McKinley.

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This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.



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Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

ISBN: 978-1-6642-8162-2 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-6642-8161-5 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-6642-8160-8 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2022919303



WestBow Press rev. date: 02/22/2023



The greatest gift of life is being able to love yourself and your family, and to raise your children.
Being a father is one of the most important roles that any man can ever fill, and the payoff is worth the time you invest.



CONTENTS
Special Thanks And Acknowledgements
1 What Is A Man?
2 The Role Of A Man
3 The Transition Of A Man
4 Fatherhood
5 The Evil And Good That Men Do Is Critical
6 Your Life Has A Cost! Fight!
7 Men Of Integrity
8 The Women
9 Men—Problem Solvers And Handlers
10 Men, Forgive
11 A Financial Man
Letters / Notes
The Most Dangerous Man
Bibliography
About The Author



SPECIAL THANKS AND ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Thanks to God, the Creator of my life for creating the life of my Mother whose love and determination taught me never to give up; my children who are the fuel of my determination to live and who hold a special place in my heart and soul; my family and friends who encourage me along this journey; and to my passed beloved Grandfather Lawrence McKinley, Jr. who help me save my life and whose spirit of order, understanding, wisdom and charity now is within me to pass on to my children and others.
On this journey I endured a traumatic brain injury, ruptured knee injury (I only can bend 70 in range) and a loss of vision with double vision sight. The doctors said I would not recover, and I informed them that I know a God that set high and looks low and will restore me. Although, I still suffer from stress, discouragement, depression and internal pain; and I also have challenges with relationships, but I work on being positive and thoughtful.
I want to acknowledge two people that have really been there for me since the injury: my sister Kristal Grove who always keep it real and keeps me grounded, and one of my best friend Charles Traylor. When I was challenge with relationship and wanting to give up on self, he would remind me of who I am and would say, “if anyone can, you can, and I believe in you”. We all need people to redirect us and encourage us in times of storms and these two never gave up and reminded me I can do it.
Thanks for believing in me.
I thank God that I can type with my eyes closed and read from my thoughts or I would have never completed this book.



CHAPTER ONE
WHAT IS A MAN?

W hat is a man? The act of a male in man’s role.
Men struggle with their identities when there is no father to teach them about manhood or demonstrate manhood. The father has to love his family and children enough to teach them, guide them, and give them the mental knowledge and physical resources they need. This is so they can work toward having a life to live and having dominion over themselves, their property, and their finances.
Genesis 1:26–27 (KJV) states, “God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness, and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.’” It is important to know your history, purpose, and role in life. Women, children, and society need you to do well as a man, son, brother, husband, and father. When a male and a female create unity and the two come together and create a child, it is then called a family. And when a child is born, it does not matter whether you are married or not.
The infrastructure then needs to be established because the child is now manifested. Regardless of relationship status (married or not), the titles shift from “male” and “female” to “mother” and “father.” After the child is manifested, the responsibility is upon both man and woman, who are now called “parents.”
The parents are the caretakers of the child, as it pertains to providing the basic needs for the child, until they can provide for themselves as adults. Both parents’ goals are to love, teach, guide, protect, discipline, reinforce living principles, and produce a law-abiding citizen. It is believed that if the parents are married, this is a goal made by both of them for their children. Unfortunately, in America we live in a society that is moving from togetherness to separatism within the family structure, and America is rapidly influencing the world in this regard.
According to Single Mother Statistic and 2021 U.S. Census Bureau, out of about 11 million single parent families with children under the age of 18, nearly 80 percent were headed by single mothers. This means that the father is not present daily in the house to honor the parental goal.
On April 27, 2018, Pew Research Center published an article titled “Fact Tank: News in the Numbers” by Gretchen Livingston. It reported that “one-third of US children are living with an unmarried parent. This has doubled since 1968, from 13 percent to 32 percent in 2017. And 3 percent are not living with either parent.” All told, twenty-four million US children younger than eighteen are living with an unmarried parent, and most (fifteen million) are living with a single mother. This is in comparison to the five million children who live with cohabiting parents and the three million that live with single fathers.
Based on the above data, this means that men are not present in the homes of single mothers, which also means that single mothers and their children are now vulnerable prey. The safety of these mothers and children is now in question because there is no protector in the house to secure the family. The message, men, is wake up!
I will elaborate. For example, men, let’s say you have a daughter and you and the mother are not together in the home or in a relationship. You pick up your daughter every other weekend for the first six years of her life. Then you get a new job, and the lady that you are serious with loves to travel. So you take her on trips for romantic encounters. But your relationship with your daughter moves from biweekly visits to visits once a month or whenever you can manage them because of new demands in your life. This type of change occurs for about five years, and everything appears to be fine. There are no complaints from the child’s mother.
Eventually, picking up your daughter moves to holidays and when you have time. But your daughter begins to find other things to do, and she finds herself in love with an older high school boy. Your daughter begins having morning sickness, only to find out that she is pregnant. She tells you, and you are infuriated. Then she says, “Daddy, why are you so mad? Just be happy for me.” Fathers, remember when all of us were young boys and girls. We were ready and in a hurry to become adults so that we could move out on our own, to live and be free from our parents’ home!
The one thing we did not know was that home was actually a safe haven from the world of predators, liars, rapists, and pedophiles who lurk and prey on the innocent, naive, vulnerable, and lonely. So remember this when you have children. They will have the same curiosity about moving out.
Men, I beg of you, please wake up! Just because your children don’t live in your house and under your roof does not mean that your presence and responsibilities are not needed. Your children came from your bloodline, and you are blessed to have been given the opportunity to be a father to your children.
Your children are a blessing from God or from yourself, whichever you believe. By having children, you and the mother are given this assignment, as both of you are the parents, to raise, train, and educate your children, protect them from others, and ensure that they can become productive citizens. This is a great responsibility , and you will be charged with it forever .
Therefore, your parental role should be served with pride, dignity, and love. This is the opportunity of a lifetime, and nothing in the world is greater.
So, fathers, wake up and be fathers to your children and men to your families. This is what you were born to do, and this is one of the innate abilit