Predators Live Among us

Diane Roblin Lee

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Child molestation is epidemic in our society. We have to find new ways to protect our kids! In the time it took for Ward Cleaver and Fonzie to morph into Homer Simpson and his South Park neighbors, the fiber of humanity changed. Once-safe sidewalks, filled with active children, emptied into avenues where anxious parents now drive their children to school...GET ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS AND MORE! Out of personal heartbreak, award-winning author Diane Roblin-Lee shares her extensive research in the field of child sexual abuse. Having written and co-written over 20 books on a variety of subjects, her passion for the strengthening of families, pro¬tection of children, prevention of abuse and res¬toration for broken people, is presently focused through her work with Winning Kids Inc.® / Plan to Protect™ and the Heart to Heart Marriage and Family Institute™.

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• Publié par: Castle Quay Books
• Date de parution: 01 juin 2012
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781927355015
• Langue: English

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Predators Live Among Us: Protect Your Family from Child Sexual Abuse
Copyright © 2010 Diane Roblin-Lee
All rights reserved
Foreword by Melodie Bissell
Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
Roblin-Lee, Diane, 1945-
Predators live among us [electronic resource] : protect your family from child sexual abuse / Diane Roblin-Lee ; foreword by Melodie Bissell.
Includes bibliographical references.
Electronic monograph.
ISBN 978-1-927355-01-5
 
Paperback ISBN: 978-1-927355-00-8
1. Child sexual abuse--Prevention. 2. Child sexual abuse.
3. Child molesters. I. Title.
HV6570.R643 2012 362.76’7 C2012-904167-X
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Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are from the New King James Version of the Bible. Thomas Nelson Publishers ©1984, 1982, 1980, 1979 and New International Version of the Bible, copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984 by the International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishers.
Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this booklet are those of the author and do not constitute part of the curriculum of any program. The development, preparation and publication of this work has been undertaken with great care. However, the author, publisher, editors, employees and agents of Winning Kids Inc ., are not responsible for any errors contained herein or for consequences that may ensue from use of materials or information contained in this work. The information contained herein is intended to assist communities, churches and individuals in establishing effective response to a controversial issue and is distributed with the understanding that it does not constitute legal or medical advice. References to quoted sources are only as current as the date of the publications and do not reflect subsequent changes in law. Organizations, communities and individuals are strongly encouraged to seek legal counsel as well as counsel from an insurance company when establishing any policy concerned with this topic.
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Purpose
How could a wife be married for 38 years and not know her husband had begun to molest children 25 years prior to being charged? It sounds impossible, but that was my experience. Because it is obviously very difficult to recognize the predators who live among us, I have researched and written this book in an attempt to bring something positive out of the devastation exacted upon our family. By sharing my hard-won insight, I hope to help parents and grandparents be more effective in protecting their little ones and escape the shattering fallout of child sexual abuse.
The purpose behind Predators Live Among Us – Protect Your Family From Child Sexual Abuse is sevenfold:
• to deter people who are fantasizing about molesting a child from acting on their fantasies
• to protect children from molestation through raising awareness on many levels
• to look at the new challenges of parenting in the 21 st Century
• to deepen the understanding of all levels of society affected by the molestation of a child
• to find healing for victims and families
• to encourage the kind of justice and community action that prevents predators from initial offending and re-offending
• to demonstrate to all those who have been molested that I, and many others who labour to protect children, care very deeply about what you have endured and, in honour of you, are doing all we can to protect other children from sharing your experience.
Diane Roblin-Lee
 
Foreword
I am so thankful for the day I met Diane Roblin-Lee. We met in an elegant tea house for afternoon tea and scones. We were surrounded by beauty and grace! However, the topic of conversation was one with which we both felt God had burdened our hearts. It was the darkest of topics – child maltreatment and sexual abuse. I had found a new friend who shared my ever increasing burden and passion for the protection of children and youth. Diane had just completed a project of research and writing on the topic. Winning Kids Inc. ® had the audience to read it.
In Plan to Protect ™ , the Winning Kids Inc. ® protection plan for children, youth and those that work with them, we (the authors of Plan to Protect ™ ), have dedicated an entire module to the reporting and response of abuse.
I wish I could say that, with the focus and attention abuse prevention and protection protocol has received over the last decade, the incidences of child sexual abuse are decreasing. I wish I could say that people seldom need to refer to this module. However, the maltreatment of children is on the rise. The exploitation of children globally is one of society’s most shameful preoccupations.
Children are at risk! They are at risk in our communities, churches, schools, play grounds and sporting arenas; children are at risk even in our own homes!
Having been profoundly impacted personally, Diane recognizes the risk. But have we as a society, community, church, family, not all been profoundly impacted? The children certainly have been.
Francis T. Murphy, Presiding Justice (retired) of the Appellate Division, Supreme Court said,
“Children have neither power nor property. Voices other than their own must speak for them. If those voices are silent, then children who are victims of abuse may lean their heads against window panes and take the bitter emptiness of violated childhoods.”
Thank you Diane for speaking on behalf of the children!
Every parent and care-giver, and everyone working with children and youth should read Predators Live Among Us: Protect Your Family From Child Sexual Abuse. On behalf of the children, I ask you to please take the contents seriously. If you aren’t convinced that we need to step up our efforts to protect them, I implore you to research this topic. The more I read, the more diligent and dedicated I am to winning the race against abuse.
Please join us!
On behalf of the children,
Melodie Bissell
President
Winning Kids Inc. ® / Plan to Protect ™
www.winningkidsinc.ca
Suite 14, A7-1390 Major Mackenzie Dr. E.
Richmond Hill, ON Canada L4S 0A1
1-877-455-3555
“But when they were oppressed they cried out to You. From heaven You heard them, and in Your great compassion You gave them deliverers, who rescued them from the hand of their enemies.” Nehemiah 9:27
1. Why All the Fuss?
Not too many years ago, there was something called “childhood”—a carefree time of life when Little League, hopscotch and pushing doll carriages down the sidewalk filled the rambling thoughts of children. As sun rays lengthened over the carefree days, parents would call sweaty youngsters in from play for baths and bedtime stories. “Johnnnnny...Susie....” The voices would trill through soft summer evenings, over backyard fences, down safe streets to the ears of children intent upon the games of the moment.
As the young ones grew, the games of the moment normally changed to include degrees of sexual experimentation. Kids found out ‘how things happened’ when they were ready—in their own time, ideally through healthy family discussions. The innocence of childhood gave way to adolescent discovery of the reproductive process and eventually—hopefully—to a satisfactory sex life in adulthood.
While that might now be scorned as the ‘Beaver Cleaver’ experience (suggesting unreality), the fact is that it was the general experience of the majority of North Americans upward into the 1960s. But now we live in a different world.
 
From Ward Cleaver to Homer Simpson
In the time it took for Ward Cleaver and the Fonze to morph into Homer Simpson and his South Park neighbors, the fiber of humanity changed. Once-safe sidewalks, filled with active children, emptied into avenues where anxious parents now drive their children to school. Parks became places to watch for strangers who lurk suspiciously around playgrounds. Hugs from teachers were replaced by lessons on “good-touch / bad-touch.” The gentle priest became a questionable figure in the parish. Uncle Jack lost his time-honoured mantle of trustworthiness.
Like the frog sitting comfortably in a pan of warm water, not noticing the increase in temperature until it was too late, the world gradually lost its innocence. It seems incomprehensible to parents lulled to sleep by the innocuous Cleavers that they could suddenly wake up to the irreverent Simpsons, only to discover the deterioration wrought on society in the transition from Beaver to Bart.
Those who grew up watching “Happy Days” enjoyed the normal indulgence of adolescence where one delights in a certain arrogance that offends others. That mind-set unlocked the doors for those who sought to devalue the moral code of the day. It opened the floodgates for the reception of media programming and Internet content that demeaned integrity, decency and human character.
Now that we’ve grown up and regard that youthful arrogance as foolish immaturity, it’s too late to push back the flood. But while Beaver Cleaver has become a societal aberration, society in general is still stuck in the immaturity of the Bart mode. It needs to grow up and take responsibility for itself.
We’ve been hit hard with a sudden onslaught of sexual child abuse and we have to deal with it. This