Rejected but Still Prevailing

Taylor II Keith

Description

Rejected but Still Prevailing will entirely change the way you view rejection. It will motivate you in ways you never thought possible. It will also provide some insight on where rejection starts and how to handle rejection from a girlfriend or boyfriend. Rejection will be shown from a biblical viewpoint also. You will laugh at different chapters seeing yourself in some of my experiences. You will learn and grow and be able to deal with rejection like never before. Your entire perception about dealing with rejection will be changed.

Sujets

• Philosophie et théologie

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• Publié par: Inspiring Voices
• Date de parution: 11 juin 2014
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781462409839
• Langue: English

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Copyright © 2014 Keith Taylor II.
 
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ISBN: 978-1-4624-0982-2 (sc)
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2014909603
 
 
Inspiring Voices rev. date: 06/09/2014

Contents
Dedication
Preface
 
1.   Where does rejection start?
2.   What Does It Say About Me?
3.   Rejection By a Spouse/ Significant Other
4.   Learning To Prevail In Spite Of Other’s Opinions
5.   A Biblical Reference To Rejection (David)
6.   Responding Correctly
7.   Overcoming Rejection

Dedication
First I would like to thank God for everything he has done in my life. I would not be where I am today without his grace and his love and kindness. I am dedicating this book to my Beautiful wife Jasmine “The best Person” I’ve ever met. I’m dedicating this book to my wonderful mother who raised me to be a man after God’s own heart. Where ever I go you go….Lastly I would like to dedicate this book to Lacy Parker and Family and Darius Lloyd and the Lloyd Family I love both of your families dearly and you will always hold a special place in my heart. Your children will not be forgotten and there memory will forever live on with me.

Preface
There are many different levels of rejection. In this book I will discuss three sources of rejection. The first source can be yourself. Secondly, we can be rejected through our family unit, such as our spouse, children, or siblings. The third source of rejection can come from our friends, associates, colleagues, or anyone else outside of our family unit. In order to start the healing process we have to first understand what rejection is. Dictionary.com defines reject as, “to refuse to accept, to discard as useless or unsatisfactory, to cast out.” The word reject has a Latin origin that stems from the word reicere , which simply means “to throw back.”
I am praying for healing over every person who reads this book. Many of you may feel rejected, have experienced rejection, or are just afraid of being rejected. I have to inform you of the truth, and the truth is that we will all experience some form of rejection at some point in our lives. It’s the way we handle rejection that makes the difference in the type of person we hope to become. Rejection is not only limited to someone else’s words. You can also experience rejection by the actions of others, their body language, or by a lack of response from others. Someone else’s silence, when you are desperately trying to communicate, can be viewed as a form of rejection.
The way that you respond after being rejected is of vital importance to being able to move past those feelings of hurt and pain and inner discomfort, or even failure in some cases. As a people, we have to be more aware that our words carry power. The Bible, in Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” We want healing from the feelings of rejection, but we also want to try our very best to keep from rejecting other people in our lives through our words, actions, and attitudes, especially since a lot of us understand the pain and lingering effects that rejection can have on a person at any age.
On the surface , the feelings of rejection will pass for a season, but they are not completely dead as you notice those feelings rearing their ugly head from time to time whenever someone gives the appearance of disagreeing with you. Even when you are alone those painful memories start to flood your mind, and those old feelings that were never properly handled start to resurface. The ability to manage your hurts the moment they occur promotes for a healthy future in dealing with rejection.
Here are some general rules to assist you in dealing with rejection: 1. Listen to what is actually being said and evaluate the individual’s intent behind what is being said to you. Are they purposely looking to hurt you or are they malicious in their word usage? Do they have a history of tearing you down? 2. How do you respond to being rejected? Do you lash out in anger with the “eye for an eye” method, or are you more passive? Do you get physical when you feel rejected? The way you handle being rejected, in that moment, sets up the momentum for how you will handle it ten years down the road.

CHAPTER 1 Where does rejection start?
Rejection begins with one’s self. It is how you feel. It can be caused from many different avenues, but rejection is also a feeling based off of something someone did or did not do…something someone said or did not say. The bottom line is that rejection begins and ends with you, . One of the most common forms of rejection is when someone says something that tears you down verbally, or attacks your character during the time that you are seeking that person’s approval.
Sometimes our need for so much acceptance by our peers sets up unnecessary opportunities for us to be let down or rejected, causing us to feel thrown away. We actually experience rejection at very early stages in our lives. As babies we started to develop the need to be accepted, and at the same time our parents, or caregivers, were trying to teach us independence and self reliance. While this is a good lesson to learn—especially while we are young—some parents/caregivers go too far with the withdrawal phase, thus producing early forms of rejection for the infants/babies.
Kids are seeking attention while still in their cribs, but sometimes parents are too tired, or too caught up in what they are doing, to give the babies their desired attention. This produces neglect, which is a form of rejection. Think back to a time in your early childhood when you were seeking attention from those whom you loved and looked up to. One of the most famous statements that parents make is, “Not now. Show me later.” But later never comes. The parents move forward and forget about it, but the kids never forget and hold on to those feelings of rejection. Sometimes, the parents continue this behavior until the time becomes convenient for them.
At this time, the kids are experiencing rejection and neglect by the parents, and their entire facial expression and body demeanor have changed as well. This is just the beginning of their young lives, yet they are building a foundation of neglect and rejection so early in their childhood. They start talking less and becoming more stand-offish. I have had some early personal experiences with rejection that might help shed some light on where rejection starts. My personal experience with rejection started early in my childhood with my dad coming in and out of my life, then eventually disappearing for years at a time.
As a kid I felt like it was my fault that he would not come to see me. I often thought it was something I said or did to make him reject me. He left me with feelings of anger and resentment. I was so confused and unable to truly comprehend what I did wrong. I continually sought his approval whenever I did see him over the years, but I never really dealt with the rejection head on. I’ve learned that a major step toward dealing with rejection is to confront your pain. If someone steps on your toe you say, “Ouch you stepped on my toe!” But in our culture, when we feel rejected, we would just rather not talk about it; however, it is necessary to tell the individual who makes you feel rejected what they are doing.