Toddler Book

Rachel Waddilove

Description

A follow up to the hugely successful the Baby Book, The Toddler Book follows a child's development between the ages 12-36 months. Written in an informative yet friendly style, the book is essential for any parent, experienced or not, who wants to approach the terrible two's stage with confidence and a smile. Topics covered include: sleep, feeding, general care, potty training, illnesses, behaviour, development, play, family life, new baby in the family and the spiritual and emotional needs of a child.

Sujets

• Philosophie et théologie

Informations

• Publié par: Lion Hudson
• Date de parution: 21 octobre 2011
• Nombre de lectures: 1
• EAN13: 9780745958491
• Langue: English

Extrait

The Toddler Book
How to Enjoy Your Growing Child
Rachel Waddilove
Copyright 2008 Rachel Waddilove
The author asserts the moral right to be identified as the author of this work
A Lion Book an imprint of Lion Hudson plc Wilkinson House, Jordan Hill Road, Oxford OX2 8DR, England www.lionhudson.com ISBN 978 0 7459 5296 3 (print) ISBN 978 0 7459 5849 1 (epub) ISBN 978 0 7459 5848 4 (Kindle) ISBN 978 0 7459 5850 7 (pdf)
First edition 2008 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 0 First electronic edition 2011
All rights reserved
Acknowledgments
p. 42 Extract taken from Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte. Used by permission of the estate of Ms Nolte. pp. 178-79 Scripture quotation is taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved. p. 184 Scripture quotation is taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version, copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan and Hodder & Stoughton Limited. All rights reserved. The NIV and New International Version trademarks are registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by International Bible Society. Use of either trademark requires the permission of International Bible Society. UK trademark number 1448790.
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A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library
I dedicate this book to my darling children and grandchildren, who mean so much to me. I would not have been able to write the book without them. To my son Ben and his wife Helen, and Hannah and Jessica; my daughter Sarah and her husband Reuben, and Zack, Bethany and Joshua; and my daughter Jayne: thank you for all your encouragement to me to press on and write another book. I hope that you enjoy this one too, and that you are able to pass it on to future generations in our family.
Acknowledgments

I am indebted to Dr Hazel Curtis, Consultant Paediatrician at the Royal Devon and Exeter NHS Foundation Trust, for her very helpful input, her thoughtful suggestions, and the time she gave to reading the manuscript and writing the Foreword. My thanks also go to my lovely assistant Naomi; I really couldn t have done this without you. Your computer skills are amazing, and you are so unflappable and great fun to work with. You calmed me down when I felt the deadline was looming and I still had loads to do. You have always been there for me on the end of the phone just when I needed you. Thanks also to all who have looked after my great-niece Anya to enable Naomi to work with me, especially Rosie.
To all the families I ve worked for: thank you for having me into your homes and allowing me the privilege of looking after your babies and children. You have given me so much valuable experience and support in writing. Thank you to all of the parents who wrote letters that gave me snippets of wisdom for this book. I would like also to say a big thank you to those parents who have helped me by giving me ideas and inviting me to come back to look after their second, third and fourth babies. This has given me renewed experience in watching toddlers grow and develop in today s world. It is always a joy to live and work in a home where parents have laid down the important foundations in the early months and the children are happy, secure and well behaved because they know where the boundary lines are.
All of my family have given me great support in writing, once again, and I d particularly like to thank my daughter Sarah for her insight into life as a busy mum; also my sister Heather for inspiring me to write about the place of peace and contemplation in little ones lives. Thank you to all at Lion Hudson for encouraging me to write another book and for your help and support throughout. It s been a pleasure to work with Morag Reeve on both books, and I shall miss you as you move to pastures new.
Last but not least, my dear husband John: I couldn t have written this book without your support. Thank you, darling, for all your patience with me as I ve spent hours in front of my computer, and sometimes forgotten you were around. Thank you too for keeping the house and garden up and running, and for all your practical help. You ve encouraged me again to keep on going.
Contents

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Acknowledgments

Foreword

1 Introduction

Aims of This Book

My Background

2 Bringing Up Children in the Twenty-first Century

Changes in Society

Pressures on Parents Today

Positive Changes for Parents Today

Closing Thoughts

3 Your Toddler s Behaviour

Establishing Good Behaviour

Difficult Toddler Behaviour

Ways of Managing Behaviour

Closing Thoughts

4 Sleep

How Much Sleep Does My Toddler Need?

Good Sleeping Habits

Daytime Naps

Sleep Problems

Sleep Training

Moving from a Cot to a Bed

Top Ten Tips for Good Sleeping

5 Feeding Your Toddler

Encouraging Your Toddler to Enjoy Food

Toddlers Nutritional Needs

Family Mealtimes

Helping Your Toddler to Feed Himself

Mealtime Ideas

Problems with Eating

Weaning off the Breast or Bottle

Stopping Breast-feeding

Closing Thoughts

6 Potty Training

Reasons for Potty Training

When Should I Start?

Equipment

How Do I Potty-train?

Problems with Potty Training

Things Not to Worry About

7 Play

Creative Play

Active Play

Pretend Play

Developmental Play

Top Ten Toys to Last You Through the Toddler Years

8 Your Toddler s Development

An Overview of Ages One, Two and Three

Physical Development

Speech Development

Emotional Development

Closing Thoughts

9 General Care

Cleanliness and Hygiene

Clothing and Shoes

Exercise

Safety at Home

Safety Outdoors

Closing Thoughts

10 Childhood Illnesses

Treating and Preventing Common Illnesses

Raised Temperature

Infectious Diseases

Chest Infections

Ear, Nose and Throat Infections

Gastric Problems

Urinary Infections

Skin Conditions

Allergies

Common Childhood Injuries

Staying in Hospital

11 Having Another Baby

Deciding to Have Another Baby

Coping with Pregnancy and Birth

Preparing Your Toddler for a Sibling

Dealing with Your Toddler s Reaction to the New Baby

Dividing Your Time as Parents

Closing Thoughts

12 Building a Strong Family Life

How to Enjoy Being a Mum

How to Enjoy Being a Dad

Parenting Together

Keeping a Strong Relationship

Helping Siblings to Get Along Together

How to Enjoy Being a Grandparent

Closing Thoughts

13 Your Toddler s Spiritual and Emotional Needs

How Do I Show My Child Love?

Building Special Memories

Spirituality in a Toddler s Life

When Life Hurts

Closing Thoughts

Appendix: Flexible Routine Charts

Guideline Timings for One-year-olds

Guideline Timings for Two-year-olds

Guideline Timings for Three-year-olds

Combining a Toddler s and a Baby s Routine
Foreword

Rachel s book tackles the complexity and challenge of bringing up toddlers in the twenty-first century. It will help you to understand and nurture your child s physical, emotional and spiritual development. However, it also considers the needs of parents, seeking to help you to juggle the demands and pressures of our frenetic culture, while still enjoying being the mum or dad of a lively toddler. The book is written with a real warmth and an encouraging, practical style, drawing upon Rachel s wealth of experience, gained over many years as a nursery nurse, mother and grandmother and now as a consultant working one-to-one with families.
This book is a treasure trove of information, addressing all aspects of child care and development, including the common problem areas, such as behaviour, sleep and feeding. It offers practical ideas and strategies for handling difficult issues, such as ten top tips for sleeping, and the importance of family mealtimes. The controversial issues are discussed thoughtfully, including the importance of disciplining in a loving, nurturing and consistent way, so that the toddler will be more ready to cope with the wider world of nursery, school and beyond.
I was delighted to see lots of information on play and the top ten toys for the toddler years (DVDs don t make it into the top ten!). Play is an important part of parenting and helps to lay the foundations for so many aspects of development - including language, social skills, creativity and imagination. It is all too easy to be busy, yet play is an important opportunity to just enjoy being together and having fun!
Another valuable part of this book is its emphasis upon nurturing the emotional and spiritual sides of your toddler as well as his or her physical needs. Children thrive on knowing how precious they are and that they are deeply and unconditionally loved. Young children may not fully understand when we say I love you , but actions so often speak louder than words.
Rachel acknowledges that there are times when we don t get it right and feel that we are failures, but she also offers hope, reminding us that there is always the chance to start again the next day. Her book will help you to look at the many facets of parenthood, providing inspiration in the midst of the challenges of life with your toddler, whose independence is emerging.
Hazel Curtis
Consultant Paediatrician, Royal Devon and Exeter NHS Foundation Trust
Lead Clinician for Honeylands Child Development Centre
CHAPTER 1
Introduction

Aims of This Book
When my publishers suggested I write another book, I wondered how different it might be from The Baby Book . As I have spent time thinking through what parents want to know when bringing up their children, I feel that parenting during the toddler years can be just as much a minefield as caring for a newborn baby.
During the first year of our baby s life we will probably have had all