BDSM

Stefan Vogael

Description

"An excellent short overview of the topic of BDSM. I really enjoyed that this book was well researched and explored the neuroscience theories about why people enjoy BDSM. This approach is often not discussed in a lot of BDSM literature so it was a different lens to view the subject and a step in the right direction to normalizing the practice of BDSM." Mistress Kashiko (BA Psychology) owner of Keeping it Kinky website- BDSM Why am I Kinky? is a book for those who are into BDSM as a sexual taste. Have you ever wondered why you are into BDSM? Why there tend to be more people of the Submissive persuasion than those of the Dominant persuasion? Why do the M/f dynamic (Male dominating female) and F/m dynamic (Female dominating male) tend to differ?- Written in similar style to a research paper with references proposing reasoned answers with explanations to these questions. Taking an inner looking perspective at those with kink, without assuming it's who you are as a person. BDSM Why am I Kinky? proposes that enjoying both roles (switching) is a preference that can be chosen, looking at the underlying reasons why.- BDSM Why am I Kinky? is not an erotic book or a "how-to", but is for those interested in seeking potential avenues to learn more about themselves. This book does not presume to be fact on an area which has many theories, but is open to acceptance to the reader if seen as logical and making sense, and if so, could help people understand themselves a bit more."I enjoyed reading. It generally makes good logical sense, and seems well supported. Very well written" Aarkey, Blogger"It's a very interesting read and offers some great insights." Lily, BDSM Contracts website)

Sujets

• Sociologie, société et politique
• Human sexual activity

Informations

• Publié par: Odd Light Bulb Press
• Date de parution: 11 octobre 2017
• Nombre de lectures: 5
• EAN13: 9780993322433
• Langue: English

Extrait

Table of Contents
Introduction
The Origins of Sexual Arousal
Theory for BDSM
Are You a Top or Bottom?
Sadomasochistic Interpretation
Switching
Healthy BDSM
By Stefan Vogael

ISBN 978-0-9933224-3-3
Copyright © 2017 Odd Light Bulb Press
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Introduction
The reason why BDSM is a sexual predilection for some people has had various theories. In fairly recent history many have been negative, likely due to the views of psychiatrists such as Sigmund Freud and Richard von Krafft-Ebing.
Psychiatric viewpoints have tended to be based on theory with little scientific fact. Because of this, the theories would follow from the beliefs and social contexts of the time. At a time of androcentric (male) bias in society it was thought that sadism within males was a distortion of what was perceived as the normally dominant position of males. Masochism for a male was seen as contrary to this and therefore even more of an aberration, while for a female, masochism was seen as more natural, which in modern times could be seen as quite offensive.
It wasn’t until the Kinsey Reports in the 1940’s and 50’s finding that half of Americans partook in sexual activities considered mildly masochistic or sadistic, that general views started to change. Since then there has been a growing amount of research with similar findings, concluding that there is nothing pathological about BDSM per se or the people who like it. In a 2004 survey by Durex (condom manufacturers), sexual attitudes and behaviour were looked at with over 350,000 respondents from 41 countries, finding that 19% enjoy spanking while 22% enjoy blindfolds and / or handcuffs. In 1995 Denmark withdrew sadomasochism as a diagnosis. As far back as 1927 Havelock Ellis alluded to the mutual nature between BDSM practitioners, albeit this may not have been largely recognised at the time.
“We have thus to recognize that sadism by no means involves any love of inflicting pain outside the sphere of sexual emotion, and is even compatible with a high degree of general tender-heartedness. We have also to recognize that even within the sexual sphere the sadist by no means wishes to exclude the victim's pleasure, and may even regard that pleasure as essential to his own satisfaction.”
Source: Ellis, Havelock. “Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 3” (1897–1928)
If it is between consenting adults and no harm is done, why make a negative theory out of something just because you can’t work it out?
The underlying angle of this book is BDSM as a sexual taste. The terms “Top/Dominant/Dom” and “Bottom/Submissive/Sub” are used in a broad sense for the roles played within the many different activities that can be described as BDSM. For those not familiar “Top” means the person who is dominant whereas “Bottom” is the person who is dominated.
Despite the use of the words sadism and masochism, to many, BDSM is more about power exchange than pain, which is not essential to BDSM. Often pain is part of dominance and control.
Contained within this book are theories that correlate with instances in real life about why people are into BDSM, why there are often more people of the submissive persuasion than dominants, how BDSM activities can be an interpretation of what it is to feel pain or humiliation dependant on whichever sex you are, and how people can change between dominant and submissive.
The theories within this book are open to acceptance if they seem logical and make sense to the reader. If they do, then they could help people understand themselves a bit more, perhaps offering a potential new insight for those who are new, curious or unsure. Some of the ideas could alleviate concerns of a man insecure with his submissive sexual fantasies for what he might think as a lack of “masculinity”.