Gangsta Therapy

Lisa Osborne

Description

It’s officially time to stop blaming your parents, making excuses and playing victim. Own your role in your madness. In other words, life doesn’t owe you anything; you owe it! This all begins with the truth, which you will uncover in Gangsta Therapy. Everyone needs a little “gangsta therapy” at some point. This straight-no-chaser kind of help will shock you back to life and force you to acknowledge the toxic aspects and relationships in your life. What you do with it is solely up to you, however.

1  Down the Rabbit Hole We Go

Where Are You?

Are You a Fool?

What Are You Ignoring?

Mirror, Mirror

Your Tribe

Get to the Root, Dig

Using Your Super Powers

 

2  The Blame Game

The Generational Curse Issue

Failure as a Teacher

Moving in a Another Direction

Imagine with an ‘I’

Writing a New Chapter

Using Your Super Powers

 

3  Releasing the Past

The Harvest is Yours

Psychological Locks

Boomerang

Return to Sender

Using Your Super Powers

 

4  Loving Yourself

Are You on Life Support?

Being Needy

Different Place, Same Pain

Looking for Signs

Get Real with Yourself

Shift Happens

Be a Great Friend to Yourself

Using Your Super Powers

 

5  Singles, Get Your Mind Right

See Me, Pick Me

Love Doesn’t Hurt

Real Talk Ladies & Gentlemen

      Men

      Women

      The Insecure Guy

      The Cheater

The Breakup Process

It’s All About You

Joy Comes in the Morning

Using Your Super Powers

 

6  Bitter Parents Ain’t Cute

Unwitting Parents

Deadbeat Parents

      Women

      Men

Using Your Super Powers

 

7  Happily Ever After

Marriage = Agreement

Roadmap to a Happy Marriage

            Divine Connection

The Agreement

            Cheating

            Divorce

Don’t Believe the Hype

Using Your Super Powers

 

8  Judgment Day is Every Day

The Wilderness

Judging You

A Renewed You

Using Your Super Powers

 

9  Maintenance Plan

Liberate Yourself    

The Why

Road Map to the Best Version of You

Cognitive Distortions

Sujets

• Sociologie, société et politique
• Self-help book
• Christian literature

Informations

• Publié par: 5380 Studios
• Date de parution: 30 janvier 2019
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780999829912
• Langue: English

Extrait

gangsta therapy







Atlanta, GA


LISA OSBORNE


THERAPY


Gangsta Therapy: Straight No Chaser Self-Help Guide
Copyright 2019 Lisa Osborne
All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, without written permission from the author, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review.
Address inquiries to the publisher:
Tyler Nicole Publishing
2451 Cumberland Parkway SE, Suite 3943
Atlanta, Georgia 30339-6157 USA
Learn more about the author at
www.lisaosborneauthor.com
ISBN: 978-0-9998299-0-5 (print)
ISBN: 978-0-9998299-1-2 (ebook)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2019900107
Printed in the United States of America


dedication
This is for my earthly family. I want them to always remember
the power of self-love and healing, and its importance
in serving and liberating others.




contents
Preface, xi
Acknowledgments, xiii
Introduction, xv
1 Down the Rabbit Hole We Go 21
Where Are You? 23
Are You a Fool? 24
What Are You Ignoring? 25
Mirror, Mirror 26
Your Tribe 28
Get to the Root, Dig 29
Using Your Super Powers 33
2 The Blame Game 35
The Generational Curse Issue 37
Failure as a Teacher 38
Moving in a Another Direction 39
Imagine with an ‘I’ 40
Writing a New Chapter 42
Using Your Super Powers 44
3 Releasing the Past 47
The Harvest is Yours 49
Psychological Locks 50
Boomerang 51
Return to Sender 52
Using Your Super Powers 54
4 Loving Yourself 57
Are You on Life Support? 59
Being Needy 60
Different Place, Same Pain 61
Looking for Signs 62
Get Real with Yourself 63
Shift Happens 64
Be a Great Friend to Yourself 65
Using Your Super Powers 67
5 Singles, Get Your Mind Right 69
Love Doesn’t Hurt 71
Real Talk Ladies & Gentlemen 71
Men 72
Women 73
The Insecure Guy 75
The Cheater 75
The Breakup Process 76
It’s All About Me 77
Joy Comes in the Morning 78
Using Your Super Powers 80
6 Bitter Parents Ain’t Cute 83
Unwitting Parents 84
Deadbeat Parents 84
Women 85
Men 86
Using Your Super Powers 88
7 Happily Ever After 89
Marriage = Agreement 91
Roadmap to a Happy Marriage 92
Divine Connection 93
The Agreement 91
Cheating 95
Divorce 95
Don’t Believe the Hype 96
Using Your Super Powers 97
8 Judgment Day is Every Day 99
The Wilderness 100
Judging You 102
A Renewed You 102
Using Your Super Powers 104
9 Maintenance Plan 105
Liberate Yourself 106
The Why 108
Road Map to the Best Version of You 109
Distorted Thinking 110




preface
I am so excited that you have chosen to take a straight, no chaser approach to your life’s next chapter. I truly hope you enjoy the journey while reading this book.
Before reading this unconventional self-help book, please note that once you discover your truth you cannot “unknow” it. Therefore, you will be held to a higher standard. If you are not seeking to become your best self and be held to a higher standard, please share this book with a friend who is ready instead. Just keepin’ it real with you.
I was divinely inspired to write this book, but I had to say yes to an inner desire to share my gift and push past the fear. There were days that I didn’t believe I could get it done, so I had to connect from within because the nagging feeling of not doing it was driving me cray cray. I call it my gift because I’m the person that gets the “help me with my life” calls, texts and emails, hence the reason I became a certified life coach. With this book, I have now documented some of the lessons I shared over the years to help many become detached from their baggage. “Detachment” is another word for healed.
If you are barely hanging on and stressed out, my advice is simple: choose life . Choosing life in the midst of pain is the activation of hope and unwavering faith despite what your eyes may see or your heart may feel. We will explore this further as we go deeper down the rabbit hole. In the interim, I am seeking your trust in agreeing to simply let go of the stuff you are trying to hang on to that does not serve you. In fact, it’s bringing you down. Choosing life will set your soul on fire, and this spark will put you on a journey to self-discovery. CHOOSE YOURSELF, for everyone benefits when you choose to consistently evolve into your best self. The second part of my advice is also simple: keep going . If you stop, you have no chance of overcoming or winning, so get back up and keep going.
It’s officially time to stop blaming your parents, making excuses and playing victim. Own your role in your madness. In other words, life doesn’t owe you anything; you owe it! This all begins with the truth, which we will uncover in Gangsta Therapy. Are you ready?
Just remember, I love you, and together we are going to remove psychological blocks in order to help you become free and evolve into the loving person you were created to be.
~ Lisa Osborne


acknowledgments
What an incredible journey it’s been in writing this book. I honestly didn’t have a choice because the nagging feeling within would not go away. That said, I have to give a big shout out to: Marian, Allene, Rick, Michael, Shantell, Marcus, Linda, Corrine, Lee and Chondra. These were my earthly angels by name during the worst storm of my life. They inspired me to keep moving no matter what my eyes could see. As I learned to close my eyes to see the truth, I was able to experience true joy.
I want to thank the scammer that had me working for free thinking I was getting a big paycheck when I was living in fear. He was a full-length mirror of my fear.
I thank my friends who betrayed me because they taught me how to recognize jealousy. I was totally blind before the betrayal. I no longer dim my light to make others comfortable.
I want to thank my friend who saw me spiraling and approached me with a shady deal that I refused. Nothing was going to make me disloyal to my integrity. Although he told me that I was crazy for not doing the deal, I told him God and I were good with the decision. He laughed and called me a poor soul. That’s right, I was a poor soul because I was in the middle of detaching from the stuff that I thought made me rich. I know now that a poor soul is merely free to be as created.
After I became my best self and emerged from the valley, I met my divine connection, my husband. He is my best friend, twin flame and soul mate. He represents perfect love to me. A perfect love is one that allows you to be your authentic self with no conditions as you continue to evolve into your best self. His unwavering faith inspires me.
The reason you are reading this book is due to a divine introduction to my editor, Annette. She pushed me to give birth to a dream that terrified me. I started and stopped, but every time I spoke to her, I had renewed energy to keep pushing. I am truly grateful that my divine sister put me on a journey to bringing Gangsta Therapy to life. To God be the glory.
Last, but not least, I want to thank my grandmother for being my guardian angel. I talk to her all the time, and my grandfather who said I would do great things in this world before he transitioned. I would always whisper, “When, Grandaddy?” I guess now is the time. I am grateful and surrounded by angels.


introduction
Everyone needs a little “gangsta therapy” at some point. This straight-no-chaser kind of help will shock you back to life and force you to acknowledge the toxic aspects and relationships in your life. What you do with it is solely up to you, however.
My sorority sister and cousin inspired the title of this book a few years ago after witnessing my counseling approach. They said my straight no-chaser counseling was “Gangsta” because it was raw and unapologetic. This was the birth of Gangsta Therapy - a keeping it real approach to self-help.
My approach was inspired many years ago by the Original Gangsta, Corrine, my straight no chaser friend of over 25 years from Camden, New Jersey. She taught me that unconditional love doesn’t always come packaged in a pretty box, her love for me as a friend and spiritual sister is unconditional and typically delivered without flowers, not to hurt me, but to liberate me. I always heard and repeated when two or more agree God is in the midst, but after meeting her I felt the words come to life. Balance is when both agree to meet at the intersection of love and understanding. One is holding on to emotional baggage, which is the equivalent of being in the forest, and the other can see from all angels because they are free from attachments and distractions. In the midst of it all is God.
Heck, I got to a point of when I knew I was stuck on stupid. I would call her so that I could adjust my crown. This is when I became free; my darkness (fear, pain) willingly met my light. It was in that moment that I realized I was being prepared to deliver the desires of my heart – transforming lives.
Gangsta Therapy requires you to go within to do the work to transform and heal your mindset. It’s more about accountability versus the justification of the pain or blame