Just Let 'Em Play

Andrew Jacobs, Jeff Montgomery, Peter Malone

Description

The stories seem more prevalent today than ever: coaches, and parents pushing kids to the point of "burnout" before high school, parents fighting with referees and umpires, coaches berating kids in front of teammates and parents, and even kids using performance-enhancing drugs. Renowned sport psychologist Dr. Andrew Jacobs, longtime Major League pitcher Jeff Montgomery, and Hall of Fame swimming coach Peter Malone have seen first-hand the issues that are making youth sports increasingly difficult for parents, coaches, officials, and especially kids to navigate. Jacobs' clients, who range from elementary school to professional athletes, regularly talk to him about "burnout"-even before high school. Montgomery, who almost walked away from baseball after four years in the minor leagues, stuck with it and went on to become a three-time American League All-Star and the 1993 A.L. Reliever of the Year during a 13-year major-league career. He learned about today's "win-at'all'costs" mentality while coaching youth baseball for almost a decade. Peter D. Malone coached more than 10,000 swimmers during his 44-year career. During his last 35 years of coaching, he was the general manager and head coach of the Kansas City Blazers, a program featuring swimmers from recreational to Olympic levels. He coached four Olympic gold medalists. In Just Let "Em Play: Guiding Parents, Coaches, and Athletes through Youth Sports, Dr. Jacobs, Montgomery, and Malone utilize decades of experience and training with amateur and professional athletes to explain the importance of winning and losing, success and failure; why it's okay that not every athlete receive a trophy; and the role of parents, coaches, officials, and athletes.

Sujets

• Sociologie, société et politique
• Psychotherapy

Informations

• Publié par: Ascend Books
• Date de parution: 01 décembre 2015
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9780996194488
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 2 Mo

Extrait

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“ï’m excîted to see Dr. Jacobs autor a book îke tîs. ï ave been a ong tîme reader and an o îs newsetters on wînnersunîmîted.com and requenty tak about teîr content wît board members o te soccer program ï am în carge o. Wît neary 1,000 kîds payîng eac a, ï ave seen and eard parents ose teîr mînds on te sîdeînes. Every one o tem woud beneIt rom readîng a book îke tîs. Wen ît comes to yout sports, parents need to redeIne “wînnîng” and provîde teîr kîds wît an envîronment were “payîng” îs un agaîn. Dr. Jacobs knows ow to get tat poînt across.” – Hershey Weisman Regîona Commîssîoner AYSO Regîon 33 - Encîno, CA

“Just Let ‘Em Payessentîa readîng or anyone înterested în teacîng îs deveopîng mînds te keys to success în îe troug sport. he autors sow us tat sport îs a poweru veîce în teacîng te young about good work etîc, quaîty decîsîon-makîng, and ow we coose our attîtudes. earnîng ow to ‘just et ‘em pay’ wî aow you to sît paradîgms to posîtîve vocabuary and goa settîng, wîc are împeratîve to observîng te penomenon o success. You wî watc cîdren bossom and become great în watever tey coose. Just Let ‘Em Paywî be a we-used reerence as ï raîse my own cîdren.” – Catherine Fox Two-tîme U.S. Oympîc god medaîst

“ï ad te prîvîege to ave worked wît Dr. Andrew Jacobs durîng my coacîng tenure wît te Kansas Cîty Royas. He as te experîence to ave wrîtten tîs outstandîng book or coaces and parents. ït îs a tremendous guîde or parents, coaces, and atetes, and wî gîve tem a broader ook înto a aspects o sport. ï’ve spent 39 years în proessîona baseba, 13 o tem at te Major eague eve. ï was ortunate to ave coaced te 2001 Word Serîes campîon Arîzona Dîamondbacks. To te readers, ï reay beîeve you wî enjoy readîng tîs book, get a good perspectîve about sport and understand tat ît îs so împortant to ocus on avîng un.” – Eddie Rodriguez Rovîng ïnIed Coordînator San Dîego Padres

“Havîng been a soccer coac or 40 years, ï ave wîtnessed te ups and downs rom atetes, coaces, oicîas, and ans. As ï ave seen te progress and growt în popuarîty and partîcîpatîon în soccer în tîs country, one o my concerns as been te pressure tat’s paced on younger payers to get învoved and to pay at an advanced eve at younger and younger ages. Organîzed eagues are gettîng ormed at younger ages and te pressure to specîaîze în one sport îs becomîng more demandîng on atetes and parents. “ï ave known and worked wît Dr. Andrew Jacobs sînce te mîd-1980s. he advîce and knowedge e and îs co-autors provîde înJust Let ‘Em Pay soud be a requîrement or a parents wo are enroîng teîr cîdren în yout eagues în any sport and soud be a part o te contînuîng educatîon process or coaces and oicîas. hîs book wî ep yout sports contînue to be an enjoyabe and earnîng experîence or a învoved.” – Rick Benben Head Coac, Unîversîty o Mîssourî-Kansas Cîty Men’s Soccer

As a 3 tîme Major eague A-Star pîtcer and yout sport coac, and te ater o two pro ba-payers (wît one becomîng an A-Star tîs year) ï ave seen te good and bad în sports. Over te past 20 years yout sports as canged and become more caengîng and demandîng on younger and younger atetes. he pressures o avîng to wîn and beîng rîdîcued wen you ose ave repaced te rea purpose o yout sports, “to ave un”. Havîng been a teammate o Jef Montgomery and worked wît Dr. Andrew Jacobs, ï know tey understand wat sports are reay about.Just Let ‘Em Paywî ep guîde you troug te rîgt decîsîons to make and et your kîds ave un and earn ow to succeed. hîs book soud be requîred readîng or a yout sport parents, coaces and oicîas. – Tom “Flash” Gordon 20 year Major eague Pîtcer 3 tîme Major eague A-Star 1998 Amerîcan eague Roaîds Reîe Man o te Year

“Coac Pete Maone and Dr. Andrew Jacobs estabîsed a natîonay recognîzed program în Kansas Cîty tat as saped te îves o numerous atetes. hroug teîr eadersîp and guîdance, countess swîmmers ave acîeved success at te îgest eves.Just Let ‘Em Paywî provîde an opportunîty or atetes, parents, and coaces to earn te împortance o avîng un wîe casîng your dreams. Sannon îs proo: Wît support and dedîcatîon, dreams can come true.” – Connie & Dan Vreeland Parents o Sannon Vreeand – ormer Bazer swîmmer and Oympîc god medaîst

“Wen peope tak about swîmmîng în te greater Kansas Cîty area, tey’re takîng about Pete Maone. Wat e as accompîsed at te KC Bazers and ow e groomed atetes rom tîs team was amazîng and was no accîdent. Wen ï started swîmmîng or Pete, e was aready a natîonay renowned coac, avîng produced Oympîc medaîsts. hen tere was Dr. Andrew Jacobs, wît wom ï worked at two peak tîmes trougout my swîmmîng career. Dr. Jacobs eped me to keep ît sîmpe, prepare a race pan, and keep me ocused on my persona goas.” – Max Jaben ïsraeî Oympîc atete Owner, Swîm Fît A

“Dr. Andrew Jacobs, Jef Montgomery, Peter Maone, and Matt Fuks coud not ave been more tîmey în wrîtîngJust Let ‘Em Pay. As a parent, mîdde and îg scoo coac, and ormer natîona and coegîate eîte atete, ï ave a vast perspectîve o yout sports and eîte atetîcs în Amerîca. hîs book îs a tremendous resource or guîdance, înormatîon, and advîce or every coac, atete, and parent, regardess o te sport or eve o acîevement. Every parent ‘just wants teîr kîd to be appy’ (î not aso a amous a-star). ï beîeve sports are essentîa to persona deveopment and success, wîc are keys to true appîness and strong caracter. ‘Caracter’ îs a buzz word în educatîon today, but sports doesn’t try to artîIcîay manuacture caracter î youJust Let ‘Em Pay(and don’t gîve every kîd a tropy just or sowîng up!).” – Debbie Risen Hurwitz U.S. Natîona Swîmmîng Campîon NCAA Swîmmîng Campîon Unîversîty o Texas Atetîcs Ha o Honor ïnductee

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Dr. Andrew Jacobs•Jeff Montgomery•Peter D. Malone with Matt Fulks Foreword by Shannon Vreeland, Olympic Gold Medal Swimmer

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TABLE OF CONTENTS Dedîcatîons Foreword by Sannon Vreeand, U.S. Oympîc God Meda Swîmmer A Note From he Autors ïntroductîon by Dr. Andrew Jacobs

Capter 1 Capter 2 Capter 3 Capter 4 Capter 5 Capter 6 Capter 7 Capter 8 Capter 9 Capter 10 Capter 11 Capter 12 Capter 13 Capter 14

“Wen I Was Your Age…” he Decîsîon to Play Embracîng Faîlure Can Lead to Fun Your Cîld Wants to Play a Sport. Now Wat? Doctor’s Orders – a Q&A wît Dr. Steven Joyce Everyone Has a Role în te “Atletîc Box” It Starts wît te Parents Hars Realîtîes he Power o Parent Language and Demeanor Yout Sports and Famîly he Coac’s Role A Word to te Atletes Beyond Yout Sports Sportsmansîp

Bîbîograpy Acknowedgments About te Autors

Resources Yout Sports Organîzatîon Lîsts Andrew Heymann Speec Mîssîon Statements

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