Letting Go of Anger

Ronald Potter-Efron, Patricia Potter-Efron

Description

A Guide to Healthy Anger Expression

How do you express your anger? Do you blow up? Quietly seethe? Or do you try to pretend that you''re really not angry at all and just hope the feelings will go away? Most of us express anger in more than one way, but we also tend to be creatures of habit, falling back on a few predictable styles when we feel angry. Unfortunately, while some styles are appropriate in some situations, others are not—and consistently using an inappropriate style is a sure way to find yourself saddled with a huge anger problem.

This book examines the eleven most common styles of anger expression and helps you learn how to communicate your anger in healthy ways. Learn which anger styles work for different situations—and which ones lead to certain disaster. Find out how to become more flexible and creative at expressing your anger. Once you understand the whole range of anger styles, you''ll be able to better manage angry feelings and use your anger as a positive force for building a better life.

Sujets

• Sociologie, société et politique
• Popular psychology
• Social

Informations

• Publié par: New Harbinger Publications
• Date de parution: 01 janvier 0001
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781572249431
• Langue: English

Extrait

“The PotterEfrons continue to capture the essence of anger through their anger styles. By understanding the eleven anger styles and how they relate to each of us in a personal way, we gain insight that can unlock our own chains of anger. The PotterEfrons have generously provided the tools to help break away from the most hardened of anger styles. Their guidance and experience will give each of us the opportu nity to begin our journey on a path towards emotional freedom.” —V. William Blount, MS, author ofHealthy Anger

“This book offers detailed, yet accessible, descriptions of anger styles, followed by easytounderstand alternatives to healthier expressions. Anyone who wants to examine their anger will be able to find them selves in this book.”

—Susan C. Turell, Ph.D., counseling psychologist working with survivors of sexual and physical violence

Letting Go of Anger

Second Edition

Ron PotterEfron Pat PotterEfron

New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Publisher’s Note This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Copyright © 2006 by Ron PotterEfron and Pat PotterEfron New Harbinger Publications, Inc. 5674 Shattuck Avenue Oakland, CA 94609

Cover design by Amy Shoup; Acquired by Catharine Sutker; Edited by Kayla Sussell; Text design by Tracy Marie Carlson

All Rights Reserved; Printed in the United States of America

Library of Congress CataloginginPublication Data

PotterEfron, Ronald T. Letting go of anger : the eleven most common anger styles and what to do about them / Ronald T. PotterEfron and Patricia S. PotterEfron. — 2nd ed. p. cm. ISBN13: 9781572244481 ISBN10: 1572244488 1. Anger. 2. Control (Psychology) I. PotterEfron, Patricia S. II. Title. BF575.A5P85 2006 152.4’7—dc22 2006014692

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Contents

I Introduction

Anger Problems, Anger Styles: Eleven ways People Get Angry

II Masked Anger Styles

Anger Avoidance: Trying Never to Get Angry

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Sneaky Anger: Showing Anger by Doing Nothing

Anger Turned Inward: Becoming the Target of Your Own Anger

III Explosive Anger Styles

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Sudden Anger: Blowing Up Without Warning 71

Shamebased Anger: Turning Shame into Rage

Deliberate Anger: Becoming Mad to get what You Want

Excitatory Anger: Getting High on Anger

IV Chronic Anger Styles

Habitual Hostility: Looking for Reasons to get Angry

10 Paranoia (Fearbased Anger): Feeling attacked by Everyone

11 Moral Anger: Defending one’s beliefs and values

12 Resentment/Hate: Longlasting Anger about old injuries

13 Conclusion: Letting Go of Anger

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Introduction