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Togetherness cannot ever be made obvious when our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are contradictory to what we say we want to experience. Being part of the togetherness movement requires an underlying belief system that does not, can not, limit our ability to relate openly and authentically with others. This book shows how to achieve this transition.



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Date de parution 01 juillet 2019
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Ch 1: Moving Backward To Go Forward
Ch 2: Keeping The Main Thing The Only Thing
Ch 3: Small Spaces
Ch 4: Omelets Require Broken Eggs
Ch 5: Beware A Pig
Ch 6: A Heavy Burden
Ch 7: Can I Play On Your Team?
Ch 8: Evolutionary Community
Ch 9: Pollyanna Rocks
Appendix I
Appendix II - A Quick Summary
More To Explore
‘Authentic Community’ cannot be recognized until a working sense of Oneness and Connection is in place.
~ Daryl Ochs
I dedicate this book to all those who long to be accepted, listened to, understood, supported and appreciated—while expecting to continue only in the longing. In other words, to all those who seek to understand practical relationships. May this book bring you at least a beginning awareness of how to offer the kind of relationship you long for, so that it will come back to you multiplied many times over.
Special appreciation is due Deanna, my faithful and long-suffering wife, who has encouraged me through years of apparent failure to get my thoughts sufficiently expressed to actually result in a published book. Her unfailing ability to reveal my lack of clear communication when reading early editions saved me repeated embarrassment and wasted effort! Through it all, she has inspired and enabled me to continue pushing ahead until reaching this long-intended result.
Thanks to several friends who read and commented on the evolving editions of this manuscript over several years: Douglas Vernon, Jim Pasmore, Mark McFeely, Annalea Cornell, Paul & Mieke Benton, Hank Queen, Kelsey Collins and probably several others who have been overlooked.
A special thanks to Douglas Vernon who read, commented and provided valuable first-line editing throughout his long involvement with my attempts at making ideas usable for others. This, in addition to his friendship and abiding support over many years.
Inspiration, direction and input from a host of friends and companions along my journey continue to instill hope and expectation for the future. Many of these are personal friends and acquaintances here in Central Oregon, while others have become fond memories through their own writing, lectures and infrequent contact. My college and seminary classmates Ed Boyatt and Edward Turner have maintained their friendship despite our mutually varied paths through, and beyond our ministerial years. Their examples have been a beacon of warmth.
Many cherished friends throughout this endeavor are intellectual giants within various disciplines who have richly enhanced my life and experiences with their wisdom and grace without ever knowing it.
They are men and women whose names are included in the Appendix and without whom I would never have reached this delightful conclusion.
To all of them I owe a debt of gratitude and appreciation.
But a very special recognition goes to my incredible publisher, Ahonu & Aingeal Rose of Twin Flame Productions LLC ( Their encouragement, guidance and suggestions were responsible for this book actually coming to completion. Their knowledge of the publishing industry allows them to offer services and benefits seldom experienced by new authors. With heart-felt appreciation I am delighted to entrust my words to their processes of putting this book into hands and minds around the world.
Thank you, my friends!
The positions presented in this book derive from a curious mixture of personal experience, some wisdom from living this long, ancient wisdom from various spiritual traditions, current scientific understandings, expansive cosmology and a wealth of insight and experience from numerous writers of our day.
I’m often asked if I have another book in the making. Based on the history of this book in the process, I doubt that I’d live long enough to even make the effort for another. The reality is that I’ve already written about eight books over the past fifteen years that now beg for repurposing and publishing, but with different reasons than existed when originally putting thought to print.
Late blooming recognition allows me to now see that each of the other books were simply reflective of a personal journey that slowly led to this point in time. The topic of togetherness was always the purpose of my previous efforts; it took a long time for that to mature into meaningful conversation.
My prior attempts at thoughtful writing were for my personal edification and expansion, not for the benefit of others. Now I’m beginning to understand that my previous involvement in moving forward in life experience may actually have benefit for those who are attempting to further their own exploration of what life is offering.
Much—perhaps even most—of what you’ll encounter here is rapidly becoming public domain and entering the thinking and language of our 21st Century cultural evolution, even if not accompanied by the actual experience of moving from there to here.
It’s one thing to confront a stimulating idea for the first time and quite another to actually live through the steps of how the idea has taken on a life of its own.
In addition to courses, classes and pod casting through my website, I expect to enjoy reverting back to earlier days and sharing my experiences from the stage. So, the definitive answer to the question regarding a new book is a rather emphatic “No!” ... with wriggle room for the unexpected.
While I don’t consider what I have to say herein as more than Night Language (see chapter 6), I constantly cross-check with my sources and resources in the attempt to stay coherent. If I sometimes seem a bit pedantic or biased, it’s likely that I am, in spite of efforts to move away from that stance. For this I apologize in advance.
That’s my story and for now, I’m sticking to it!
The lead-in to the book says there are five steps for repairing the damages of contempt, separation and fear that permeate our culture.
What are they?
Actually, there are many more than just five steps, but the five most important ones are those you select as appropriate for you.
I cannot select them for you, but I would love to know which you select. As you work your way through the book, make notes as to what appears to be calling to you and then select the five that call the loudest. Ask yourself why that is.
And then ask yourself what you’re personally going to do about them. How will you allow those five steps to inform and direct your future? They will become beacons to your soul and to your future.
This is your assignment as you read and contemplate. Don’t be in a hurry; allow your thoughts to mingle with imagination and allow your inner voice to speak truth to you. That will be YOUR truth and no-one else’s.
Oregon 1st Sept 2019
About The Author
I am Daryl Ochs, the founder of . My wife Deanna and I live in Bend, OR where we interact with an evolving group of people focused on learning how to make life more enjoyable and rewarding.
I was 40 years old before it began to dawn on me that perhaps none of us realized what a problem we were collectively creating back in those days. As an ordained evangelical pastor of a southern Oregon church in the mid-1970s, I lived my heart’s desires. Unexpectedly that idyllic life started eroding as I began questioning the credibility of my tribe's theology. Then my role within that mindset turned suspect. It took a couple more years to reach the point where I knew my tenure as a pastor was over.
Taking a leave of absence from my church, then my denomination and finally from all traditional religious beliefs, resulted in virtually all our friends concluding we'd left our minds somewhere behind us! Our struggle for survival led me to experience elements of life I could never have imagined. Suicidal thoughts, infidelity, greed, criminal activities, jail time, loss of identity, bankruptcy, despair, anger, fear and depression finally turned the corner in 2000. I began rebuilding my life.
Since 1976 everything contributed to a slowly-growing awareness that nothing is more important to our human existence than our ability to participate in authentic togetherness. I've come to understand that meaningful relationships are not dependent on what we believe, but on who we are. That unfolding story is the focus of my life's work now.
I engage in conversations, speak before groups, conduct classes and write continually in the effort to clarify my own understanding.
Sharing that evolving awareness with others who share my interests, simply adds to my joy of living. If interested, you're welcome to ride along. Should you decide to explore with me I look forward to meeting you on the journey.
What kind of world do you want?
As you deliberately look for positive aspects in yourself or in others, you will find more of those things. ~ Abraham-Hicks What might it be like to bond quickly, easily and deeply with people you meet?
To experience a genuine level of engagement with family, friends and others… a connection that goes beyond the norm of trivia, surface conversation and inane comments that contribute little or nothing to the emotional needs of the soul?
Would you enjoy mingling with people of different ethnic backgrounds and cultural experience, if you could be assured that the diversity of beliefs would have little or nothing to do with how well you got along?
What would you give to move away from the seemingly endless bickering over religious and political issues and petty grievances that so deeply divide us today?
Are you ready to consider a new way of living, to feel in harmony with everything in your life and to appreciate whatever and whoever shows up in your experience? Is it conceivable that such an environment actually exists right here and now, one that is real and functional, except that you can’t see it?
Can you imagine what it would be like to smile, laugh, love and joyously accept others into your circle of friends who look, feel, think and act differently than you? To sense the same feelings from them, regardless of where you differ from each other?
Doesn’t all that sound just a bit too good to possibly be true?
But what if it isn’t…what if it’s not only possible, but actually available and within reach?
What… if?
This book suggests how to put yourself into this picture.
We don’t see this picture right now, because we’re surrounded by limitations that are exo-generic; that is, our limitations have been working their way into our subconsciousness for generations, through the well-intentioned activity of others, as well as shared cultural conditioning.
Our minds and memories limit us, reminding us of our bad habits, telling us that we can’t achieve the things we desire, or replay the tapes of our (supposed) misdeeds or mistakes. Cultural conditioning limits us, demanding that we seek approval, ensuring that we get stressed over the smallest details. Religion limits us through a diversity of rules that often conflict with our own thoughts.
We live in separate, individual worlds patterned around particular sets of beliefs and rules which seem to force conflict, resentment, anger and violence on us.
The truth is that no belief system can grant true freedom.
Every single belief is a limiting system.
This book is about removing those limitations. This means taking a thoughtful look at what and how we believe, because it is our beliefs that drive our emotions and relationships with others. Our thoughts are the natural extension of our beliefs and therefore are the triggers of how we respond to the ‘other’, regardless of who that is.
If we believe that people of color, or specific religious tribes, or political polarities are untrustworthy, our thoughts will enable our conversations and reactions to demonstrate that we actually believe togetherness is impossible. Until we resolve the diversity that has kept us apart for so long, that is how it will be.
In other words, limiting thoughts LIMIT US!
Togetherness cannot ever be made obvious when our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are contradictory to what we say we want to experience. Being part of the togetherness movement requires an underlying belief system that does not—cannot—limit our ability to relate openly and authentically with others.
At the foundation of all sectarian, exclusive, limited and delimited beliefs is a subtle but powerful Private Conversion Process (PCP) that assumes and then demands, there is a right and wrong way to believe.
Ultimately, this engenders a ‘control streak’ within the culture of such belief. At the easy end of this yardstick is a fairly gentle (but still insidious) attitude of “ you have the right to your belief, but I prefer mine”.
At the harsh end of this stick is an in-your-face demand that in order to be a friend and get along, you must conform to something predetermined to be of importance—to somebody for some reason.
And I get to decide what that is!
Neither of these solutions is conducive to making togetherness obvious. The former leads to artificial and qualified friendships, at best. The later leads directly to confrontation and often violence.
Finding ways to let go of our limiting thoughts will lead us into some fascinating discoveries about the universe, our planet and ourselves. The problem is that we can seldom—if ever—simply let go of belief; it can only be replaced by a more believable, credible and effective belief system.
As this is being written in 2019, virtually every nook and cranny of our traditional belief systems are being openly and directly challenged by new information not available five or ten years ago. Healthcare, education, cosmology, soft and hard sciences and above all, religion, are all facing serious restructuring of the underlying belief systems that have held them together for so many years.
If limiting—and limited—beliefs can be allowed to make way for Twenty-First Century thinking, then we can easily participate in the creation of a togetherness-culture that truly works.
That is the ultimate reason behind this book. We’re only limited by the thoughts we insist on holding when confronted by newer, larger, more complete, updated and understood explanations for what we thought we believed for so long. While this process of exploring the new can be stressful at times, the end results are incredibly delightful.
I’ve tried to be candid about the process and if you wish, you can discontinue reading right now and get on with your life. But if you’re sufficiently curious to continue, then I’ll be honored to serve as your companion into this fascinating new world of togetherness and how to make it obvious.
If you can smile like a Cheshire Cat—do it and keep reading!
Moving Backward To Go Forward
“What would you risk dying for—and for whom—is perhaps the most profound question a person can ask themselves. The vast majority of people in modern society are able to pass their whole lives without ever having to answer that question, which is both an enormous blessing and a significant loss. It is a loss because having to face that question has, for tens of millennium, been one of the ways that we have defined ourselves as people. And it is a blessing because life has gotten far less difficult and traumatic than it was for most people even a century ago.”
~ Junger, Sebastian. Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging
According to Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, former Chief Rabbi of Great Britain, one of the things we tend to fear most is the stranger. In today’s world, especially the Westernized world, there’s more anthropological diversity on any given street in one of our cities, than a traveler in the 19th century would have encountered in a lifetime.
Largely due to this incredible diversity, the world and our culture appear to be fragmenting into confrontation, segmentation and confusion. Political rhetoric, economic confusion, ecological disaster and racial animosity lead the newscasts and demand our attention.
Our cosmopolitan, polyglot, ethnically diverse communities show increased tensions, fears and reactions. Bigotry among religious factions and many denominations continues to display its ugly nature.
Everybody seems to have ideas of who’s to blame, while nobody seems to have workable ideas on how to stem the tide of unrest and despair. And yet, all the great religious traditions place high value on loving the stranger. At a time like this, what does it mean to love the stranger? How do we talk about togetherness? Is it possible to accept that we are enhanced, increased and blessed by the stranger in our midst? If we can find the will to honestly and openly commune about any issue, where does it start, who leads out and what do we wish to happen?
It won’t be sufficient to hold more committee meetings and talk about finding common ground. For the most part, we’ve common-grounded ourselves out at first.
But I do think most people are ready for something new and different to enter the conversation. I’m often unprepared for the way in which opportunity shows itself for a different kind of interaction.
Making Togetherness Obvious is a distillation of my own journey from the darkness of despair, to the exhilaration of unleashed potential for wonder beyond comprehension. I’ll share aspects of my own journey as we collectively explore the basis of genuine, authentic togetherness in these early days of the twenty-first century.
This book is my attempt to join the dance. It is designed to be more catalyst than a blueprint. Dancing is a great metaphor, because it acknowledges the necessity of co-creation, blunders, attempts, cooperation, intuition and experimentation. A dance is never wrong, because it is never done. It is a journey of adventure, exploration and discovery, potentially leading to mutual delight and joy.
A short illustration comes to mind. My wife and I are local hosts for an Airbnb (online vacation rental) two-story home here in Bend, Oregon. The home was rented to three adults and a small child from China for a full month. They spoke absolutely no English and I spoke no Chinese! But we did fairly well with translator programs on our smart phones. Too bad I can’t be as smart as my phone!
Three days after their arrival, I stopped by to see if they needed anything. Imagine my consternation when I discovered our clean, neatly organized home had been transformed into chaos. Rugs had been removed, furniture re-arranged, the house filled with food and bedding piled everywhere; it looked like the home had been transformed into a camping site! My initial reaction was one of incomprehension. I felt taken advantage of, my expectations upended, the ability to order the situation out of control.
Frustrated, resentful and a bit fearful of the continued drama, I turned to a friend who had visited China, asking for advice. I didn’t get advice as much as a re-ordered mental state!
Our cultural differences were so incredibly different; it had never occurred to me that my reactions were the result of my own limited appreciation for someone else’s perceptions and expectations. These educated, cosmopolitan visitors were simply re-arranging our home to provide themselves a sense of comfort and welcome in a culture as foreign to them, as theirs was to us.
In the course of a thirty-minute conversation with my friend, a transformation occurred within me. Suddenly, my perceptions shifted 180 degrees as I tried to imagine myself suddenly deposited in the midst of a rural Chinese setting with no cultural bridges in place to soften the loneliness and strangeness encountered.
What insight! What a difference in my observational powers, living in comfort and parochial expectations. I suddenly found a whole new landscape of interaction unfolding before my startled scrutiny. I found myself exploring the edges of wonder, intrigue and hunger to understand more.
Incredibly, I found myself thinking of these foreigners as friends, as lovers of life, as fragile, precious gifts to me.
And, I begin the dance once again! Togetherness becoming tangible; obvious.
My Journey From Here To There & Back Again
My life began in 1940, in Spokane, Washington. By age five I was living on a wheat ranch in Eastern Washington, waiting for my Dad to migrate into college, then medical school and then to Southern Missouri as a country doctor.
Life was easy. No people of color in those parts to mar the tranquility of my unfolding youthfulness. In fact, it was with some pride that residents boasted of the expectation that no person of color was allowed to spend the night. No political turmoil that impinged on our lives. No awareness of gender identity issues. The Klu Klux Klan didn’t exist in our world. The only oddity was the need to travel 20
miles every Saturday to meet with other Seventh-day Adventists (SDA) for a generally boring, church service. That was our religious tribe of choice. I didn’t know of any other, except for disparaging remarks now and then about Baptists and Catholics.
There was comfort and security in knowing that our tribe was the one true group chosen by God, to help lead everyone to the Promised Land. From the age of eight, I somehow knew that I was to be a minister in this wondrous environment of truth and light.
This tragically myopic outlook persisted through college, seminary, a Masters of Divinity degree and the early years of pastoral experience in the Northwest. Life was good. A loving wife, two delightful children, a wonderful home on the edge of our Southern Oregon town and our fourth congregation who seemed to adore us and follow our guidance.
Until it wasn’t.
Years after college, I looked carefully and critically at the beliefs and doctrines that made our worldwide denomination unique. Not content to arrive at my own conclusions in my youthful zeal, I began to engage others in discussion regarding my discoveries.
No, I wasn’t fired.
But after a year of persistent questions for which no one had answers, it became obvious I could no longer in good conscience, be a pastor. When I requested an indefinite leave of absence from church administration officials, it was immediately granted without discussion.
I expected that result. What I didn’t expect was the aftermath experienced from church members, classmates, friends and leaders.
A large percentage of our 250 members expressed disbelief, denial, remonstration and then anger. I hadn’t absconded with church funds; I didn’t have an affair with the choir director; and I hadn’t been tried and found guilty of any misdemeanor or crime against the church.
So how could I possibly decide to no longer believe? It was simply inconceivable to most and utterly unacceptable to some. Within a few short weeks we found ourselves isolated from long-term friends, classmates and teammates from the ministry and totally ignored by all higher officials within our life-long denomination.
For the first time I encountered isolation. Deadening, fearful, heart-numbing isolation and loneliness.
How does all this figure into a passion for togetherness? What diabolic plan did God have in mind for a mid-thirties white guy who was just discovering what much of the world already knew—that isolation, marginalization and separation was becoming the norm for much of the world?
I survived the next twenty-five years, enjoyed a few coworkers during my attempts at survival, but no friends. As the isolation continued, I withdrew into my inner silence, accompanied by outer frustration and deepening despair. This all contributed to years of personal behavior I could never before have imagined.
And then I really messed up my tidy world. I bumped into the Universe through the magic of, The Dancing Wu Li Masters by Gary Zukav. Then it was The Twelfth Planet by Zecharia Sitchin. Following those were a host of other books introducing me to Quantum Physics, New Cosmology and Neurophysiology, to mention but a few.
The bottom line is that I gradually came to understand just how limited and outdated my perception of life on planet Earth really was.
By 2010 it was clear to me that everything I thought I knew and trusted was no longer valid! I found a new explanation for this confusion: I3
information. This means everything I think I know and trust is Incomplete, Inaccurate and/or Incorrect!
As we moved into this tumultuous century, the rest of the world began to resemble my own disorientation. It became increasingly obvious that I needed a more comprehensive understanding of how things are supposed to work, rather than taking for granted what others had been telling me was the way things are.
Now I come to the crux of this chapter as viewed through the lens of a contemplative, meditative experience.
It’s so quiet, there is no instrument that can pick up a single sound. And it’s dark; no, not dark, it’s absolutely black. I’m alone in the midst of it all with no idea where I am or why I’m here.
I remember sitting down in a comfortable beige recliner in my office to meditate for a bit and the next thing I’m aware of is being in the middle of nowhere, listening to nothing, seeing nothing and feeling quite strange, as though expecting something noteworthy. But what?
I did remember that in my altered meditative condition I suddenly began rising from my chair and moving outward from my planet at an incredible speed. The sky was awesome, incandescent with riotous color and combinations of stars, galaxies and universes. There was even sound, sort of the sound of a background music, very faint and non-recognizable but soothing and comforting.
And now there’s nothing except the awareness that I am … somewhere.
And suddenly, without warning or preparation I am surrounded by an intense fireball of incredible, stupendous intensity. There’s no sense of what it is, where it came from, or why I’m watching it. I seem to be in it, but not of it. There’s no fear but a sense of wonder as I somehow understand I’ve traveled backward in time to watch the birth of my universe!
There’s more to this vision, or dream, or hallucination and the rest of the story may unfold for you within this chapter. I do know that when I came back into consciousness within the folds of my favorite chair, the world seemed somehow different. I cannot explain in words and I don’t know how to pull you within my mind so you can sense what I sense.
Public And Private Revelation
What you’ve just read is an example of private revelation. I know you probably haven’t encountered this term before, so let me explain.
I am deeply indebted to Michael Dowd, author of Thank God for Evolution (2009) for bringing this to my attention. It continues to help form and shape my thinking on most everything.
‘Revelation’ has two primary applications as indicated from a Google Search: A surprising and previously unknown fact, especially one that is made known in a dramatic way e.g. revelations about his personal life and the divine or supernatural disclosure to humans of something relating to human existence or the world .
This conversation may be unsettling to some because it includes the tricky issues of belief, faith, world view, theology, philosophy and personal convictions. It’s not my intent to persuade you regarding any of this, only to point out the variety of perspectives available. Making togetherness obvious will have to make room for diversity, variety and alternatives at some point. Might as well get started!
Public revelation is the rapidly accumulating knowledge of the universe and our part in-and-of it. The evolutionary nature of this accumulation is largely scientific in nature and is subject to testing, argument, verifying, archiving, restoring and subject to peer review, competing theories and outright non-acceptance. It is built upon and extended in a never-ending stream of additional information, which often times adds to established understanding and other times appears to counter what came before.
Public revelation is not a matter of belief; it’s rather like gravity or air. It just is. But it’s always a progression of connected factoids that invite further open discussion, exploration, questions and verification
—or discarded through the arrival of new, sometimes contradictory data that also undergoes the strenuous rigors of examination.
We don’t believe in public revelation due to the very nature of the process. Public revelation stretches beyond 15 billion years into the past and stretches endlessly into an indefinite, infinite future.
I don’t believe in evolution for the reasons given above, but I do accept it as a theory; subject to verifiable evidence to the contrary.
There’s a vast difference between belief and acceptance.
Private revelation is a totally different issue. It makes claims about reality that primarily flow from personal experience, some of it very persuasive and compelling. Such claims cannot be verified, proven, or even empirically questioned. They are one-person, one-time occurrences, distorted and obscured by the passage of time.
Thus, private revelation is either believed or not believed. Belief is the nature of private decisions which cannot be verified, duplicated, or tested. How we arrive at belief is covered more fully in chapter five, but for now, its enough to notice that most existing beliefs are not anti-scientific or anti-evolutionary, they are simply different ways of interpreting reality as it is being experienced at the moment.
Belief-based world views are generally the result of private revelations proposed within specific religious settings and over time (sometimes immediately) assume an authoritative level of importance reflective of the associated religious thinking.
The resulting chaos of such belief is evident within the recent history of our diverse cultural settings and pertinent to this conversation. Looking for the dynamic roots of authentic togetherness requires us to meet the issue of public and private revelation as it relates to the beginning of our deep-time story of human history, taking us back 15 billion years.
You may be among the millions who believe the private revelatory thoughts of 5000-plus-year-old people sharing their ideas of how reality appeared to work with regards to what they observed and experienced. I only ask you to hold your beliefs loosely enough to allow the possibility of different perspectives to arrive inside your mind. These may influence how you respond to the imperative that we humans learn to live peacefully with each other, regardless of the cost.
Until we can adjust our thinking about our beliefs, there will be little hope for the future. Those adjustments don’t mean you have to give up your cherished beliefs, but it may indicate you might want to investigate different ways of holding them. Nor does it mean that you have to accept new beliefs that are currently unthinkable for you. Just relax enough to allow alternatives to suggest themselves. I know how difficult that process can be; I experience it over and over.
It Starts With A Different Story
Each chapter will present one primary concept affecting the issue of making togetherness obvious. What won’t be so obvious is how much there is to know and understand beyond the chapter. That’s why there is a website dedicated to further exploration of these topics and concepts awaiting your interest. I encourage you to check out to stay current with classes, workshops and webinars. When accessing these offerings there will also be opportunity for interaction with others traveling the same road.
Sharing ideas, questions and insights will go a long way towards helping you integrate the ideas you encounter here and there. Many will be free of cost; some will not. You’re welcome to take advantage of whatever floats your boat.
In addition, you’ll find materials and a wide array of resources that you can download and for additional perusal.
The important concept for this chapter is our BIG history story. Our origin history. How and why we came to be human on this incredible little dot in the vastness of an expanding universe and what it means to be human; Homo sapiens. More specifically, what it means to be more fully human, to be aware of how special you are as a human who understands the awesome powers entrusted to you.
Homo sapiens refers to all classifications of humans now on the planet, as opposed to earlier forms such as Homo Neanderthalis, which is no longer available to us. The earliest confirmed human fossil is considered to be at least 300,000 years old, but there’s no certainty it is actually from the Homo sapiens line.
I don’t intend to enter that discussion here, because it’s not germane to our primary goal; understanding how we came to be, not really when we came to be. Today’s reality includes the fact that most people don’t and haven’t given this information much attention.
I propose that’s exactly why our cultures are so prone to attack each other, either emotionally or literally.
Unfortunately, most conversations regarding our origin-stories are either directly, or by inference, defined along religious lines of thought.
Continuing will invariably result in deepening the rifts between us as humans. The story of how we came to be is part of how everything came into existence. Discovering these far-reaching dynamics will provide the basis for understanding, accepting and celebrating the vast diversity and variety of our species. Without it, I fear Homo Sapiens may become as extinct as the dodo! We’ve already developed a good start moving in that direction. All of the aforementioned difficulties of our time seem to flow from one inescapable fact; we resent our diversities and continually seek to find some common ground that can be used for communication and cooperation.
As I used to hear from my country neighbors in southern Missouri:
“Sorry! That dog doesn’t hunt!” In other words, we’ve been trying to achieve an impossible outcome with the tools which no longer function, but we’re using them anyway. All human interaction is based on beliefs and those beliefs are constantly and continually changing.
Looking for common ground in spite of our diversities turns out to be the exact opposite of effective communication.
What comes next may be the most critical and important premise of our lives! Diversity is the basis for our commonality. This is not just an idea I’m trying to float past your thought processors. It happens to be a basic tenant of the universe and the key to making togetherness obvious. If we can truly grasp this immense potential, it has the ability to radically change the ways in which we interact with each other.
So, let me lay it out for you in simple language and you be the judge as to whether it makes sense or not. Either it will, or it won’t and the outcome is okay with me. Our common origin story is as old as stardust and as new as today’s headlines. Approximately fifteen billion years ago, in a place that was no place at all, an explosive arrival of energy suddenly appeared and began forming a universe. Generally referred to as The Big Bang (TBB), it was simply the arrival of energetic particles exhibiting intense movement and heat.
In the first nanosecond of TBB, all that existed were a few elemental energy particles: mostly quarks, mesons, baryons and some x-particles.
This energy was a roiling, boiling, rapidly-expanding, intense, hot event experienced throughout what was becoming the universe. One moment there was absolutely nothing (an inconceivable idea) and the next second, there it is!
Be sure you get this: Through an almost mystical process, only a few kinds of elemental energy particles turn into everything, which now exists throughout the universe!
By the second or third nanosecond, quarks were dancing, mating and forming new energy particles! (Hey! It was a lusty time!) At one minute the incredible process creates hydrogen; three minutes later helium forms: then ... not much for the next three hundred eighty thousand years or so. During that slowly expanding period, the universe was cooling down to enable further particle-interactions.
What’s important for this exploration is that everything other than energy comes from energy. Starting with hydrogen and helium, this creative energy force becomes all other elements through the intricate process of the evolutionary principle. At no single point within the 15-billion-year process was, or is, there an outside action of something new being added to the mix. Everything appearing within the universe was and still is, the result of a natural force at work with existing elements. That force is called evolution.
But it was also something else. It was a creative energy mix that showed immediate evidence of communication and interaction, along with some additional characteristics that are only now beginning to filter into our collective human minds.
Somewhere around twelve or thirteen billion years later, as our planet’s hominoid inhabitants began their own slow march towards the stars, individuals began assigning meaning to the observations of their surroundings, eventually attached names and descriptions to these observations that further enhanced human communication interaction. These names and descriptions are still with us.
Today, those early labels now include such terms as God, angels, spirits, right, wrong, fear, resentment, anger, violence and of course, worship. The most important of these early labels, at least for an exploration of togetherness, is the concept-label of God. It was this label that is directly responsible for so many diverse beliefs which now make it impossible for us to actually interact with each other in meaningful, effective and lasting ways.
But, coming back to our new story; I’m not suggesting that we attempt doing away with these deeply-entrenched, long-used communicative tools. That would be entirely impossible at this stage of human history. I am suggesting something far more radical and potentially immensely more useful.
Let’s begin concentrating on the part of this new origin story that can actually contribute to our search for obvious togetherness!
Pay Attention To The Actual Story
I realize this will be an unaccustomed stretch for many. I’m not asking you to give up any belief that is important to you. I am asking you to consider some additional information that could be of benefit within the belief structures you currently hold. Your beliefs aren’t at risk here; there’s only a question of maturity; the capability of exploring additional information.
Through deep-time eyes—the scientific data able to reconstruct the billions of years involved—the story of our human origin resolves what appears to be an insurmountable challenge for our generation: the problem of human diversity.
Observing societal activity around us, it would appear as though most everyone believes the world would be better if we only could agree on things; especially those things we feel are important. Of course, that pesky diversity stuff rears its troublesome head immediately.
Because we don’t generally acquire deep-time awareness until later in life, if ever, we have no way to see human interaction from the vantage point of the universe. Throughout endless generations, our species has accepted stories that only reflect the perception that diversity is something to be struggled with, to be overcome. In reality, diversity is our greatest gift from whatever label you choose to describe God, or the universal mind. The actual story is delightfully different. Two things bring life to this story.
First, from the initial moment of The Big Bang, we can now interpret evidence of a plan that was always in motion. Scientifically, we refer to this plan as evolution, but it is so much more than that.
For most people, the idea of evolution assumes a mindless, chaotic, flow of accidental development that somehow, mystically and slowly, allows the formation of stars, stardust, galaxies and life itself.
The actual story, which I like to refer to as evolution’s footsteps or evolution’s arrow, paints a new picture, a new story. Scientific data tells us a story of purpose and process. It’s not a purpose that fits human description or understanding, but purpose nevertheless.
Observable processes over eons of time indicate such a startling purpose that the sum total of all religious attempts at describing it have crumbled into dust, becoming obsolete and ineffective.
Second, this universal mindfulness, now obviously evident from the very beginning, is a self-creating evolutionary energy that continually grows, matures and endlessly replicates itself in every aspect of physical manifestation. And it does this through an infinity of ever-increasing diversity! Diversity, in its simplest description, is the divine (if you will allow it) creation of simply—More!
More of everything, in every possible way, over endless billions of years, without deviation or completion. In other words, human diversity is the very nature of God, or the Universal Spirit, or the divine wind of creation, doing its thing tirelessly and unceasingly.
This is the plan of the Universe. Its purpose is to allow exploration of itself through endless diversity, allowing everything coming into existence to make choices between what is desired and what is not.
Focusing attention (energy) on what is desired allows the creative power of the Universal Mind to bring into existence the next better step, the next logical outcome, the next experience of enjoying the result of More showing up in new and delightful ways.
The plan and the purpose are always

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