Summary of Albert Ellis & Arthur Lange's How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons

Everest Media

Description

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 There are only three things that humans can do: think, feel, and act. We are constantly thinking, feeling, and acting, and we must learn how to direct and control our responses to those who push our buttons.
#2 There are four main screwball feelings: excessive anxiety, anger/defensiveness, depression/burnout, and guilt. If you get excessively anxious, you will not handle that situation effectively. If you get excessively angry, you will not handle it well.
#3 When you are overreacting, you are making yourself excessively guilty. When you are excessively guilty, others can manipulate you, and you will make decisions for all the wrong reasons.
#4 The ABC’s are a model that I developed in 1955 when I began practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the first of today’s cognitive behavior therapies. They represent specific people and things that could push your buttons. The two types of Activating Events are major crises like flood, famine, disease, or war, and daily hassles, frustrations, worries, problems, decisions, and difficult people.

Sujets

• Santé et bien-être
• Bien-être émotionnel
• Bien-être émotionnel
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Bien-être
• Self-Management
• Anger Management
• Self Control

Informations

• Publié par: Everest Media LLC
• Date de parution: 27 avril 2022
• Nombre de lectures: 0
• EAN13: 9781669393931
• Langue: English
• Poids de l'ouvrage: 1 Mo

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Insights on Albert Ellis & Arthur Lange's How to Keep People from Pushing Your Buttons
Contents Insights from Chapter 1 Insights from Chapter 2 Insights from Chapter 3 Insights from Chapter 4 Insights from Chapter 5 Insights from Chapter 6 Insights from Chapter 7 Insights from Chapter 8 Insights from Chapter 9 Insights from Chapter 10 Insights from Chapter 11
Insights from Chapter 1

#1

There are only three things that humans can do: think, feel, and act. We are constantly thinking, feeling, and acting, and we must learn how to direct and control our responses to those who push our buttons.

#2

There are four main screwball feelings: excessive anxiety, anger/defensiveness, depression/burnout, and guilt. If you get excessively anxious, you will not handle that situation effectively. If you get excessively angry, you will not handle it well.

#3

When you are overreacting, you are making yourself excessively guilty. When you are excessively guilty, others can manipulate you, and you will make decisions for all the wrong reasons.

#4

The ABC’s are a model that I developed in 1955 when I began practicing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, the first of today’s cognitive behavior therapies. They represent specific people and things that could push your buttons. The two types of Activating Events are major crises like flood, famine, disease, or war, and daily hassles, frustrations, worries, problems, decisions, and difficult people.

#5

The A’s are a series of events that can push our buttons. We all have our own individual set of button-pushers. Some are positive, and some are negative.

#6

I was once delayed at the airport, and while I was waiting, I saw a poster of the members of an urban guerrilla group wanted for blowing up a plane. I realized that I looked like one of them, so I hurried through the airport.

#7

I was supposed to give a speech in Munich, but the airline canceled the flight due to fog. I ended up in Berlin instead, and slept in an empty compartment. When I woke up, the train had started up, so I jumped off and landed in the middle of Germany.

#8

The C’s are your feelings and behaviors at Point A, which is the situation that occurs when you overreact. If you are trying to get to an important meeting or appointment, and you run into some unexpected traffic on the freeway, you might become anxious, agitated, and angry.

#9

The first point in the model is that feelings largely cause behavior. The way you feel and how strongly you feel greatly influence how you will act in a given situation. If you get yourself overly anxious, angry, and upset about getting somewhere, you will likely drive like a nut.

#10

A’s do not cause C’s, but B’s do. We constantly say to our kids, You’re driving me crazy! But A’s by themselves don’t cause C’s. The way we think in response to a specific person or situation will largely determine how we respond emotionally and behaviorally at Point C.

#11

The second major principle for keeping people from pushing your buttons is that it is not what is actually, verifiably true at Point A that matt