The Natural Brilliance of the Soul
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"Dr. Hatanaka's exhaustive research and analysis have resulted in a book that should be an essential tool for those professionals who are assisting our soldiers having difficulties adjusting to life after the stress of service in a war zone. Likewise, soldiers, their families, and their friends experiencing difficulties understanding their own feelings and frustrations would benefit from taking the time to read this practical toolbox of ideas."
--Lewis MacKenzie, CM, OOnt, MSC and Bar, CD Major-General (Ret'd)

Jan Hatanaka, PhD, is the founder of Grief Reconciliation International Inc. Her pragmatic approach to grief and reconciliation is informed by her personal experience; her extensive academic research on the universality of grief and loss; and her in-depth discussions with hundreds of individuals willing to recount their personal stories when faced with significant grief. She has a Bachelor of Science degree in Nursing from the University of Ottawa, a Master's degree in Education and Counselling Psychology from the University of Toronto, and a PhD in Theology from the University of Wales.

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Date de parution 20 octobre 2013
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THE NATURAL BRILLIANCE OF THE SOUL
THE NATURAL BRILLIANCE OF THE SOUL
A SOLDIER’S STORY OF WAR AND RECONCILIATION
Jan Hatanaka, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2013 by Jan Hatanaka
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher.
Published in 2013 by
BPS Books
Toronto & New York
www.bpsbooks.com
A division of Bastian Publishing Services Ltd.
ISBN 978-1-927483-66-4 (paperback)
ISBN 978-1-927483-68-8 (ePDF)
ISBN 978-1-927483-67-1 (ePUB)
Cataloguing-in-Publication Data available
from Library and Archives Canada.
Cover: Angel Guerra
Cover photograph: Finnbarr O’Reilly. Used by
permission of Thomson Reuters.
Text design and typesetting: Tannice Goddard
Author photograph: Kevin Robbins
This book would not have been possible without the special contribution of Bobby Hatanaka, who devoted countless hours editing, refining, and helping to draw out the essential elements of the story .
Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
My Hope for Soldiers Reading This Book
1 Doing What Needs to Be Done: Surviving
2 Systems Check: Assessing Physical, Psychological , Spiritual, and Social Status
3 Taking the Uniform Off: Revealing and Respecting Depression
4 The Choice: The Epiphany of Despair
5 The Battlefield Has Changed: Acceptance
6 Execution of Strategy: Acquiring Resources — Physical , Psychological, Spiritual, and Social
Epilogue
Acknowledgments
The Natural Brilliance of the Soul : A Soldier’s Story of War and Reconciliation is the result of the generous and thoughtful cooperation of key American and Canadian military personnel and their loved ones. Thank you for your input throughout the writing process, verifying just how important it is for this story to be told.
It is with deep gratitude that I also express thanks to:

My husband Bill, for your unwavering love and support, which empowers and enables me to pursue this work. Thank you for your inspiring commitment to unifying initiatives and to the powerful concept of “one world.”
Ryan-James, thank you for your thoughtful creative direction.
Abigail and Victoria, thank you for the joy you bring us every day.
My parents, for your continued guidance.
The intrepid friends and readers who helped me at various stages of this project: Tia and George Cooper, Judi Cohen, Jon Levy, Alan O’Connor, Dave Lincoln, Tyson Johnson, and Fraser Milne.
Sara Jackman and Lauri Cabral, for your professional insights and criticism, delivered with such kindness.
My editor, Don Bastian, for working alongside me all the way from concept to final book, editing draft after draft until the story became clear.
Margie McCain, for connecting my first book — The Choice: Finding Life in the Face of Adversity — with the needs of our military families.
David Thomson, for your countless, and timely, inspirations.
Angel Guerra, for your insight, creative coordination, generosity of spirit, and ongoing commitment to the greater good.
Introduction
In the early years of my career, I trained as a nurse in a large hospital for the armed forces. That is where I was introduced to the reality of the gap experienced by those who have served their country — the gap between the battlefield and the society they come back to. The stories I heard tested me deeply and spurred my conviction to engage in this issue. My interactions with veterans became a major plank in the foundation of my career and my life.
After my early training, I spent years conducting extensive academic and practical research on the universality of grief and loss. This research included discussions with hundreds of individuals, both inside and outside the military, who were willing to recount their personal experiences when faced with significant grief.
The most important thing I have learned, personally and professionally, is that grief and grief reconciliation are two very different things. We grieve in response to the loss of someone or something we hold dear. While the topic of grief is more commonly discussed these days, the reconciliation of that grief has received much less attention. The challenge that our veterans face includes not just the grief they’re experiencing but also the necessity of reconciling their grief as large and dangerous gaps have formed in their lives: between their life on the battlefield and their life at home; between the person they were when they left for war and the person they are now.
By collaborating with individuals who have suffered and been transformed by their grief, as well as with front-line practitioners and academic researchers, I have developed an innovative, accessible, holistic approach to help individuals identify and work through the complex challenges of the grieving process. I call this the Grief Reconciliation Process.
The stages in the process are broad, interfaith, cross-cultural, and interdisciplinary in nature. Sequentially, they are:

• Surviving
• Assessing — physical, psychological, spiritual, and social status
• Depression
• Epiphany of Despair
• Acceptance
• Acquiring Resources — physical, psychological, spiritual, social

THE GRIEF RECONCILIATION PROCESS I Surviving II Assessing — Physical, Psychological, Spiritual, Social III Depression IV Epiphany of Despair V Acceptance VI Acquiring Resources — Physical, Psychological, Spiritual, Social

• The dotted black circle reveals what can happen if one does not learn to reconcile grief.
• The solid path reveals how one can learn to reconcile grief.

Copyright © 2011, 2008 by Jan Hatanaka
The purpose of this book is to help guide individuals through the Grief Reconciliation Process so they can formulate a grief reconciliation strategy that fits their experience and situation.
The Grief Reconciliation Process introduces a common language and process through which previously disparate groups can come together to share the knowledge and wisdom they have acquired.
The book is intended for four main communities of readers:

• Soldiers home from the battlefield . I believe this story will help soldiers begin to understand their suffering in a way that enables them to build a productive strategy for moving forward
• Soldiers’ loved ones . Matt’s story can equip soldiers’ spouses, children, parents, siblings, and friends with the tools they need to examine and understand their own grief as they support military personnel
• Members of the helping professions . Matt’s story provides a field guide for medical, psychological, spiritual, and social workers — a guide for interacting not only with the soldiers themselves and their families but also with one another so they can provide soldiers with the benefits of team care
• Those who care about the men and women who serve our country , and are asking, “What can I do?”
My Hope for Soldiers Reading This Book
I have heard dozens of soldiers say, “I am more concerned about the transition back home than I was about going over. I hope things will be okay.”
But hope is not a strategy. In the words of a senior member of the military team, “If you don’t have a vision, you can’t create a strategy.” The military sequence for success in battle – vision, mission, strategy, and tactics – is precisely what’s required to reconcile grief.
I am telling Matt’s story to provide you with a field guide to sort through the challenges of life back home – to help you develop a personal coming home strategy.
The story you’re about to read is based on some tough, troubling, and truthful conversations that I was privileged to have with a young soldier back from his second tour in Afghanistan. To protect his privacy, I have not used his real name. Furthermore, his story is a composite of the stories of many soldiers who have shared their experiences with me. The person you will meet had the courage to face his grief over seeing some of the worst things that human beings do to one another; his grief over the broken connection he experienced with his spouse and family; and his grief over returning to a society seeded with some land mines of its own.
Matt and I met over the course of several months. Sometimes he spoke without stopping; sometimes he halted mid-sentence and stared beyond me at a scene that had come back to him. He spoke about the compassionate yet violent nature of man. He tried to describe the indescribable things he had seen; the unimaginable things he had felt; the unforgettable things he had done. He wondered aloud how all this could have been the outcome of simply wanting to help.
While the story is told from the perspective of a twenty-eight-year-old infantry soldier, the grief reconciliation process outlined in this book can help you whether you serve or have served on land, on a ship, in the cockpit of an aircraft, or here at home, and whether in active battle or a support role. The details of Matt’s story may be different from yours, but the essence of his story may be similar.
This field guide is based on the Grief Reconciliation Process ( GRP ), which I have developed with the help of my sessions with soldiers. (See the GRP model, page 3 .) This mod

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